If you think that your relationship is not going very well but you don’t know if you can benefit from an intervention just yet, here are a few signs you may need marriage counseling. Every relationship requires a lot of hard work, sacrifices and the willingness to adapt to your partner’s behavior. A therapist will provide you the tools to manage the challenges in your marriage, it will help you improve your communication skills and increase the intimacy in your relationship. Being happily married is not easy, but one of the best ways to rekindle the romance in your relationship is by seeking help from a specialist. Here are a few signs you may need marriage counseling that you should consider:
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1. Poor Communication
One of the most important signs you may need marriage counseling that you should pay attention to is the fact that you realize you have trouble communicating with your significant other. Whether it’s about everyday things or important issues, the fact that you just can’t talk about anything with your spouse should convince you that you may need the help of a specialist to solve the problem.
2. You Keep Secrets from Each Other
Everyone has the right to privacy but when you are married, you shouldn’t keep any secrets because in the long term, this can endanger your relationship and your spouse will lose all trust in you. If you feel the need to hide all kinds of things from your spouse or if they are doing the same with you, then perhaps you should see a therapist.
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3. You Keep Having the Same Fights
If you and your spouse keep having the same arguments over and over again and you just can’t seem to reach an agreement, then a marriage counselor can maybe help you solve your problems. This is a clear sign that you are not communicating properly and without good communication, compromise is sometimes impossible.
4. You Think about Having an Affair
If you often contemplate the possibility of having an affair, then something is not going well in your marriage. It’s okay to have fantasies but if they happen way too often and you just can’t seem to get rid of them, then you should do something to fix your relationship, since this may be a signal that your unhappiness has reached a desperate level..
5. Violence
Well, this is a very clear sign that you may need marriage counseling. If a partner or a couple become physical with each other that this is a warning sign that shouldn’t be ignored. This kind of behavior will not only damage a relationship but also individual well-being. Violence is never the answer to anything.
6. If You Feel Emotionally Neglected
If you often feel emotionally neglected and if your marriage turns stale, then go and seek the help of a therapist. Marriage should be fun, exciting and passionate and if you are dealing with all kinds of relationship problems, a counselor can help you rekindle the spark in your marriage.
7. When Affection is Withheld as Punishment
If you or your spouse often get upset over small things and if you usually withhold affection as a punishment, then you should consider seeking the help of a marriage counselor. Giving the silent treatment is never a good idea and if one of the partners starts acting like a “parent” or like a “punisher”, then your relationship is out of balance.
Being happily married is not that easy. It requires a lot of hard work, sacrifices and a lot of compromises. Have you ever been to marriage counseling? Do you know any other signs that someone may need marriage counseling? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!
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Comments
Elena: All of the above exept number 4, I need help fast, very good information, every couple carry one of these needs in their relationship, in my case almost all of them. @melissa it can happen, everything is depend how bad is the relationship.
Tanvir: It's unfortunate how things change after marriage..."we/us" becomes"I/me &you;"..sad but true..
Joyeva: Men indeed are not worth it. Seems courtship is sweeter than marriage. I life my life in pain and regret, seems if u show a man how much u love him. He takes advantage of it, thinkin that you er a fool. Am really thinkin of what to do next.
Zanna: Melissa, that must feel terrible! So, you only get love if you "behave"??
Melissa: very good article! withholding affection...hmmm. I never thought it could or would be possible between two people that truly care. but, fact is it is. my husband does so, he withholds sex, stating that the things I do that he hates make him lose desire. when I the other hand, believes that that's a strong way thing to incorporate after any sort of disagreement to make each other understand that nothing will get between us. opinions????
Evelien: same here melissa... i too get punished when i have misbehaved, by days and days of not touching me or really talking to me...
Fifi: I have been with my partner 12 years we've defo had our ups and downs. More downs than ups. last year I found sexually explicit emails on my partners phone with a work colleague. I became suspicious as she was always brought into the topic of conversation, I have rang him and she's been with him in the car etc.. when she had no need to be. so my gut was screaming at me so I checked his works phone. once I confronted him about it I was the bad guy for checking his phone, he accused me of having an affair with my own boss. with whom ive exchanged silly messages with at times, but this had been a group msg with other work colleagues and I have never hidden this from him, I've always been honest about it. so now I'm a bad mother, I'm lazy, and the can imagine the rest of the comments I've had if him. I was diagnosed with endometriosis last year so our personal life was less intimate due to the drugs i was given as treatment with made my sex drive drop and have me menopausal symptoms, so as you can imagine I've not had the best time. at the time where I really did need his support I get all this abuse. he never apologised to me until I prompted a conversation about it again, to try to explain the hurt he had caused me as well as the emotional abuse he's placed on my shoulders too.. lots of things have happened over the years and I think this is the last straw, my feelings for him have really changed, I've built up a brick wall so that he can't attack me with his comments anymore. I've def become emotionally and physically detached from the relationship. he'll treat me to a meal once I prompted a conversation about how little time we do actually spend together. I just look at him now and feel like he's a bully and tries to control me, my money and my life. feel like I'm stuck in a massive rut. I can't save any kind of money as out finances are calculated to the last penny. 😢 feel very alone
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