7 Ways to Stop Repeating the Same Mistakes with Men ...

By Alison

7 Ways to Stop Repeating the Same Mistakes with Men ...

Are you always making the same mistakes when it comes to romance? Do you always date guys that use you or do your relationships never progress beyond a few weeks or months? These patterns can be changed if you understand what is going wrong and why. So here's how to stop making the same mistakes with men, and get your love life back on track …

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Be Honest with Yourself

If you're going to break the cycle, then some brutal self-assessment is needed. So be absolutely honest with yourself. That doesn't mean beating yourself up and hating yourself, but beginning to understand why you keep making the same mistakes. Once you've done that, you can start to change your approach and build better relationships.

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Where Are You Going Wrong?

You also need to understand just where you are going wrong. Look for the common denominator in your relationships (aside from yourself). Is it that you always fall for guys who aren't looking for the same things? Or do you get freaked out when it gets too serious? Learn where you're making your mistakes so that you can do something about them.

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Why do You Make the Same Mistakes?

You also need to understand why you're repeatedly making the same mistakes. For example, if you get scared off by commitment it could be for different reasons. You may have seen your parents' marriage break up and fear the same thing would happen to you, so subconsciously make it happen anyway. Or you just may not be that into the idea of long-term relationships. The two issues demand a very different response, so this is why understanding yourself is important.

UPD:

Understanding the root cause of your patterns can lead to breakthroughs in your relationships. Ask yourself the tough questions, like whether you have unresolved fears or insecurities that manifest in your romantic life. Reflect on your past relationships and look for commonalities that might indicate a deeper issue. Remember, self-awareness is key to initiating change. Once you identify the cause, you can begin to work on it consciously, and with time, you might find that you're no longer drawn into the same type of situations that once held you back. Empower yourself with knowledge and introspection to break the cycle.

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The Change Has to Be within You

If the pattern of your relationships is going to change, then there needs to be a change within you. Don't just expect things to magically alter if you don't do some work on yourself! As I've already pointed out, you are one of the common denominators in your relationships, so you need to make things different.

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Take a Break from Dating

You may be making the same mistakes with men because you're continually rushing from one relationship to another without giving yourself time to think. Being in a hurry to find love again can make us miss warning signs. So consider whether you could benefit from taking a break from dating.

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One who gains strength by overcoming obstacles possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity.

Albert Schweitzer
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Think with the Head, Not with the Heart

Love may come from the heart, but you also need to use your head if you want to get things right. Don't just let your feelings take over; use your brain and common sense as well. This will help you to make smart decisions about romance and catch yourself before you repeat the same mistakes you've made before.

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Take Responsibility

Finally, take responsibility for yourself and improving your romantic life. It's all too easy to blame the guys you date, but thinking that it's always someone else's fault won't change anything. You make choices in a relationship, so learn to make the right ones. Or you'll never break the cycle.

It can take a lot of time and thought to understand why you keep making the same mistakes with men, but it's worthwhile taking the trouble to do so. That will help you make better choices in the future. What mistakes do you always make with men?

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I would really like some advice on how to handle this situation😭😭

They are all saying the same thing just using different words

To the lady who's husband wanted a threesome with a guy...I honestly think he doesn't repeat u and a lot of men these day don't know anything about respect...run from him as fast as I can...it will hurt now but not forever...

Thoughts on an ex wanting to catch up over drinks? He broke up with me 3 years ago, I cut off contact to move on. I have, with a wonderful guy for 1.5 years. Current BF would be pissed if I met up with my ex, but I desperately want closure because...

@beauty is in the beholder Your husband bringing in another man into the bedroom without your knowledge or consent is a big breach of trust -- make sure you sit down with him and tell him why you feel hurt and why you don't feel comfortable with the 3some

I meant "u can"

I think I am in love or infatuated or maybe obsessed with him but tbh Idk

Recently my husband of 5 years surprised me by wanting a threesome with another guy involved I told him I'm not willing to do this but time to time we will dirty talk about it just to spice him up since that's his fantasy to tie me up and have two guys well u know... Then one night recently he blindfold me and there was another guy in the room without my knowledge something made me take off the blindfold and I saw the other guy I freaked the hell out and panic and I kicked them both out the door I am still torn up about it I want my marriage to work but after this how can I rebuild again need some advice please

If u stay with a man who doesn't repeat u U WILL HURT FOREVER

I've been in 2 awful relationships. My first one caused me to have anxiety attacks. My second one physically and emotionally took advantage of me and caused me to feel extremely nauseous and sick to my stomach whenever he messaged me or wanted to see me. I wish I could relieve myself of the anxieties of my previous relationships, but I'm having trouble :(

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