7 Ways to Get over Someone You Never Had ...


7 Ways to Get over Someone You Never Had ...
7 Ways to Get over Someone You Never Had ...

Finding the right ways to get over someone that you've never, ever had is difficult! We've all had that crush that we can't get over, we've all had that feeling of trying to get over someone that we've never had before , but how do you actually move past those feelings? Below, I've come up with the top 7 ways to get over someone you've never had and how you can move on from the relationship that was never yours.

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Don't Dwell

Firstly, you've got to remember that you shouldn't dwell on something that you've never had! This is one of the surefire ways to get over someone you've never had – don't dwell! Dwelling on how well they looked passing you in the hallway or how great they smelled that one time you interacted isn't going to help you move on.


Don't Obsess over Small Things

While this might seem similar to dwelling, obsessing over the small things, such as a small touch, a light conversation or even an invitation to eat lunch together doesn't mean that you had the person and it certainly isn't a cause for obsession. You've really got to make sure that you don't obsess, as that is a surefire barrier that will hold you back from moving on.


You Might Have Remembered It Wrong

How about your memory? Do you really think that the person you are interested in was interested in you? Do you remember their moods and how they reacted to you correctly? Did they really … actually flirt with you? If they didn't pursue a relationship with you outright and didn't want to become at least friends to find out more about you, those little things you are obsessing over – you might have remembered them wrong.


Keep Active

You've really got to make sure that you are keeping yourself active when you are trying to get over someone that you've never, ever had. Why not take up a hobby or even start something new and fresh that you've never done before? Exercising is also a great release of nervous energy!


Make Plans on Your Own

While keeping active is great, you've also got to make plans of your own. For example, going out for a night out on the town with your girlfriends or even heading out on your own to dance the night away is absolutely one of the greatest ways to get over a relationship that you never had.


Realize You Never Had Them

While you might live in the future, where you might have been in a relationship with this guy or girl, but you weren't. Facing this reality is so, so hard but it will really help in getting over them. Remember girls, keep your chin up!


It's Okay to Cry

Finally, it's okay to cry! A lot of people think that crying isn't something that you should ever do, that you shouldn't ever allow yourself to mourn the relationship, but that simply isn't true. So cry all you want girls, get it all out.

Now that you have some direction on how to get over that relationship that was never yours, what other methods do you have? Share them below with me! I'd love to hear how you get over relationships.

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Really like your advise

I must admit that I feel a little silly about commenting on one of these... But an impartial third party would definitely help. I am a high school/college student with a little bit of dating under my belt. I haven't dated in two years, though- my last relationship ended in an absolutely horrid manner and I have been reluctant to trust anybody since. He is a college freshman (a complete nerd, like me) with absolutely no dating under his belt. We met at work in September and I quickly developed feelings for him. This was a surprise for me. So, anyways... We started going to movies and stuff (in groups and alone), but I always initiated these outings. As he went to high school with my friend, I knew quite a bit of his background and assumed it was because he was shy with girls. So, last Friday night I revealed to him (using a flip book) that I "was wondering if he go on a date with me?") He smiled the entire time I presented the flip book, and said that he "would love to go on a date with me." He confirmed that it would be his first. (I FEEL LIKE I'M WRITING A BOOK FOR YOU GUYS- please be patient with me). So we arranged to go to Thor on Sunday at 7. We're both comic nuts. We talked in the parking lot for around 30 minutes after the movie and he asked if he could kiss me. And I, of course, said yes. So we kissed once. It was his first kiss. It was chaste. But super sweet. Afterwards, I texted him. I told him I had an amazing time and he said that there would be a second date. But when I texted him on Thursday, asking him if he would be able to do something over the weekend, he didn't even respond. I mean, I wouldn't have been angry had he said no. But it does bother me that he doesn't seem to deem me worthy of a response. And on Friday, at work, he treated me in the same way he always does (which isn't bad) but didn't even seem to acknowledge that I had sent the message or even that the date had even occurred. I really don't want to seem overly clingy.... But I have never put my heart out on the line like I did before... And to be honest, I kind of regret it because I now feel ridiculously vulnerable. I keep thinking it could be because of my body (I'm 5'6 and weigh 171 pounds, so I'm kind of fat) and he's ridiculously skinny (he's probably 5'10 and he once told me he weighs 170)... But anyways, we don't look that awkward together. I mean, I'm losing weight and since he's taller than me, I don't look like a giant next to him. I've rambled long enough. To the point- Has he already lost interest? Was he never interested? I know you haven't met him, but... I tried to be as thorough as possible. PS- please don't sugarcoat it. If the information that I have given indicates that he doesn't want me, then please tell me.

How can you get over someone when they know you like them and you try to ignore him but he continues to flirt? But also flirts with other girls?

I met someone over 3 months ago - HUGE chemistry and he expressed how interested he was in me and cared about me. Unfortunately things in his life started to get complicated (VERY) and took a toll on him. He travels a lot due to military and due to his situation he said he needed some time to sort things out. For 2 months during his travels we communicated daily via email or text. He opened up to me and I was fully supportive. Unfortunately....my fear came true. I know too much about his skeletons now and in turn he is seeing someone else that knows nothing. I know its helping him "escape" his wounds by being with someone else he can hide it all from. Im just dealing with the feeling of 'losing' him. Ive been going out on other dates....but I compare all of them to him. I had just hoped once his life calmed down we would be able to explore a relationship. Now Im a friend, a confidant, and 'very important to him' he says. So in a way, I did have him....but lost him due to being a good friend to him in the worst times. :(

I have a crush on a boy who's the same age as me I tried lil ways to show that I like him but it's like he doesn't get the signal and i just wished that he realized I like him and hopefully he would like me back

This is the story of my life, getting over people who I've never had

Also if you truly WANT to get over someone, let go of the possibility that you have a chance. Still having that hope in your heart won't help you move on.

I love this post! Seems very similar to what I'm currently going Through!

So about eight months ago I was working at a local store in my hometown where this guy worked with me. We hit it off at first and then about two to three weeks later he got back together with his ex girlfriend, but kept flirting and messaging me most of the time. When things started to get confusing, I started to ask him questions that he really didn't want to answer or questions that annoyed him, but he always came back and continued to message me. About two months ago we started sexting on snap chat and almost had sex a couple of times. This would happen about every two weeks. Then, a couple of weeks ago, we had sex. It was my first time so I was pretty nervous and told him to stop a couple of times, but we started back up soon after. After we were done, he hugged me and told me that we would hang out again sometime. I ended up messaging him a couple days after and a conversation got brought up about that night, and I said maybe we can do it again sometime, and all he said was maybe. That next Thursday he ended up messaging me telling me to come over to hangout and when I was about a minute away from his place he called me and said that he had to cancel and that I couldn't come over anymore. We haven't talked in about a week, and I feel like he just used me for sex that one time and then forget about me.

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