8 Ways to Know That Hes Boyfriend Material ...

8 Ways to Know That Hes Boyfriend Material ...
By Diana • Aug 31, 2012

If you’re head over heels for the guy you’ve been seeing, you’re probably wondering whether or not he’s boyfriend material. Even if he can make you melt with his smile, you should proceed with caution in order to protect your precious heart. As someone who’s been in her fair share of relationships, I’ve rounded up the top 8 ways to know that he’s boyfriend material. Does he deserve your love and devotion? Find out now!

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1. He Pursues His Goals

One of the first ways to know that he is boyfriend material is to think about all those times he’s discussed his goals with you. If he’s hard at work pursuing his dreams, that’s a very good sign. But if your guy doesn’t take his future seriously, ask yourself how he’s going to value a long term relationship. Do you really want a couch potato boyfriend who asks you for a sandwich every few hours? Didn’t think so!

2. He Respects His Family

Another important way to know that he’s boyfriend material is if he respects his family. I would never date anyone who doesn’t treat family members with compassion and respect. Because if you’re looking to become a part of his family one day, he could start treating you the same way. Keep an eye out, ladies!

3. He Respects You

A key way to know that he’s boyfriend material is to consider how he treats you –both when you’re alone with him and around his pals. If he’s sugary sweet when you’re intimate with him but ignores you when his friends arrive, he’s probably not the right guy for a relationship. Remember: you deserve a man who wouldn’t hesitate to show you off to anyone and everyone, so don’t settle for any less!

4. He’s Not Dependent on His Buddies

If you’re mulling over taking your relationship to the next level, I’d urge you to first study how he makes decisions. When your guy can’t even choose a breakfast dish at the local diner without texting his boys, you may need to reconsider going Facebook official with him. As girls, we’ve all asked our gal pals for everything from clothing tips to relationship advice. But if he’s glued at the hip with his posse, walk away. You won’t regret it!

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5. He Pays Attention

Another vital way to know that he’s boyfriend material is to give him a little quiz. Ask him what your favorite color is, which classes you’re taking, and how many best friends you have –and anything else you’ve told him repeatedly over the past few weeks. If he aces the test, you know he’s right for you. But if you find out he hasn’t been paying attention at all, it’s time to move on to a guy who will.

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6. He’s Trustworthy

Are you his number one or one of a million? Can’t help but suspect he’s being less than truthful? You need to talk to him about it –sooner rather than later. Trust is the glue that holds relationships together. Without it, you’ll be peering over his shoulder as he hides texts from the (possible) other woman.

7. He’s Interesting

Does the guy you’ve been dating bore you to tears? Gals, that’s bad news! Don’t get me wrong: a man with a heart of gold is great! But, if he’s lacking in the personality department, he might not be boyfriend material. I’d give him a few more shots (because he might simply be nervous around you. Aw!), but if he keeps falling flat, it’s time to take your amazing sense of humor elsewhere.

8. He Makes Time for You

One final way to know that he’s boyfriend material is to think about how much time you spend with him. While you shouldn’t feel suffocated in a relationship, you also don’t want to feel like he’s always ditching you. Even when I was balancing an internship and heavy class load, I almost never canceled a date. So, if you can find time, so can he –no excuses!

These are a few of the top ways to know that your guy is boyfriend material. Does he pass the test? What are some of your own tried and true ways to tell that he’s ready for a relationship?

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Some of these thoughts are terrible advice. Just because some of these things don't happen doesn't mean someone is not boyfriend material.

help mine keeps telling me he loves me but i dont really feel the love because he nerver really wants to spend tme toghther and his always flirty with utha girls all the time so he just says i flirt with them but we dont do anything and im kinda finding that hard to believe so yea any tips? and i dont wanna break up with him because i love him even though he wasnt like this before its just something sudden but im not sure his worth all the tears and pain help??

Hi there is a boy at school who i have had a crush on for 2 years but i cant seem to ask him out, i cant stop thinking about what he would say after i ask him. What should i do

i think thats a good idea brecause what if he likes u to and if he does it back then that means he likes you too

Hi, I really like this guy and I've known him for quite a long time (I'm 15) because our parents are friends. We started texting a few months ago and right after christmas I told him I liked him and he responded with "I do like you, but I have a girlfriend :/" He used to flirt with me and when he came over with his parents before christmas he stared at me a few times and looked me in the eyes when we talked and was trying to be impressive when talking to my nan, I thought he liked me! He never let on that he had a girlfriend and he's tried to flirt with me once after I told him I liked him but I told him to stop and he apologised for leading me on. We're still really good friends but I don't know what to think!! :/ help!!

School just started and I'm already crushing on a guy. We had the same classes but he switched out so I don't get to see him often anymore. But right now the only way I can communicate with him is threw twitter and texting. I really want to become friends but kinda act like lovers at the same time so he can start liking me too. Do you think that's a good idea?

Hi @Paulina, I believe the relationship you have there starting off is somewhat normal but can be really bad if it becomes a habit. Try to talk to your boyfriend just like heather had said. Talking things out will open up his eyes to realize what is bothering you and understand that what he is doing isn't really working out for you. When I started off with my boyfriend, we actually went on a few dates with just us two. I feel like a guy that can't be dependable to keep up plans is a little irresponsible because if he can't handle little things like scheduling a date, then they may not be ready for a relationship. You guys are in one month, but sooner or later, you guys will need to open up more to eachother especially if something bothers you. I understand that frustrating feeling, I've experienced the SAME thing in the past with my ex. But my current boyfriend and I have a wonderful relationship because I always talk to him if anything has bothered me. Build up that confidence to tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't appreciate it, then he doesn't deserve to be in a relationship with someone like you, that cares. Good Luck :)

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