Finding out that he is not over his ex is so difficult to handle. Just like when we fall deep in love, it can take a long time for a boy to get over his ex. That doesn't mean that he should automatically jump into another relationship though. If you are looking for signs that he is not over his ex, you've got to take a look below. I've compiled all of the ways that you can tell he's not over her and what you can do about it! Who knows what you'll find and if your guy is still hung up on his ex!
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1. Constant Facebook Wall Posts
Facebook is not the end all or be all, but one surefire way to tell he is not over his ex is by constant wall posts back and forth between him and his ex. If you're seeing him posting on her wall and she's posting on his – or even tagging pictures of him, that's not a good sign girls. It also could mean that he is still involved with her, which is not good for anyone.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
2. Keeps Her Number in His Phone
Have you checked your boyfriend's phone at any time? Does he still have his ex's number in there? That's a sign girls. If he hasn't had the heart to delete her number or even has the heart to stop texting or calling her, that could be one of the ways that you can tell that he's still hung up on her. Confront him about this girls, it might be the only way you can find out if he truly is still involved.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
3. His Status Still States 'in a Relationship' … with Her
Facebook might not be the end all, be all – as I stated previously, but if he is still 'in a relationship' with her, why hasn't he changed that yet? If he is going to be 'in a relationship' publicly, it should be with you right? This is something that I would confront right off the bat, just to make sure that you aren't getting duped!
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
4. He Gets Jealous over Her
Is your boyfriend the jealous type? Is he constantly jealous over things that his ex does – but not so much over things that you do? That's another sign that he could still be in love with her. After all, why would get jealous over someone that you aren't in love with? Why would you care what they do?
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
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5. He Can't Talk about His past without Getting Emotional
Most of the time, when a guy talks about his ex, he shouldn't get too emotional about it – if he is over her. If you find that he is constantly getting emotional over his past or even that he can't talk about his ex at all, that could be a sign that he's still hung up on her … and that's why he can't talk about her!
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
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6. He Hides Things from You
When you're in a relationship, you should be completely open and honest, no matter what. You shouldn't ever have to hide something from your partner. If you are finding that your boyfriend is hiding things from you. Small things, big things, any things – it could be a sign that it has something to do with her.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
7. He Makes Constant Plans with Her
Ah, this is a big one isn't it? If he is constantly making plans with her, to meet up for dinner or drinks and insists that it is nothing and you are friends – is that really the truth? I know that exes can sometimes be friends with their ex-boyfriends, but do you really think that is all that is going on?
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
8. He Hasn't Taken the Healing Time
Finally, are you the rebound girl? How much time has passed since the two of them have broken up? This could be one of the biggest signs that he is still hung up on his ex girls, he just hasn't allowed himself enough time to heal before jumping into another relationship. You've got to watch that and understand.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
9. He Always Mentions Her
How often does her name come up in conversation? It doesn't matter if he's complimenting her, complaining about her, or comparing you to her--it's not a good sign. If he was over her, she wouldn't be running through his mind while he was spending time with you.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
10. He'll Drop Everything for Her
If he cancels your date, because she needed a ride to work, something's seriously wrong. If you're now his girlfriend, then you should come first. Her needs should never be placed above yours.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
11. He Keeps Her Gifts around
Does he still keep the teddy bear she bought him on his bed? If they were together for a long time, he's bound to have some knickknack from her laying around, but he should do his best to get rid of them. He doesn't need any reminders of her.
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It's common for people to keep mementos from past relationships, but if a guy still has his ex's gifts on display, it could be a sign that he's not over her. These reminders can make it difficult for him to move on and fully invest in a new relationship. This behavior may also indicate that he's not ready to let go of the past and is still holding onto hope of getting back together with his ex. It's important for him to let go of these items in order to fully move on and give his new relationship a fair chance.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
12. He Has Pictures on His Phone
If he still has an album full of pictures of her on his phone, or actually uses her photo as his background, then he's not over her. The same goes for if he saves screenshots of flirty conversations they had when they were dating. If that's the case, you need to run.
