Finding the right ways to get over someone that you've never, ever had is difficult! We've all had that crush that we can't get over, we've all had that feeling of trying to get over someone that we've never had before , but how do you actually move past those feelings? Below, I've come up with the top 7 ways to get over someone you've never had and how you can move on from the relationship that was never yours.
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1. Don't Dwell
Firstly, you've got to remember that you shouldn't dwell on something that you've never had! This is one of the surefire ways to get over someone you've never had – don't dwell! Dwelling on how well they looked passing you in the hallway or how great they smelled that one time you interacted isn't going to help you move on.
2. Don't Obsess over Small Things
While this might seem similar to dwelling, obsessing over the small things, such as a small touch, a light conversation or even an invitation to eat lunch together doesn't mean that you had the person and it certainly isn't a cause for obsession. You've really got to make sure that you don't obsess, as that is a surefire barrier that will hold you back from moving on.
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3. You Might Have Remembered It Wrong
How about your memory? Do you really think that the person you are interested in was interested in you? Do you remember their moods and how they reacted to you correctly? Did they really … actually flirt with you? If they didn't pursue a relationship with you outright and didn't want to become at least friends to find out more about you, those little things you are obsessing over – you might have remembered them wrong.
4. Keep Active
You've really got to make sure that you are keeping yourself active when you are trying to get over someone that you've never, ever had. Why not take up a hobby or even start something new and fresh that you've never done before? Exercising is also a great release of nervous energy!
5. Make Plans on Your Own
While keeping active is great, you've also got to make plans of your own. For example, going out for a night out on the town with your girlfriends or even heading out on your own to dance the night away is absolutely one of the greatest ways to get over a relationship that you never had.
6. Realize You Never Had Them
While you might live in the future, where you might have been in a relationship with this guy or girl, but you weren't. Facing this reality is so, so hard but it will really help in getting over them. Remember girls, keep your chin up!
7. It's Okay to Cry
Finally, it's okay to cry! A lot of people think that crying isn't something that you should ever do, that you shouldn't ever allow yourself to mourn the relationship, but that simply isn't true. So cry all you want girls, get it all out.
Now that you have some direction on how to get over that relationship that was never yours, what other methods do you have? Share them below with me! I'd love to hear how you get over relationships.
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cassey: Been trying to get a guy out of my head for many months. #3 is so on the mark. Good riddance, that's what I say :-)
Katie: yesterday was the last day of school for me and I am going to a different school next year..I have a crush on this kid at my school but the problem is he is in a lower grade and now I am going to middle school and u will never see him again😰 even though I did not no him that we'll I sill liked him and I new he would never like me and now I will never see him again and I don't no what to do..I have tried talking to my friend but It is like they don't care..I don't no what to do..please any help
WelltheN: I've still have feelings for this guy who I randonly met and because hr goes to school 16hours from me we are mot yogether nor do we communicate. I ho.estly dont know why that is ehen hes in town I feel so happy and more positive and when he leaves I literally cry every night becausr it,feels like he takes a peoce of me with him and I feel empty and uninterested in anyone else because he was so perfect and he really "got"
Rose: Also if you truly WANT to get over someone, let go of the possibility that you have a chance. Still having that hope in your heart won't help you move on.
Natasha: I feel in love.. Yes I'm in grade 10 yes I'm to "young" but I love him so much and he fell for me to. I could see it. :( but then he took my virginity.. And left me :'( after that he never told me why.. And I'm going on my 4th month and still crying over him.. What can I do..
Joey: I met someone over 3 months ago - HUGE chemistry and he expressed how interested he was in me and cared about me. Unfortunately things in his life started to get complicated (VERY) and took a toll on him. He travels a lot due to military and due to his situation he said he needed some time to sort things out. For 2 months during his travels we communicated daily via email or text. He opened up to me and I was fully supportive. Unfortunately....my fear came true. I know too much about his skeletons now and in turn he is seeing someone else that knows nothing. I know its helping him "escape" his wounds by being with someone else he can hide it all from. Im just dealing with the feeling of 'losing' him. Ive been going out on other dates....but I compare all of them to him. I had just hoped once his life calmed down we would be able to explore a relationship. Now Im a friend, a confidant, and 'very important to him' he says. So in a way, I did have him....but lost him due to being a good friend to him in the worst times. :(
Helen: Really like your advise
splashhhh: Very toughtfull article!
Niaa: I love this post! Seems very similar to what I'm currently going Through!
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