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7 Signs You've Found the One ...

By Rosalina

If you're in a relationship and it's getting serious, you might be looking for signs you've found the one. There are definitely some ways to know whether you have found your partner for life that will help you decide whether to carry on or call it a day. When you're in the relationship bubble, it's sometimes difficult to see the reality, but these signs you've found the one may help you open your eyes to what is really there and whether it's worth pursuing further.

1 Conversations

Look at the conversations you're having and see whether your partner includes you in any future plans. If it's all 'me me me' rather than 'we we we,' then you may want to consider whether this person sees the relationship going anywhere. If the conversations include future plans where both of you are involved, then this may be one of the signs you've found the one.

2 Compatibility

Of course, opposites sometimes attract and couples don't always share the same interests. Just because your partner is an avid angler and you wouldn't be seen dead in a pair of waders, that doesn't mean the relationship is doomed to fail. You should consider your compatibility in terms of activities and values though. Do you share the same values? Does your partner seem to be interested in your passions and interests? Do they seem genuinely interested in what you do? If they don't, it might be time to question your compatibility.

3 Pathways

One of the things to question is whether you're traveling along the same pathways. I know that people change and it's very difficult to say where you're going to be in five years, but if one of you envisions a life of traveling and seeing the world whilst the other envisions wedding bells and babies, you may not be on the same trajectory and it's best to be honest from the outset.

4 Private and Public

Consider how this person treats you in private and public. Is he or she proud to be around you and do they brag about you to their friends, or do they avoid being seen with you and say very little to their friends about you? Are they secretive or ashamed to be seen with you? If so, perhaps you need to question whether they have something to hide? These can sometimes be telltale signs.

5 Trust

Yes, honesty really is the best policy when it comes to relationships. Do you feel as though you can trust this person or is there a question mark hanging over everything they say and do? This can of course say a lot about you and your ability to trust someone, as you may have been hurt before, but it can also speak volumes about them and how vulnerable they make you feel. It's therefore important to trust your intuition, but avoid spending time trawling though their emails and text messages as you might look a little neurotic and paranoid. If you suspect something, just ask them!

6 Passion Fades

Remember, the passion can fade over time and when the day to day drudgery of life and all its pressures takes hold, it can sometimes spell the end of the sizzling nights under the stars. What you should be left with, however, is someone you can trust, depend upon and whose company you genuinely enjoy. Consider whether this is just infatuation or whether this has a longer lifespan.

7 Communication

Communication is key and discussing what you want and where you see things going can sometimes put the doubts you have to bed. It may be that they have similar concerns, but if you communicate it can ensure that you can resolve any issues and have a healthy and happy relationship that will pass the test of time.

Sometimes we need to trust our intuition, and if something just doesn't feel right then ask yourself why. Does anyone else have any hints and tips for deciding whether you have found your life partner?

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