Relationships require patience, work and effort in order to be kept positive, thriving and progressing in a healthy way. Here are a few key signs of an unhealthy relationship, so if you recognise these in your own, it's time to do something about it!
1 Lacking Communication
Communication is key in any healthy relationship. Even arguing involves communicating the other person. Lack of communication can be anything from not talking on a regular basis about minor, unimportant things to not talking about major events which need to be discussed and worked through.
2 Too Much Distance
It's true that distance is good and healthy in a relationship as it gives us time to ourselves and to practise being independent. Although there is such a thing as too much distance, which is when the relationship doesn't thrive off it and it becomes a common occurrence.
3 No Common Ground
We don't have to be in a relationship with the male version of ourselves or someone who is basically the same as us, but a few main common interests is always a great foundation for a relationship to grow on. It becomes difficult when there are minimal or even no common interests shared, as it negatively effects things such as simple conversation.
4 Lacking Passion
Minimal or no passion in a relationship is one that has lost the romantic 'spark' that was initially there. This can commonly happen over time, as relationships become longer and it gets hard to maintain that same electricity that was present the day you first got together.
5 Lacking Motivation
Your relationship is destined to fail if one or both of you can't find the motivation needed to keep it progressing onwards and upwards. This is when even the simple things may seem too difficult to try or even a waste of time. Remind yourself that these things are worth doing if it means your relationship can continue to progress and get better each and every day.
6 Unhealthy Debate
We can definitely argue in a healthy way, and this means listening to what the other person has to say and respecting their opinion which may differ from our own. But it becomes unhealthy as soon as we stop listening and make it all about ourselves. Relationships are all about compromise as they're focused around both people's needs and desires.
7 Lacking Consideration
Having consideration for the other person is something you should have from the very first day, and it shouldn't be lost over the course of your relationship. This can be anything from listening and respecting their opinion to acts of kindness every now and again, especially when they're needed or long over-due.
8 You Turn to Others
Whether it's emotional support, or a friendly ear, if you find yourself turning to others before your man or vice versa, then you need to reevaluate your relationship. You should always be each other's support systems no matter what and not having that is a sign of an unhealthy situation. Sure, we all need to vent to our girlfriends from time to time, but if you don't go to him for any support, you should probably rethink your relationship.
9 Lacking Respect
If your partner doesn't respect when you say no, or you don't respect their opinion, I've got some bad news about your situation hunny. Relationships are built on mutual respect and understanding, and if y'all can't find that or have lost that, you need to get things back on track or get your butt out the door.
10 Your Situation is Stressful
If you find yourself preferring to be anywhere that your partner isn't because being with them has become stressful-you need to say bye to that relationship cause it isn't healthy! You should never find yourself avoiding your partner because it's a chore to be with them. You should enjoy your time together and if you don't, then end things right now before they get worse.
What are your thoughts on an unhealthy relationship? Have you been in one? What did you do?