Hard Truths about Relationships Both Partners Should Realize ...

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Hard Truths about Relationships Both Partners Should Realize ...
Hard Truths about Relationships Both Partners Should Realize ...

The world would be a magical place if we all found love and it was romance and roses and we all lived happily ever after. However, the world of Disney only exists in fairytales and in real life love is exquisitely joyful and excruciatingly painful and everything in between. And we have to accept the hard truths of relationships in order to be successful at them.

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1. You Might Always Love Each Other, but There Will Definitely Be Times when You do Not like Each Other!

You Might Always Love Each Other, but There Will Definitely Be Times when You do Not like Each Other!

2. Similarly, You May Not Always Find Them Attractive Every Single Second of Every Single Day

Similarly, You May Not Always Find Them Attractive Every Single Second of Every Single Day

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Attraction in long-term relationships fluctuates, and feeling less drawn to your partner at times doesn’t indicate a failing union. It’s normal for the intense initial magnetism to settle into a deeper, more nuanced affection. Remember that love is not exclusively measured by constant, overwhelming desire. Instead, it is the shared experiences, the commitment, and the mutual growth that create a strong bond. Embrace these shifts as a natural part of your journey together—building a connection that transcends mere physical allure.

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3. You Will Definitely Feel Irritated by the Smallest Things at One Point or Another

You Will Definitely Feel Irritated by the Smallest Things at One Point or Another

4. You Will Find That You do Not Always Miss Them when They Have Gone Away for a Period

You Will Find That You do Not Always Miss Them when They Have Gone Away for a Period

5. You Will Definitely Feel Some Degree of Boredom at Least a Few Times, but That’s Natural

You Will Definitely Feel Some Degree of Boredom at Least a Few Times, but That’s Natural

6. You Will, at Least Once, Find Yourself Wondering if the Grass is Greener on the Other Side

You Will, at Least Once, Find Yourself Wondering if the Grass is Greener on the Other Side

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It's an inevitable part of the human condition to ponder what might have been. Whether it's during a minor disagreement or a significant rough patch, you might catch yourself daydreaming about a different life with someone else. Yet, most times, it’s not a sign of a failing partnership but a natural curiosity about the unexplored. Embrace this moment as an opportunity for self-reflection and to appreciate the unique qualities of your relationship. Remember, fleeting thoughts don't define your commitment, but how you handle them certainly can fortify it.

7. Even Though You Are Together, You May Find That You Experience Periods of Loneliness

Even Though You Are Together, You May Find That You Experience Periods of Loneliness

8. Your Partner is Not a Carbon Copy of Yourself, so Be Prepared for Fundamental Differences

Your Partner is Not a Carbon Copy of Yourself, so Be Prepared for Fundamental Differences

9. Your Heart is Fragile, and It Will Open and Close without Warning during the Relationship

Your Heart is Fragile, and It Will Open and Close without Warning during the Relationship

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Love is a dynamic journey with its highs and lows. Just like the unpredictable weather, your heart's openness to your partner can shift like seasons with little warning. It's vital to acknowledge these fluctuations as a normal part of intimacy and not a sign of faltering love. When you find your heart closing off, communicate it, be gentle with yourself, and understand that openness will return in time. The strength of your relationship is measured not by its constancy but by its resilience through these natural cycles.

10. Your Sex Life Might Not Always Be as Good as It is Right Now

Your Sex Life Might Not Always Be as Good as It is Right Now

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Just like the seasons ebb and flow, the passion within your intimate bonds may also experience its ups and downs. It's crucial to understand that shifts in desire and varying levels of satisfaction are entirely normal and to be expected. Over time, stress, health issues, and the natural course of a long-term relationship can alter the dynamics of your sex life. However, with open communication, mutual effort, and maybe a sprinkle of creativity, you and your partner can navigate these changes and find new ways to maintain an emotionally and physically fulfilling connection.

11. And in Conjunction, You May Find That You Don’t Want to Have as Much Sex as You Used to

And in Conjunction, You May Find That You Don’t Want to Have as Much Sex as You Used to

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Sexual desire can ebb and flow in relationships, and sometimes this can be unsettling. It's important to remember that intimacy is not solely defined by physical acts but also through emotional connection and companionship. If your desire has diminished, consider if stress, health issues or emotional disconnect could be factors. Open communication with your partner about your feelings is crucial. Together, you can explore new ways to maintain closeness, whether it's through date nights, shared hobbies, or simply acknowledging and appreciating each other's company. Remember, physical intimacy is just one aspect of a multi-dimensional partnership.

