You might be wondering, what are the things happily married women know about men that makes them so successful in their marriages? What secret weapons do they use? After I did my research, I found out that there are in fact a few interesting secrets or, better said, things happily married women know about men, things you should know too in order to one day have the marriage you always dreamed of.
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1. You’re Marrying His Entire Family
While most single women tend to focus only on their partner or on their partner’s needs, married women know that, if they want their marriage to always be as happy as it was in the beginning, they must be aware of the fact that once they married their husband, they married his entire family too. This is one of the things happily married women know about men and I do believe that you should know it too. If you want to win the love of a man, you should first gain the respect and appreciation of his family.
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Embracing your husband's family doesn't mean losing your independence or identity; it's about inclusivity. Remember that family gatherings, holidays, and significant events will now involve these new relatives. Building a rapport and showing genuine interest in them strengthens the family bond and, by extension, your marriage. Achieving harmony with in-laws isn't always seamless, but compromise and understanding go a long way. Love isn't just shared between two people; it radiates within the whole family. Cherish those connections, and you'll find your relationship with your spouse deepens as well.
2. Your Husband Can’t Satisfy All Your Needs
Most married women know that your husband, no matter how hard he would try, can’t possibly meet all your emotional needs. So, don’t be too demanding, because you could make your man feel like a failure and in time, he could even distance himself from you. A lot of women want their husbands to figure out what are their emotional needs and then meet them. Well, that’s just not possible, so think again before you ask your man to do that!
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3. Laugh Together
I know marriage is a serious thing, but try to have fun along the way. I once read that “Laughing together will keep you together.” Try to make each other laugh as often as possible and keep your sense of humor. It will be easier to overcome your problems with a big smile on your face. Also, laughing is the best way to keep your love bond strong over the course of time. So, don’t forget to do that now and then, no matter how upset or exhausted you may feel!
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Sharing a good chuckle isn't just about momentary joy; it's like a glue bonding you over time. When you laugh together, you're reminding each other of the joy that exists amidst life's challenges. Men often express and share love through playful teasing and jokes, so joining in the laughter can help him feel appreciated and connected. Include humor in your daily interactions, and remember: playful banter can reignite that spark from your early days. And if you're feeling down, a dash of levity can be that welcomed ray of sunshine on a cloudy day. Don't underestimate the power of a shared giggle!
4. Know Your Husband
Another one of the secrets happily married women know about men is the fact that you really need to know your husband if you want to have a happy and fulfilled marriage. You must be aware of the fact that his needs do differ from your own and that he might have some qualities that annoy you, even if those qualities didn’t bother you so much when you were dating. By being aware of the things you don’t like that much about your husband, you will know how to take care of certain problems and how to resolve certain conflicts that may appear along the way.
5. Your Husband Has Emotional Needs Too
It’s really important to be aware of the fact that you are not the only one who has emotional needs. Your husband has them too, and they are just as important as your own. Try not to hurt his feelings next time you’re in a fight, just think about his feelings too and realize that they’re just as important as yours.
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Emotional support is a two-way street in any healthy relationship. Respect and empathy are crucial in understanding your husband's perspective. When he shares his struggles or vent ohis happiness, actively listen and offer reassurance. Remember, small gestures of appreciation can go a long way in validating his feelings and bolstering the emotional connection between you two. Open communication about each other's emotional needs will create a stronger, more empathetic bond, ensuring both partners feel valued and understood.
6. Don’t Forget Why You Love Him
After a while, in every relationship, you might tend to forget the reasons that made you fall madly in love with him. Try to remind yourself once in a while what exactly was it that made you love him. Was it his kindness or sensitivity or was it his gorgeous smile or his chiseled looks? Just take around 5 minutes every week to visualize your relationship and the things that made you fall deeply in love with him.
7. Compliment Him More Often
Everyone loves to feel appreciated and praised for their achievements, and it’s only logical that your man needs to hear that you admire him not only for his professional achievements but for the way he looks too. So, try to compliment him more often and remind him of the things that make him so special, things that made you fall madly in love with him.
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When you recognize the little things – whether it's his new haircut, the effort he puts into staying in shape, or the way he makes you laugh – your acknowledgement can boost his confidence and deepen your connection. It's the spontaneous "I love how your eyes crinkle when you smile" or "You're so good at fixing things" that can really make his day. Remember, it's not only about what you say, but how you say it. A genuine, affectionate compliment can go a long way in nurturing your relationship.
8. Give Him Space
Just like you, your man also needs his space. Don’t make him feel suffocated or clustered inside your relationship or marriage! Give him “guy time,” because just like you need to spend some quality time with your girlfriends, your man also feels the need to spend some time with the guys, drinking some beer, playing some pool or some video games. Don’t smother him; just give him his freedom! It’s the right thing to do.
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It's crucial to recognize that personal space is a sign of respect and trust. Allowing your partner to enjoy hobbies and activities that don’t include you isn't just generous; it's healthy for your relationship. It shows that you understand and value his individuality and his need to maintain connections with his friends. Remember, a man who feels trusted and supported is more likely to invest wholeheartedly in his relationship. So next time he plans a golf weekend with his buddies, consider it an opportunity for you to indulge in your personal interests too! Balance is the key to sustaining a joyful and fulfilling partnership.
9. Don’t Try to Change Him!
Happily married women know that they shouldn’t even try to turn their husbands into someone they’re not, because they are aware of both they’re qualities and their flaws and they accept them just the way they are, without trying to change them in any other way. Don’t forget, in time people do change, they evolve, they become better or worse. Just let him discover all by himself if there are things he needs to change, then just let life happen and blossom together!
These were the things I found out happily married women know about men. Do you know any other important things we single ladies need to know in order for our relationship to turn into a successful marriage? Please share your advice with us in the comments section!
Sources: growthtrac.com, blackloveadvice.com, cbn.com
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Laura: #5 Don’t hesitate to initiate lovemaking with him. Don’t let it be only when he starts. He will appreciate you all the more if he feels wanted physically by you in addition to other ways. It’s very important to him! Start by at minimum touching him often when you are talking with each other or even just sitting/standing next to each other. He needs to feel your physical warmth and caring for him.
Leaha: This is really on point!
Lisa: the important thing is when u married with different culture...
Jade: Not always true about his family. Sometimes he has to distance himself from them to be a decent person and if that\'s a condition for you that\'s ok. If he won\'t, it may be a deal breaker. I gave my in laws the benefit of the doubt even though they were not my style but when they actually tried to break us up I made the boundary. He should keep in touch with them but he needs to put me first or I am out.
Cara: These points are so important to know. When my husband and I have our moments I always remember to put myself in his shoes and look at it from his view point too. Also, if you come from completely different cultures have an understanding of his culture too it solves a lot :)
Leone: I\'m not even married and I can relate to all these stuff!
Brenda: That\'s true....
Laura: #3 This one is very important for both women and men to remember!
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