If only there was a degree in reading various signs that come with matters of the heart? How do you know that your little thing with your crush is heading in the direction of a relationship? Guest contributor Charleyann dissects it for you. Thanks Charleyann!
So you've been sort of "having a thing" with this guy for the past couple of weeks and your questioning whether or not it's actually gonna last... don't worry ladies we've all been there. Go ahead and read the following signs!
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1. Constantly Hangs around You
Think about it this way: If you didn't like a guy or think he’s cool in SOME way you wouldn't waste your time hanging around him. So if he's constantly around you, constantly finding excuses to talk to you, chances are he wants to be more than just friends.
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He seems to always find a reason to be near you, whether it's partnering up for a project or offering to grab lunch together. It's like he has a built-in radar for whenever you're around. Pay attention to whether he does this with others or if it's exclusive to you; that's often the telltale sign. If you get the sense that you're the special one he seeks out, it's a pretty big hint he's into you. Actions often speak louder than words, and his are practically shouting.
2. Compliments You
Is he constantly telling you you’re beautiful? Complimenting your clothes or body or style? Then get the hint… he likes you! But be careful because if he’s just calling you «hot» or «sexy» I would watch his actions closely because he could just be trying to get some.
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Compliments are a telling sign of affection and can often be subtle yet sincere indicators of someone's interest in you. When he praises not just your appearance but also your achievements, your sense of humor, or the way you tackle challenges, it's a strong sign he's paying close attention. It's about admiring who you are as a whole person rather than just your physical traits. Remember, though, it’s all about balance – too many compliments can sometimes feel overwhelming or insincere, while just the right amount suggests he really values and appreciates you for who you are.
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3. Is Always Asking Questions about You
If he’s interested then he’ll want to know more about you, like where you come from, what your family is like, if you have pets, even seemingly mundane things like your favorite color.
4. Want to Know the Good Secrets
We all have bad secrets, the ones that we will never tell anyone except for maybe our pet and secret diary. And then of course we all have our good but still guilty secrets. I’m talking about the ones that make you seem sexy and mysterious but not completely insane because ones that make you appear too crazy fall under a whole different category: «We shall never speak of that again.»
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So, these good secrets? They're the spice in the conversational recipe. Imagine whispering something about your secret talent or an unexpected adventurous trip you took last summer. It's all about sharing bits that give a glimpse of your depth and individuality. It's like leaving a breadcrumb trail for your crush to follow, a trail that leads to intrigue and a closer connection. But keep it light – there's no need to spill everything all at once. Let the mystery unravel slowly, inviting them to ask for the next chapter of your story.
5. Touchy-feely
Picture it: You’re standing in line wherever your little hear desires and suddenly he massages your shoulders, or laces your fingers together and rubs your back. Interested? I think yes! When you’re just jokingly bumping into each other or grazing fingertips I would take it as a sure fire sign that he’s into you.
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These spontaneous acts of physical affection are his way of breaking down barriers and getting close in a way that's hard to misinterpret. There's a delicate dance of touch that indicates he's more than just being polite or friendly. He's hoping his subtle, affectionate gestures will speak volumes, and they usually do. Watch out for those lingering hugs or the playful shoulder nudging; they're the precursor to the kind of physical chemistry that can form the foundations of something truly special.
6. Makes Friends with Your Friends
Trust me; any guy that is putting up with your chatty friends and seems happy to be doing so is definitely there for the long haul. Would you spend time with his all-sports-nothing-else friends if it wasn't for? Don’t kid yourself, he’s friends with them to impress you.
7. Asks You What You Look for in a Guy
Duh! Obviously he’s gonna wanna know what you think the perfect guy should act or look like; because he wants to be that guy! Be sure that when answering this question, you don’t overdo it, and stick to the basics... perfectly chiseled body and excellent sense of humor (;
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When he's curious about your preferences, it's a sweet hint that he's aiming to score some serious points. Keep your description grounded though—think loyalty, intelligence, and a sprinkle of spontaneity. Oh, and a dash of good looks doesn't hurt, but remember, it's all about that irresistible blend of traits that make hearts flutter. After all, you're about quality, not just a dreamboat checklist!
8. Considers You a Priority
How will you know? He’ll be sure to drop subtle hints or if you’re dealing with a very blunt guy he may just come out and say it! But for those of you who are dealing with shy and reserved hotties then watch for the signs: skips night out with friends to have a night in with you, sits with you at lunch/gets lunch with you, etc.
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If he's constantly making time in his busy schedule to be with you, that's a major clue. Whether it's his willingness to help you move apartments or his offers to grab your favorite snack on his way over, these gestures show he's thinking of you. Beyond grand gestures, it's the little things—like remembering to send a good morning or goodnight text—that scream I'm into you. If your happiness seems to genuinely matter to him and he's putting in the effort, these aren't just signs, they're billboards pointing towards something more serious blooming between you two.
9. Offers to Pay
This applies only to those who actually hang out with their crush. Okay so you’re at the movie theatre or bowling or ice/roller skating and he pays for you… even if you don’t let him it’s the offer that counts. This shows that he wants to be a gentleman and play it old-fashioned. But no worries ladies, if he doesn’t pay it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not into you but that he just can’t afford it- we all go through our rough patches!
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When he graciously wants to pick up the tab, it reflects his desire to make you feel pampered and cared for. Remember, his willingness to offer signals an interest beyond mere friendship. However, if splitting the cost is his preference, don't take it to heart. Perhaps it's a nod to your independence or simply a practical decision. What counts is the joy and affection shared during these experiences, not who foots the bill.
10. Looks at You… and ONLY You
The #1 or in this case… #10 way to know if he’s truly there for you is to watch how and if he looks at other girls. Does he have wandering eyes? Does he check out other women as they walk by or are his eyes always on you? If he wants to commit in more than just a «we have a thing» way then he’ll show you it too. Trust me girls, the eyes ARE the window to your soul!
So does your crush do these things? Are the signs uber clear or barely there? You decide! Good luck girlies and I wish you the best with your cuties!(:
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Sarah:I Need help as well! I'm pretty sure this guy is into me I was just wanting your opinion :) I met this guy randomly at Mcdonalds one night and his long lost friend whom I am in college with is the reason he hugged my friend. That night he was with a youth group but he sat with my group at Mcdonalds instead. He pulled a chair up beside the booth I was at and when he talked we stared into eachother's eyes longer than usual. He talked to me and acknowledged me a ton more than his long lost friend. That night he left but walked back inside and asked for my number. That night we became fb friends then I sent him the first instant message. We talked for hours every day for a week on fb message. Then at the 1 week mark he gave me his phone number (in a smooth way). Jan 4th will make a month from when we first met and we have talked the entire Christmas break. I asked him if I bug him and he texted me saying "Your never bugging me." When I reminded him about the night we met I said I'm usually not that awkward or something like that and he said, "Haha you didn't act that weird :p" I mentioned something hinting towards dating last night and he said "That's a good point you make! Yes a couple can do far greater things then a single person." So am I in infatuation or is this actually worth something? Thank you! :)
Charleyann:@teavanna, oh gosh in what sense do you mean that? lol but why??
Shraddha:Ok isn't this so relevant to 16 or 20 year olds? What man would behave so? Need some new signs to be penned down ...!
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