How to Text a Guy First - Β the Best Tips ...

How to Text a Guy First - Β the Best Tips ...
By Jennifer β€’ Sep 26, 2025

You're a take-action kind of girl, not willing to wait around for something to happen TO you - you want to be the one to make things happen! That's why you're dying to text the guy you like, but how? I've got some stellar you-text-him-first tips to share... ready? πŸ˜†

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1. Get It Going

You've got his number, you know he likes you, it's time to act! Send him a short but direct text. If you haven't texted him before, identify yourself and say hi in a way you'll know he'll recognize it's you. For example, say, "Hi Hans! This is Anna from your math class. How did you do on that exam yesterday?"

2. Ask Questions... LOTS of Questions

First of all, asking questions will keep the conversation going... but it also lets him know you're interested in him, and by looking at his responses, you'll be able to tell how HE feels about YOU.

3. Keep It Upbeat 😊

It's REALLY hard to express tone in a text, even with emojis. So when possible, keep the tone light and upbeat, so there's no confusion.

4. Flirt a Little 😏

Why is it so much easier to flirt over text than in person? Hone your flirting skills by being coy and cute, and don't be afraid to put yourself out there a little bit.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Be Prepared

He may ask you some tricky questions, so take advantage of the pause-to-think texting can give you to actually pause and think before you just fire off a text you might regret later.

6. Sign off Sweetly

When it's time to go, keep it light and maybe even slightly mysterious. Something like, "It's been great texting, but I've got to go. See you in math on Wednesday?"

7. Why Not...?

You're bold, you're brave - why not ask him out? The trick is, now that you've been clever and asked lots of questions, to be specific. Rather than saying, "Want to hang out sometime?" text him something like "Want to catch some Pokemon downtown on Friday? We could meet at Starbuck's on 5th after class..."

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  • Kristen

    2017-07-15T13:59:46.411Z

    Go slow. Get to know each other. Really know each other; likes/dislikes, turn ons/turn offs, deal breakers & things you generally look for in a partner. Become best friends. It's how the best & lasting relationships start!
  • Kristen

    2017-07-15T13:56:44.873Z

    1-word responses are him trying to be polite, but he's not into you like that. AKA, friend zone. If he gives a decent answer, that's better. BUT, if he gives you a good answer & then returns with a question back to you that is good!
  • Kim

    2017-07-14T15:32:13.733Z

    Honesty is always the best approach- if you keep acting like you need a plan every time you talk you end up in a fake relationship and then after 8 months go by you'll find that you and he can't communicate on the same page cuz it's harder to be natural.
  • cocoxchanel

    2017-07-15T12:43:42.930Z

    needed this
  • Redonna

    2016-07-31T09:47:54.823Z

    Anyone here lol
  • booty

    2016-07-31T16:52:45.700Z

    Think it's towards the end the guy I'm talking to & he just rejected my hangout so I could talk to him,
  • avery

    2017-02-11T23:26:12.050Z

    is anyone on?
  • Flawlesskiss7

    2016-07-31T18:00:32.028Z

    Move to the next
  • Kristen

    2017-07-15T13:53:26.891Z

    Spoiler Alert; even if you text him some big planned out text that's just supposed to sound natural, it won't. He knows why you are actually texting him. I do agree to ask a lot of questions, 'cuz you can gauge how he's feeling by him responses.
  • KATE____A

    2017-07-14T07:54:08.001Z

    Does anyone have any good flirting tips?
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