No matter your age, controlling yourself around your crush isn’t always an easy task. If you’re currently racking your brain trying to figure out how to talk to your crush, let alone keep your cool, this list will provide with all (okay, most) of the answers to help you avoid embarrassing yourself in front of your crush. (We’ve all been there, right ladies?)
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1. Don’t Go Cold
One of the biggest mistakes you can make when you have a crush is to completely ignore them. When you’re trying to act calm, cool, and collected, you could easily be coming off as cold. Just because you’re trying not to act crazy around your crush doesn’t mean that you have to act like he doesn’t exist, or even worse, that you hate him.
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When it comes to crushes, it can be difficult to know how to act. You want to make a good impression, but at the same time, you don’t want to come on too strong. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to completely ignore your crush. While it’s important to remain cool and collected, you don’t want to come off as cold or disinterested.
It’s natural to be a bit nervous around your crush, but try to stay calm and show your true personality. Talk to your crush like you would any other person, and don’t be afraid to show your sense of humor. It’s also important to be yourself and not try to act like someone you’re not.
It’s also important to be respectful and polite when talking to your crush. Don’t be too forward or overly intimate, as this can make your crush feel uncomfortable. Be mindful of your body language as well. Make sure you’re not crowding your crush or invading their personal space.
2. Be His Friend
I don’t usually give this advice to people with a crush, so let me explain just a little bit more. If you can’t figure out how to act around your crush without either completely shutting him out or acting like a crazy person, treat him like you would any of your friends. However, this can be a tricky balance. If you’re friends first, it might be even harder to lose them as a friend when you break up or lose feelings for each other.
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Having a crush on someone can be a thrilling, yet nerve-wracking experience. While it can be exciting to have feelings for someone, it can also be embarrassing if you don’t know how to act around them. To avoid any awkwardness, it’s important to remember to keep your cool and not let your emotions get the best of you.
One way to do this is to be friendly and treat them like you would any of your other friends. This will help you feel more comfortable and relaxed when you’re around them. However, it’s important to remember that there is a fine line between being friends and having romantic feelings for someone. If you’re friends first, it can be even harder to lose them as a friend when you break up or lose feelings for each other.
In addition to being friendly, it’s important to be mindful of your body language when you’re around your crush. Avoid fidgeting, making too much eye contact, or saying too much. Instead, try to keep your conversations brief and light, and focus on topics that you both enjoy. This will help create a more comfortable environment and make it easier to talk without feeling overwhelmed.
Frequently asked questions
Hey, it happens to everyone! First, take a deep breath and try to laugh it off. Remember, your crush is human too and likely understands. Show them you're confident by not letting it bother you too much.
It's totally normal! Sometimes, our nerves get the best of us because we care so much. Try to focus on being yourself rather than worrying too much about their impression of you.
Preparation can help! Try staying relaxed by thinking of what you'd like to talk about beforehand. Practice talking in front of a mirror or with a friend to build your confidence.
Absolutely! Many people find quirks and little awkward moments endearing. It shows you're genuine and not trying too hard to impress, which can be refreshing.
Give yourself some grace. Focus on the positives of the interaction and remind yourself that a single moment doesn’t define the entire relationship. They might not remember it as much as you think!
3. Don’t Obsess
The Internet is an easy place to get information. Don’t give into the temptation of cyber-stalking and learning too much about your crush. Not only is it just creepy, but it will also lead to issues in your possible relationship. Imagine how awkward it would be if he mentioned something about his cousin and you knew exactly who he was talking about? On top of all of that, it will also just build him up in your head as unapproachable as you learn more and more about via the Internet rather than from him.
4. Have a Reason to Talk to Him
Thanks to texting, one of the most common ways to start a conversation with someone is just by texting him, “Hey.” Maybe it’s just a pet peeve of mine, but I think that’s so boring. What’s going to happen when he text’s back? You’re going to exchange pleasantries and then the conversation is going to fall flat. It’s going to be a boring conversation. Don’t text him unless you see something that reminds you of him or have something you want to talk to him about. That way, the conversation will flow naturally.
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When it comes to talking to your crush, it can be an intimidating experience. You want to make sure that you make a good impression and don’t say something embarrassing. One way to make sure you have a successful conversation is to have a reason to talk to him.
Rather than just texting him “Hey”, think of something that you can talk to him about. It could be something that reminds you of him, such as a shared interest or hobby. It could also be something that you read or heard about that you think he would be interested in. This will help to keep the conversation going and make it more natural.
Another thing to keep in mind when talking to your crush is to be aware of your body language. Make sure you maintain eye contact and have an open and friendly posture. Smiling is also a great way to show that you are interested in the conversation.
It’s also important to be aware of your tone when talking to your crush. Try to avoid sounding too aggressive or too passive. Be confident and try to keep the conversation light and fun.
5. Be Confident
You don’t need to put yourself down because you’re in front of your crush. Rather than shy away and get nervous, be confident in front of your crush! Everyone is instantly more attractive when they have a little jolt of confidence!
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When it comes to being around your crush, it can be nerve-wracking. You may be nervous and anxious, and not sure how to act or what to say. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to make the situation more comfortable.
One of the most important things is to be confident. Don't be afraid to show your true self. Let your crush see the real you, and don't be afraid to be yourself. Speak up and don't be afraid to make eye contact. Showing confidence will make you more attractive and help you feel more in control of the situation.
Another tip is to be prepared. Before you meet your crush, take some time to think about what you want to say. Make sure you have topics of conversation in mind so that you don't feel awkward or tongue-tied. Also, try to dress in something that makes you feel confident. Your outfit can have a big impact on how you feel and how you come across.
6. Relax
The more you’re building things up in your mind, the more worried you’re going to be, and it’s going to show. Take a few deep breaths and relax. The more relaxed you are, the less pressure you’ll put on yourself.
7. Be Yourself
At the end of it all, don’t worry about what other people expect from you. Be yourself, and yes, that’s such a cliché, but when you want to attract someone else, do you want him to like you for you or for who you think he wants you to be?
What are your top tips for keeping your cool around your crush? Let me know all of your tricks in the comments!
Comments
Kendall: Thanks this helps a lot. I've been trying to figure out how to talk to my crush!
Megan: There's a fine line between playing hard to get & being totally off limits. Give a guy a break.
Vatonii: Great article! I've been giving my crush the cold shoulder, but it seems like it wasn't working.
Blondie_0407: Hey, how do you look at all of the tips/ideas?? I can only ever see the first one... @Vatonii @Kendall
Jazs: Wish i seen this b4 yesterday. This guy and i were getting so close but yesterday i completly ignored him now we havent spoken since
Arica: I know this is late but yeah. This info helped a lot. I was ignoring my crush completely when I have a chance with him. Hopefully I'll have the chance again to not mess up
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