Have you ever found yourself in the unfortunate situation where you can physically and emotionally feel your partner pulling away from you and becoming less present in your relationship? This can be a really upsetting thing to realise, especially if your feelings are just as strong now as they were at the beginning of your partnership, but no matter what, you can’t just allow things to carry on the way that they are going. Here is what to do when your partner is losing interest in your relationship.
1. Focus on Self Worth
Don’t get obsessed with compromising yourself to do things that you think might make him happy. You can’t try to save a relationship at the expense of your own self-worth. For example, if you doubt that your partner finds you attractive anymore, don’t think about what he likes, think about what you might want to do in order to make you feel better about yourself instead.
2. Back to Basics
Take things back to basics to remind him of what made the two of you fall in love in the first place. Approach things with a lighter touch, fun dates, movie nights, going to bars etc. These small things are sometimes the most important.
3. Understand His Needs
Try to figure out why he might be withdrawing from you, and if it seems to be some sort of external emotional problem, have a think about what you can do in order to let him see you can be a supporting rock for him rather than someone he has to hide his feelings from.
Don’t let this atmosphere continue without it being addressed. It is really important that you communicate your worries to your partner so that everything can be laid out on the table. You never know, it might transpire that his feelings haven’t changed at all, and your gut was giving you the wrong information for once! If there is something, you can talk about it and agree a way forward.
Always try to be as calm as possible when you are talking to him about your fears and worries. If you come to him in an accusatory or aggressive way, you are more likely to just push him away make him shut off even more. Always be kind and open when asking him if there are any problems that you need to know about.
Make sure to let him know that you are coming to him out of a place of love and peace and comfort. If he is already feeling doubtful about the relationship, you don’t want to give him any more conformation that you aren’t compatible as a pair anymore, in fact you want to be doing the exact opposite.