So you’ve met a guy and he has a lot of qualities you look for in a partner — it's the perfect match. But even if it seems like you've landed a great catch, there are dating red flags you shouldn't ignore. Nobody is perfect, so you shouldn’t expect perfection from your partner. At the same time, you shouldn’t settle for someone who might be putting up a front. Here's a look at seven dating red flags you shouldn't ignore.
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1. Trying to Change You
Some people will admit to growing and becoming a better person in a relationship. A good partner can bring out the best in you. However, be careful if your partner tries to change everything about you. It might be the way you talk, the way you dress or your interests. A good partner encourages you to be yourself, and he'll never try to mold you into his idea girlfriend.
2. Possessive of Your Time
Understandably, couples want to spend time together. But you also have a life outside the relationship. If your boyfriend is possessive and doesn't want you to spend time with your friends or family, or if he always questions your whereabouts, run for the hills. This behavior will likely worsen as the relationship progresses.
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3. Criticizes You
If you can’t do anything right in his eye, it’s time to move on. Nobody is perfect, and if your partner can’t accept that you're going to make mistakes, he’s not the right person for you. You need someone who will encourage and build you up, not criticize your every move or tear you down.
4. Only Shows Affection when You’re Alone
I'm not suggesting a public make out session. However, there's nothing over-the-top with holding hands or walking with his arm around your shoulder. If you notice he only shows affection when you're alone, he might be trying to keep the relationship hidden. This is especially true if you attempt to hold his hand and he slowly pulls away.
5. Secretive about His Life
Your partner might not feel comfortable divulging specific details of his personal life early in the relationship. But if you've been together for a while, yet you know absolutely nothing about his family, work or job, he might be hiding something from you or he doesn't want those in his circle to know about the relationship.
6. He Doesn't Have a Good Reputation
You may think your partner is a wonderful person, but if public opinion isn't good, think twice before moving forward with the relationship. Some people can put up a convincing façade early in a relationship. This is how they win a partner’s love and respect. However, they can't keep up the charade forever, and eventually their true colors will come through. If several people have warned you about a particular person, don’t ignore their concerns.
7. You Have a Gut Feeling
Even if the relationship is going well, you might have a feeling you can't shake. You might not be able to put your finger on the problem, but it’s better to go with your instinct rather than stay in a relationship that may not end well.
Relationships are tricky, but if you recognize dating red flags early on, you can make better choices and save yourself a lot of heartache. What are other red flags we shouldn't ignore?
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Michyx: I had a gut feeling but I chose to ignore and/or stupidly thought he might change for me.. Now we're broken up and he's seeing his friend 🙃
ash: if you were already hooked you'd be blinded..it takes courage to distant yourself from the "dating stage" jitters so as to examine if there's any red flags
FlipflopsnAcorns: Doesn't pay for things and boundary issues.
Splashhhh: Its so true some ppl say oh one more chance or may b its not gonna happen again its wrong its just gonna become worse and worse so dont stay in that kinda relationship.
Beryl: If he never seems to have " enough" money in his pocket or wallet ! When you somehow seem to end up settling the bill too often then stop and think. These charming spongers are quite subtle !
Reggie: Gut instinct! I recently went on a date an it all seemed fine. He was kid of cute, intelligent, tall, had ambition, family oriented, etc. but DEEP down I felt this strange uneasy feeling. I dismissed it as first date jitters. However after the date he texted me and immediately started asking about personal stuff involving the "bedroom" if you catch my drift. It turned out I guess I just knew he was a closeted pervert. So I agree, the guy could be perfect, but if you have a gut instinct, PLEASE go with it!!
Shannon: I love that
Emmarachelmay: My ex would always criticise me, compare me to his exes and tell me everything I was doing wrong! If somethin would upset me (even if the reason wasn't because of him) he'd just say 'oh here come the water works again'. Then he told me that I wasn't 'compromising' enough for the relationship! And told me to quit my job and move hundreds of miles from my family and friends! Know the warning signs girls!! Stand your ground!! Xx
Annie: My ex fiancé always tried changing me and everyone loves me
Cat: My ex bf was living a double life, different name etc, met my family too, i felt so stupid finding out after a 4 year long distance relationship with him, found out he was married, my heart is broken along with trusting anyone ever again 😔
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