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Signs You Don't Have Enough Chemistry to Survive as a Couple ...

By Alison

Everybody likes to think that their relationship will last forever, but how can you be sure? Well, you can't, but you can spot signs that it might not go the distance. If you're missing that vital ingredient called chemistry, you're not likely to last - however much you think he's a great guy. Here are some signs that you may not have enough chemistry to make it as a couple …

1 You Want to Change Him (or Vice Versa)

So he'd be perfect, if it wasn't for one thing … Wanting to change your partner isn't a good sign. He is the person he is, not the person anyone else wants him to be. It's one thing wanting him to change some aspects, but if you're not really happy with who he is then you're not going to last. It shows that you're not in love with the real guy, just an image of your perfect man.

2 You Have Nagging Doubts

We often ignore the nagging doubts at the back of our mind because we really want to believe in this relationship. But having those doubts that won't go away suggests that you know underneath that you don't really have the right chemistry together. These feelings are there for a reason, so don't ignore them.

3 You Embarrass Each Other

Do you hate his jokes? Or does he complain that you embarrass him when you're drunk? If you embarrass each other it suggests that you're not really on the same wavelength. If you are, then you're more indulgent of each other, and also more considerate of the other person's feelings - so you wouldn't want to upset them.

4 Wildly Different Opinions

Some say opposites attract; others think that long-lasting relationships are built from shared values and outlook. If your opinions are very different from his, you could be on a different page as far as compatibility goes. Having a different outlook is fine if it doesn't lead to a fundamental clash, and if you have a healthy respect for the other person's opinions.

5 You Feel Uncomfortable Somehow

Something about him makes you feel uncomfortable, or you're conscious that you don't feel as at ease with him as you should. You know, maybe this guy isn't right for you. That doesn't mean that he's a bad guy, just that he's not the right one. You should feel totally comfortable with your partner.

6 You Don't Have Much in Common

It's good for couples to each have their own interests. But if the interests that you actually share are very few, what does that tell you about chemistry? It's hard to go the distance in a relationship if you don't have many things you like to do together.

7 You've Never Felt That Spark

He can be a really nice guy, but if you don't feel a spark with him from early on then it isn't going to happen. If there is no chemistry with him, if he doesn't make you feel alive and excited to see him, the signs are not positive. This guy might be the perfect friend, but he's very unlikely to be the right partner for you.

The best relationships have both a romantic spark and a strong friendship. This makes them more likely to be durable. You can't force that spark! Have you dated someone you had no chemistry with?

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