12. Being in Love but Still Being Somewhat Indifferent Can Be a Real Thing

Being in Love but Still Being Somewhat Indifferent Can Be a Real Thing

13. You Will Go through Periods of Feeling Connected and the Disconnected from Your Partner

You Will Go through Periods of Feeling Connected and the Disconnected from Your Partner

14. You Need to Embrace Both the Good and the Bad in Your Relationship

You Need to Embrace Both the Good and the Bad in Your Relationship

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Strong relationships aren't just about cherishing the laughter-filled moments or the shared successes; they also involve weathering storms together. True connection stems from the ability to stand by each other during life's inevitable challenges. Accepting the flaws and hurdles in your partnership isn’t an admission of defeat, but rather a testament to the strength and commitment you both share. It's the understanding that perfection is a myth, and that growing and learning through the tough times can bring you closer than ever. Embrace every shade of your relationship, for it is in the full spectrum where love truly shines.

15. The Feeling of Fear is a Real Part of Being in Love, so Don’t Hide from It, Confront It

The Feeling of Fear is a Real Part of Being in Love, so Don’t Hide from It, Confront It

16. However, It Might Not Always Feel like True Fear, It Could Manifest in Numbness or Ambivalence

However, It Might Not Always Feel like True Fear, It Could Manifest in Numbness or Ambivalence

17. The Deeper Your Love is, the Stronger the Fear Tends to Be

The Deeper Your Love is, the Stronger the Fear Tends to Be

18. Similarly, the Deeper You Are in Love, the More Risks You Are Usually Willing to Take

Similarly, the Deeper You Are in Love, the More Risks You Are Usually Willing to Take

19. There Will Be Times when You Are Tempted to Give It All up and Walk out

There Will Be Times when You Are Tempted to Give It All up and Walk out

20. This Temptation to Leave Usually Originates from a Feeling of Disconnect to Your Partner

This Temptation to Leave Usually Originates from a Feeling of Disconnect to Your Partner

21. You Will Find Yourself Wondering Why None of Your Friends Seem to Be Having the Same Relationship Struggles as You

You Will Find Yourself Wondering Why None of Your Friends Seem to Be Having the Same Relationship Struggles as You

22. The More You Try to Avoid Conflict, the More Likely It is to Blow up in Your Face

The More You Try to Avoid Conflict, the More Likely It is to Blow up in Your Face

23. Be Prepared for You and Your Partner to See One Another at Your Very Worst

Be Prepared for You and Your Partner to See One Another at Your Very Worst

24. You Will Both Definitely Lash out and Say Things in the Heat of the Moment That You do Not Mean

You Will Both Definitely Lash out and Say Things in the Heat of the Moment That You do Not Mean

25. It is Possible to Have Your Heart Broken but Still Stay Together

It is Possible to Have Your Heart Broken but Still Stay Together

26. You Need to Accept That You Must Bring All of Your past in to Your Current Relationship; There is No Hiding from It

You Need to Accept That You Must Bring All of Your past in to Your Current Relationship; There is No Hiding from It

27. If You Have Kids, Be Prepared to Sacrifice Some of Your Old Connection in Order to Raise Them

If You Have Kids, Be Prepared to Sacrifice Some of Your Old Connection in Order to Raise Them

28. Speaking of Kids, Life is Tough when You Have Them, and All Parents Feel the Same so Don’t Feel Bad!

Speaking of Kids, Life is Tough when You Have Them, and All Parents Feel the Same so Don’t Feel Bad!

29. You Will Definitely Feel Underappreciated at Times, but Please Know That You Absolutely Are Not

You Will Definitely Feel Underappreciated at Times, but Please Know That You Absolutely Are Not

30. Don’t Be Stubborn, the Worst Thing That Both of You Can do is to Hold out on Apologizing, It Wastes so Much Time!

Don’t Be Stubborn, the Worst Thing That Both of You Can do is to Hold out on Apologizing, It Wastes so Much Time!

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BUT if it's been months and there has not been any improvement - you should start looking at other men.

Really helpful!

I just had a fight

Why love hurts?

So true

All of this is so true of my fiancé and I! In fact just the other day we were out on a date and this really attractive waiter served us; I was almost tempted to tell my beau about how cute our waiter was. I almost did...but didn't lol. I am only gonna see that waiter once so it wasn't important

I like this! Great article. (:

I love this, almost 5 years in my relationship, been through a lose of a child and now having a two year old... times have been tough but we are still working through it together

Definitely needed to read this!

Very true!!