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7 Ways to Be Flirtatious without Overdoing It ...

By Heather

I've had a lot of requests on how to be flirty, without seeming overwhelming and without overdoing it – well, I've come up with all of the different ways to flirt without seeming desperate or being overpowering! These tips can be used to capture your crush and really figure out the right ways to flirt with him without seeming like you are desperate! Give these tips a try and let me know how they work!

1 Soft Touches

Honestly, this is one of the top ways to flirt that is still subtle! If your crush sits next to you anywhere or you are trying to flirt up a guy on the bar, just touch his arm, his leg, his shoulder. Pick imaginary lint from his shirt or brush back his hair a little bit. These are all ways that you can touch him softly, without seeming like you are overdoing it!

2 Learn Common Ground

When you are flirting, it is very important for you to learn all about the common ground that you two share. If he is into video games, what type of video games does he like? Do you like the same kind? These will be the kinds of things that your conversations with him will be made up of!

3 Compliment

Did you know that compliments with a guy go a very, very long way? Just complimenting the way his jeans fit or even the way his hair looks can really stroke his ego and make him feel oh-so-special! Don't layer on the compliments too thick though, as that can be overdoing it, but littering one or two here and there is a great idea!

4 Not Too Much Sarcasm

Sarcasm in a girl is super attractive, but you don't want to be sarcastic about everything, that can be a huge turn-off. Just incorporate a thin layer of sarcasm and go along with his sense of humor! This is one trick that I had to learn and temper down.

5 Don't Cross Arms

Weird, right, how crossing your arms can seem like a turn-off? What it does is close you off. Your body language when you are flirting is very, very important and crossing your arms around your waist or bust can actually make you seem very unapproachable. So keep your arms at your sides and you'll see just how approachable you really are!

6 Lots of Eye Contact

I know that whenever I do a flirting post, I constantly am talking about eye contact, but it's so true! I know that looking down and being coy or shy when you are trying to flirt with your crush might seem like an natural thing, but girls, look up. Look him in his eyes and show just how confident you are in yourself!

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7 Flash a Smile

Finally, put a smile on your face! This is honestly one of the best ways to appear completely approachable and it will instantly lure any guy in at all! Also, a smile is a great way to let him know that you are interested and that you find him funny. Trust me on this, smiling can go a very long way!

Flirting without overdoing it is really difficult, but it can be done! If you're a girl that doesn't know who to flirt without completely overdoing it, did these tips help? What other tips do you have for flirting? Give it up!

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