Breakups can get messy real easily when there's still love in the mix. It just makes moving on THAT much harder! However, when those rough breakups come, we just have to toughen up and get over it. Take a look below on how to move on while you're still in love with your ex:
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1. Work on Forgiving Yourself
Always, when you're moving on while still in love with your ex, work on forgiving yourself. It sounds way easier than it is, but you need to do it. Forgive yourself for losing yourself in the relationship, allow yourself time to really get to know yourself. Remember, all relationships that end are hard, but that doesn't mean it's impossible to get over it. You've just got to try!
2. Practice Releasing Regrets
Releasing all of your regrets is one surefire way to move on when you're still in love with your ex. You could write down all of your regrets on a piece of paper and burn it; that way you can completely forget about them. Releasing your regrets is really going to allow more room in your mind and soul for someone to step in.
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3. Remember the Bad Times
Dwelling on the good times isn't going to help you really get over and move on from your relationship, you've got to dwell on the bad times. Think about all of the fights that you had, think about all of the bad times that he or she ruined, think about all of the horrible times in your relationship. Know what they are, so that you won't repeat them in the future or fool yourself into believing an idyllic view of your relationship.
4. Reconnect with Old Friends
Moving on should be all about reconnecting with old friends. You want to maintain friendships that you might not have had when you were with your ex. Ask a friend you haven't seen for ages over for coffee – catch up and see what happens! This is truly one of the best steps for moving forward in your life!
5. Create a Deep Separation
When you and your ex finally call it completely quits, you've got to cut off all of the communication. I know it's hard, but why keep their number in your phone? Why keep texting them or calling them? Why do you need to talk to them constantly when you are trying to get over them?
6. Go through the Grieving
Grieving your relationship is a natural process – and one that you need to go through. You need to make sure that you are going through this process, otherwise you might never, ever move on completely. Remember, it's natural to eat ice cream and cry. Let yourself!
7. Remember the Benefits of Moving on
Finally, think of all of the different benefits of moving on! You finally have the time to be single, to go out whenever you want without someone keeping your time. You finally have all of the free time in the world and no one tying you down. Keep that in mind!
8. Find a New Hobby
Finding a new hobby is a very important part of moving on. It's important to fill up your time with activities that make you happy! That way, you're not using your free time to stress out over lost loves.
9. Remind Yourself That There's Other Fish in the Sea
Sure, it might feel like he's the only guy on the planet but we all know he's not. Your special guy is out there waiting! It sounds cliche, I know, but it's true! Be open to the idea that there are other men who'd love to get to know you.
10. Do Not Accept a Booty Call
This should be obvious but ladies, do NOT respond to that late night text. Sleeping with a guy you still care about will not help you get over him. It'll only keep your feelings for him alive! Keep #5 (creating a deep separation) in mind and keep him out of your bed (and heart)!
11. Be Patient
Lastly, be patient. Your feelings for your ex won't fade overnight but eventually, they will. If you follow these tips and REALLY commit to getting over someone, you'll be fine in no time.
These are just a few of the things that can absolutely help you move on, even if you are in love with your ex. So, have you ever been in love with an ex or can't get over one? Give up your story!
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Yessy: Well, maybe we can added this one, cause it works one me :) If there is something unfinished business with your ex undone, you must make it clear so the way you moving on is wider open. If you think you can face him face to face, write it all to him. You can send him a letter, a text, or email, or you can call him. Sounds chicken, but well, maybe it's better with that way, so you can feel better. And sometimes, when you feel lonely and missed him so bad, you can write it all your feelings in a piece of paper. Just write it all. About your feelings, etc and after that you just feel better. And the plus is you don't need to call him or text him or something that make you embarrassed your self in future lol Well, sometimes when all that madness happens we just need to realize that broken up happened because a reason. And we don't need to feel sorry for that. Maybe it just the way it is. Save your tears girl, you deserve a good man; your truly love - mr. Right
Isabella: I'm trying to help one of my girlfriends through a break up, never been through one myself.. Going to start by helping her clean her apartment cause it's tiny and a horrible mess, but I really want to change her mindset because she seems to obsess about all the bad things in her relationship. Any suggestions?
Liz: For the part about like.... Erasing there numbers.... What if you need it to call him and tell him your pregnant.
Dahlia: Breaking up is very difficult. You invest so much emotion, effort and time that .. You can't help but yearn for the person when you don't have them. you think about all the good times n good qualities and poor qualities and bad times:...over and over and over probably past the duration of your relationship was.
jenivivelim: how can i moved on from this situation hahhah lol :D he is my schoolmate grrr .. i am one of the boys :D
AL: Me and my boyfriend of two years broke up due to long distance, now I am moving back (20 min from him) we haven't spoken in a while due to the fact we left things in a weird place. How do I tell him I am moving? Or should I not tell him all together? Help!
Filora: I got out of 7 years relationship with my ex and it took me 6 months to get over him and move on. It is pretty tough. But it makes you a stronger woman.
Martina: My boyfriend and I dated for 6 years broke up, he went straight into a relationship I waited 8 months.. He broke things off with his girl a year later (last week) said he was done she cheated on him.. We got in contact cause he had been shady, and wanted to apologize so I did and the feelings were right there for both of us. Unfair to my boyfriend so I broke it off with him who I only had been dating for two months.. Hoped that my ex and I would reconnect. After a week of saying hell never go back cause she cheated on him.. Gave her another chance... I told him to never talk to me again unless he was ready to kiss the ground I walk on. And deleted him and all hope from my life completely! This is exactly what I needed to read!!
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