Finding the right ways to get over someone that you've never, ever had is difficult! We've all had that crush that we can't get over, we've all had that feeling of trying to get over someone that we've never had before , but how do you actually move past those feelings? Below, I've come up with the top 7 ways to get over someone you've never had and how you can move on from the relationship that was never yours.
1. Don't Dwell
Firstly, you've got to remember that you shouldn't dwell on something that you've never had! This is one of the surefire ways to get over someone you've never had – don't dwell! Dwelling on how well they looked passing you in the hallway or how great they smelled that one time you interacted isn't going to help you move on.
2. Don't Obsess over Small Things
While this might seem similar to dwelling, obsessing over the small things, such as a small touch, a light conversation or even an invitation to eat lunch together doesn't mean that you had the person and it certainly isn't a cause for obsession. You've really got to make sure that you don't obsess, as that is a surefire barrier that will hold you back from moving on.
3. You Might Have Remembered It Wrong
How about your memory? Do you really think that the person you are interested in was interested in you? Do you remember their moods and how they reacted to you correctly? Did they really … actually flirt with you? If they didn't pursue a relationship with you outright and didn't want to become at least friends to find out more about you, those little things you are obsessing over – you might have remembered them wrong.
4. Keep Active
You've really got to make sure that you are keeping yourself active when you are trying to get over someone that you've never, ever had. Why not take up a hobby or even start something new and fresh that you've never done before? Exercising is also a great release of nervous energy!
If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.
5. Make Plans on Your Own
While keeping active is great, you've also got to make plans of your own. For example, going out for a night out on the town with your girlfriends or even heading out on your own to dance the night away is absolutely one of the greatest ways to get over a relationship that you never had.
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6. Realize You Never Had Them
While you might live in the future, where you might have been in a relationship with this guy or girl, but you weren't. Facing this reality is so, so hard but it will really help in getting over them. Remember girls, keep your chin up!
7. It's Okay to Cry
Finally, it's okay to cry! A lot of people think that crying isn't something that you should ever do, that you shouldn't ever allow yourself to mourn the relationship, but that simply isn't true. So cry all you want girls, get it all out.
Now that you have some direction on how to get over that relationship that was never yours, what other methods do you have? Share them below with me! I'd love to hear how you get over relationships.
Comments
shont: This is my life as we speak smh!
Kimberley: Definitely needed to read this. I have a crush on a younger guy & it sucks! At first he seemed legitimately interested in me then it stopped but I think he's an all around nice guy which is hard to find in my town. Ahh the way he smiles is amazing , it's why I fell for him.
Niaa: I love this post! Seems very similar to what I'm currently going Through!
Jackie: I unrequited love sucks!
Donna: I have a crush on a boy who's the same age as me I tried lil ways to show that I like him but it's like he doesn't get the signal and i just wished that he realized I like him and hopefully he would like me back
splashhhh: Very toughtfull article!
Sterre: I had this with one of my teachers for more than a year. We had to work together and i wanted him to like me so bad that i read his signals wrong(and realised that too, so i was in a sane place )..or so i thought. Then, at a 3-day school trip, with alcohol involved, we had this long conversation about our feelings. Turns out he had liked me that entire year. We couldn't really create any distance between us because i was in his course 2 days per week. Finally, after this years' summer holiday, when we saw each other at school after seven weeks no seeing, most of our feelings were gone. Now i'm incredibly happy with my new boyfriend and he is happy with his new girlfriend. Things can seem , and be, pretty messed up but it can turn out perfectly well for both :-)!
Erin: I have feelings for a guy I never dated. I'm pretty sure I never even had a chance with him. He flirted a lot, then we hung out and after that, it's like we aren't friends. I even work with him. I enjoyed talking to him outside of work because I felt I had a real friend. I'm trying to forget about "it" all, but it's really hard. He even knows how I feel, but he constantly flirts with other girls right in front of me. I feel like I just want to cry.
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