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It's common for people to hold onto memories of their past relationships, but when it comes to a new potential partner, it's important to make sure they are fully over their ex. In the context of this article, having pictures of an ex on their phone or using them as a background can be a red flag that they are not emotionally ready to move on. This behavior could indicate that they still have feelings for their ex and are not fully invested in the current relationship. It's important to have open and honest communication about past relationships to ensure a healthy and trusting partnership.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
13. You Feel like You're Competing
If he's dating you, he should make you feel special. He shouldn't compare you to his ex, and expect you to act just like she did. If you feel like you're not good enough for him, because he's always mentioning his ex, then he's not over her.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
14. He Says the Wrong Name
This is a huge mistake on his part. If he accidentally calls you by her name, then she's still on his mind. If it happens once, you might be able to let it slide, but when it happens a second time, end the relationship.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
15. He Has a Pet Name in His Phone
If he still has her number in his phone, pay attention to what name she is under. If he doesn't change the pet name he has her listed under, then it's a bad sign. When she contacts him, he shouldn't see that "honey bun" is calling.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
16. He's Not Happy for Her
When she enters a new relationship, your man should be happy for her. If he's jealous or claims that she deserves better, then you should be careful. His feelings for her still exist.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
17. He Won't Commit
If he refuses to call you his girlfriend, something is wrong. He may not be ready to jump into a new relationship just yet, or he may want to stay single in case his ex decides to get back with him. Refusing to commit is a huge red flag.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
18. He's Emotionally Unstable
Is he happy one second and then miserable the next? That might just be his personality, but it might be a result of his breakup. If he still misses her and hasn't gotten over her, he's going to be emotionally unstable until he heals.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
19. His Family Loves Her
Your man can't control how his family behaves, but it's never good when they complain to him about breaking up with her. If his family wishes you were out of the picture, it may weigh on your relationship. His parents know him better than anyone, so if they think he was happier with his ex, they may be right.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
20. He Ignores Your Complaints
If you tell him that you're uncomfortable that he texts her, and he doesn't care, then he's still into her. He should care more about your opinion than he does about talking to someone from his past. If he ignores your complaints, you don't need him.
If he's constantly talking about her or comparing you to her, that's a big red flag. Pay attention if he gets emotional when her name comes up, or worse, if he still has photos of her on his phone.
There could be many reasons. Maybe they ended on good terms, or he's just not ready to let go. But if it bothers you, it's worth talking to him about it.
It's understandable to feel uneasy about it. Try to have an open and honest conversation with him to understand why he still has them.
Trust your instincts. If you feel like a rebound, it's important to talk to him and consider if this relationship is what you really want.
It's quite common. Everyone moves on at their own pace, but it's important to see if they're willing to build a future with you, rather than dwelling in the past.
21. He Tells You
Some men are brutally honest. If you ask him about his ex, he might tell you that he's not over her. It doesn't mean that you have to end your relationship, but it definitely means that you should be careful until he's fully healed.
So girls, you asked for it and we delivered! Here are all of my signs to tell if he is still hung up on his ex. What other signs are out there? Give a shout in the comments!
This article was written in collaboration with Holly Riordan.
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Jenjen: I never leave ex- men phone number in my phone or tex them back... We are all women with sense.. NEXT????..lol
Deborah: Tip, eventhough you do not want any contact with ex. The ex might not be over you. It is helpfull to keep phonenumber on phone so you immediately see who is calling and do not pick up.
Jenjen: When your man ends the relationship dont pick him back up.. Eg dont take him back.. Move on ladies ..
Ese: U wudn't want to kip ur exes number on ur fone cos u r stilll hung up ova him & as such dnt want to be tempted to calling him
Modupe: Because she is his ex doesn't mean he should delete her number. Right ?
lisa: omg this is all a new site for me because im crying writing this all this is all what im going through i needed this helpful information thank you so much
Mimi31: five years into a relationship 3 kids he has three previous one today saw only pics of his ex baby moms and not one single pic of me what should i do
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