Sometimes, you date a jerk. Doesn't have to be a boyfriend, either. Girlfriends can be jerks. It just happens. You somehow stumble upon the reality that you are, in fact, dating a big old butt hole. It's possible your family and friends knew first. It's possible that your sly significant other managed to disguise that jerky attitude. The point is, it happens. It's okay. Once you discover the truth, you start feeling things, doing things, and experiencing things – things like these.
That is, you figure out that when you're not with your personal jerk, you are generally better. You're better without her/him.
So it dawns on you that you're worth more than this. You're better than this. You deserve better than this. You don't want to spend all your time with a jerk.
Gradually, you discover who you were before that negativity invaded your life so insidiously. You remember the things that made you happy – and you remember how to be happy.
You need to get some positive forces in your life. Besides, if you've ever stopped hanging out with people you like because of your partner, you know how wonderful it feels to reconnect.
Again, you need something positive in your life. You need to surround yourself with people who love you unconditionally. Mind you, this can apply to your biological family or your logical one.
Inevitably, once enough is enough, you realize you need to step away and start looking for something better.
This may or may not result in some jerky messages.
And jerky texts, too. In fact, this will most definitely happen.
Ditto your DMs. If you're really sick of the ish, you might even go on a blocking spree, just to ward off all the vitriol.
Niceness is so underrated. Why aren't more people just nice?
You start to relax. You're not always second guessing yourself and judging what you say. You don't have to wait for the other shoe to drop.
Again, all that tension is gone. You're not wondering what kind of jerk behavior you're going to see next.
And you finally remember what it feels like to be pampered, which is even more blissful.
Too bad, so sad. Sucks to be you.
You know, really care about you – by not behaving badly or saying really awful, heinous things.
Because jerks always end up being kind of selfish.
Dating a jerk is embarrassing because jerks are embarrassing. Freeing yourself from that kind of toxicity, though, that's just aces.
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