Before you meet the one, you're going to figure out a lot about yourself. Some might get lucky by meeting their soulmate right away. Others will go through dozens of guys before they find the right one for them. Don't be stressed if your love life is less than ideal, because you'll learn some important lessons before you meet the one.
1. What You Really Really Want
In order to know exactly what you want, you need to find out what you can't stand. Don't ever consider one of your past boyfriends a mistake. If anything, they taught you what you're willing to put up with. If you didn't like how closed off your ex was, you know that you'll need a guy who's open with his emotions. Past boyfriends help you narrow down the traits that you admire. Before you meet the one, you'll meet plenty of others that will help you determine what you really want.
2. Pain Pain, Go Away
Pain is an essential part of life. Even once you find 'the one,' he'll end up hurting you from time to time. Whether he decides to pick a fight or forgets your anniversary, there will be times when you're not happy with him. You need to learn how to handle your emotions, because life will always throw hardships at you. You have to find your own way to deal with pain and remember that it'll all be worth it in the end.
3. Hope's Hard to Find
It might be for a year or an hour, but there will be times when you'll lose hope that you'll ever find the man for you. Everyone feels this way. It can be hard to believe that you'll be able to find the perfect man when there are so many people in the world. What are the chances that you'll find each other? It can take time, but you'll stop thinking this way once you first look into Mr. Right's eyes.
4. See Your True Colors
You'll figure out who you are by the time you meet the one. You might think you know yourself better than anyone, but you still have a lot to learn. There are things you'll do that'll surprise you. There are lengths you'll go to that you didn't think were possible, both positive and negative. You need to know yourself and love yourself before you jump into a meaningful relationship.
5. Mistaken Man
There might be a time when you think that you've found 'the one,' but he's just an impostor. When you lose him, you'll be worried that you'll never find another like him. Don't fret. There's another guy out there that's even better for you than he is. You just have to be patient and know that he'll come along when the time is right.
6. Timing Totally Matters
If you haven't realized it already, one day you'll find out that timing is just as important as chemistry. You could meet a magnificent man, but he's already taken or is too focused on his career. Just because the timing is wrong, doesn't mean that he's wrong for you. You shouldn't wait around for him forever, but know that you might just end up together in the future. You never know what your lives will be like ten years down the road.
7. Girls Just Wanna Have Fun
You can't be entirely focused on finding the man of your dreams. If your only goal in life is to find that perfect guy, you're going to lose out on a lot of fun. Make sure to enjoy your life and to not get overly stressed out about your search for love. If you've already found him, congratulations! If it takes you a while, have fun until he comes along.
Remember that life will make you go through quite a bit before it grants you with the love of your life. Do you think you've found the right guy for you? What's he like?