At the last few weddings and even romantic gatherings I’ve been to, I’ve heard the same phrase mentioned over and over again among the guests - well they’ve been best friends forever! - which is why I digress into claiming there are many reasons to pursue and have sex with your best friend. One common fallacy these days is that men and women can be best friends without any sexual tension or promise of a romantic future. But like the classic film When Harry Met Sally, and countless other personal experiences have proven, men and women just can’t make it in platonic friendships let alone as best friends. Therefore there are many reasons to have sex with your best friend and here they are!
1. They Know You the Best
This may seem like the most obvious reason but in fact it’s actually the most underrated. If you have a best friend who you would consider dating or as a sexual partner, there is no reason why you shouldn’t go for it. After all you tell each other everything, right? The fact that involuntarily your best friend of course knows you the best, there’s no doubt that having sex with them will not only strengthen your connection, but will provide guaranteed pleasure because they really do know everything about you. This is one of the very best reasons why you should have sex with your best friend.
2. They Know Your Family and Friends
Inviting a new beau into your circle of family and friends is always very tricky and complicated. But your best friend has already been exposed to your entire lifestyle including the people who matter most. So forming a romantic relationship with your best friend is almost a better option than searching for a new prospect, considering they have already been included among your family and most likely approved by your parents.
3. They May Already Have a Crush on You
Taking a risk with a stranger is always nerve wracking. But much of the time when you’re hanging around someone so much, it’s unavoidable that you may start to develop feelings for each other. So believe it or not if you make advances towards your best friend you may be very surprised how well received they might be. This is completely the opposite of any type of nervousness you would normally experience with a prospective beau.
4. They Know What You like... in Bed
Of the many reasons to have sex with your best friend this is probably one of the more overt but nonetheless important ones. Considering you confide in your best friend on a regular basis and talk to them about anything and everything, they probably have a pretty clear picture of your sexual preferences. They heard about the time that you had sex with that awful tourist who was one and done, and the time you kissed your roommate on a dare and enjoyed it, so more than likely they will know exactly what you like and want during sex. This eliminates all that awkwardness you may experience with someone you have only known for 3 dates.
5. You Won’t Have to Wait for a Phone Call after
Something about a best friend is that they are usually committed to loving you unconditionally and considering you talk on a regular basis, there is a very slim chance that you won’t hear from them again after sex. And if it doesn’t work out you can go back to being best friends (it is possible).
6. They Won’t Use You
Unfortunately in our melting pot of people found in this world, there are some who end up using others for sex while leading you on with no intention of pursuing a romantic future. One thing you definitely don’t have to worry about when having sex with your best friend, is that they really do love you, no matter what and they aren’t just using you for their own enjoyment our pleasure. In fact they probably care about your enjoyment more than their own, which may be a nice change for people who have regularly been stuck with selfish and controlling partners.
7. They Love You
Last but not least, a best friend loves you. They have seen you at your worst and best and they know all your flaws and attributes. So engaging in sex with them may not only be rewarding but fulfilling and pleasurable. You will be within your comfort zone with someone you also love in return so nothing can hurt you.
8. You Can Talk to Them
Maybe you feel like this isn't working the way you wanted or maybe it's working out perfectly, there's no reason to be nervous to tell them! Your best friend already knows your deep dark secrets, so why not add this to the list? Don't worry about how they'll react because they're your best friend and no matter what change is happening in your relationship they still don't want to hurt you.
9. You Can Go Back
If done the right way, you and your friend should be able to continue the friendship. This means that if you guys decide this isn't working for you anymore or you find someone that you want to be in a relationship with then you should be able to make a clean break as long as neither of you got feelings for the other. Yes your intention may have been to start a relationship with your friend, but maybe it just didn't work at least you still have your friend.
10. You're Comfortable
You have known this person for however long and chances are you tell them everything. This is great because that means you're comfortable being around them so things will come easier. You don't have to worry about being self conscious around them when you're in the moment because even if it's the first time for you guys, you are comfortable and he likely knows your insecurities so you have nothing to worry about.
11. You Can Skip the Getting to Know You Part
You already know each other really well, so there's no need to feel like you have to get to know your best friend before anything happens. There's no pressure to wait or follow normal dating rules because you already know each other so well. It's ok to skip this part and jump into the next part. Of course you don't know absolutely everything about your best friend, but there's still time to get to know whatever little bits are still hiding.
There are many reasons to have sex with your best friend, so take a chance and you may be very surprised at the outcome. It is an old wives’ tale that sex between friends ruins relationships, but again only you know what’s right for you and your best friend although it is much less risky to be with someone you know than a complete stranger from the bar down the block. Have you ever swapped your best friend into a boyfriend? Do tell!
This article was written in collaboration with editor Lydia Sheehan.