For lots of people, sex can start to get a little bit boring and vanilla if you find that you are mentally checking out and just going through motions instead of being present and emotional involved. Sometimes, what it takes to reawaken your sexual desire and rediscover just how erotic and fun sexual intimacy can be is releasing your inner animal! This is the side of yourself that feels lust most strongly, and acts on pleasure instinct without thinking about external life factors! Here is how to find your inner animal during sex.
1. Remove Obstacles
Try to rid your head of all of the life factors that might be distracting you from really losing yourself to sexual pleasure. Don’t think about the kids, don’t think about work, don’t think about the bills ... just commit to focusing only on your partner and on the physical sensations you are feeling right now, and this mental freedom will lead to you accessing a more animalistic part of yourself.
2. Build Tension
The more you want and anticipate something, the more carnal you start to feel! Rather than just scheduling sex as a twice-weekly appointment, create an air of excitement around it by sexting during the day, building up the tension so that when you are finally together, you can’t wait to rip each other’s clothes off!
3. New Location or Situation
Try something different to get out of your usual routine. Make it a special weekend by booking a nice hotel suite for you and your partner, somewhere where you can be free and don’t have to be constantly reminded of your life outside the bedroom. Also, roleplaying can be a good thing to get you out of your own head.
We all know that too much alcohol is detrimental to having good sex, but one or two drinks to help you loosen up whilst still being fully aware of yourself and your actions can sometimes be just the thing that you need to help you unwind. The goal isn’t to get blasted so you fall straight to sleep; it’s to get giggly and silly so that you have lots of fun without being self-conscious.