My flirting days are over, but I remember how awkward I was when I used to try. I mean, I was just terrible. I'm still awkward – and I lied, I flirt often and well with my wife, but that's just because she finds my awkwardness appealing. You'll find someone whose awkward fits with yours, too, I promise. In the meantime, try these flirting tips. They ought to help, even if you're awkward AF.
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1. Counteract Your Awkwardness with Confidence
Counteract Your Awkwardness with Confidence
And if you have to fake it 'til you make it, that's cool. When you're confident, everyone tends to believe it.
2. Try to Slip in Some Great Conversation
Try to Slip in Some Great Conversation
You know interesting things, right? You might hate small talk, but that's all good. Use your weird trivia tidbits as conversation starters.
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Even if diving into deep topics feels a bit daunting, your quirky facts can totally be the gateway to show your unique personality. Let those slices of knowledge lead into more meaningful conversations. Remember that enthusiasm is contagious—if you're passionate about the curious things you know, chances are your eagerness will light up the room (and the eyes of that certain someone). So next time you're caught in the dreaded lull, pull out a fascinating fact and watch as it turns into the perfect icebreaker.
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3. Eye Contact is Important …
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Hard, but important. Practice in the mirror, or with your BFF.
4. … but Not Too Much
… but Not Too Much
Practice this, too. Or, rather, practice not doing this. You don't want to come off like a creeper.
5. Strategically Place Yourself in a Hottie's Vicinity
Strategically Place Yourself in a Hottie's Vicinity
Interested in somebody? Pretend you're a chess piece. Edge closer, put yourself in your crush's line of sight – but again, don't be creepy!
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Sometimes it's all about geographical convenience! Casually find reasons to be near where the action is, like grabbing a drink at the bar he's leaning on or perusing the book section he's browsing. Make your movements seem natural and coincidental. Remember to respect personal space. A subtle invasion can spark curiosity, but overstepping boundaries is a no-go. And when you catch their eye, offer a quick, charming smile before redirecting your attention. It's all about that cat-and-mouse game; make them wonder, "Is she interested in me?"
6. Ask an Easy Question to Get Things Going
Ask an Easy Question to Get Things Going
Make sure it's open-ended, too. Try to avoid yes or no question.
7. Bring out the Pearly Whites
Bring out the Pearly Whites
Flash that smile! That's actually an excellent way to give yourself a quick confidence boost, too.
8. Don't Stress Too Much
Don't Stress Too Much
It's not a big deal. None of this is the end of the world. Try to stay relaxed. It makes everything so much easier.
9. Embrace Your Awkwardness
Embrace Your Awkwardness
You need to be totally cool with who you are. Make your awkwardness work for you. Find your groove.
10. Let Your Quirks Shine
Let Your Quirks Shine
They're more interesting than you think they are. Yep, other people will think so, too.
11. Bring up Something Funny
Bring up Something Funny
Anecdotes are pretty awesome. It's also the perfect way to embrace your awkwardness because you probably have some stories that highlight it.
12. You Can Get a Little Close
You Can Get a Little Close
It's a body language thing. Don't cross any personal boundaries, but you can use your angles.
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Getting slightly closer to someone shows interest without being overwhelming. Lean in when they're talking to show you're engaged in the conversation. Touch their arm lightly during a laugh or make eye contact a tad longer than usual. These subtle cues suggest that you're into them, even if you're not saying it out loud. Just remember to read their reaction—if they lean in too, you're golden. If they seem uncomfortable, respect their space and take a step back.
13. Try Some Light Teasing
Try Some Light Teasing
Make it very, very light, though, and don't go overboard. You should also wait a while, until you're in a flowing, comfortable conversation.
14. Play Coy if You Can
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Nothing outlandish, but sometimes if you let your crush catch you looking, then look away, it's a clear sign of interest. You can flirt without having to say anything.
15. Get a Little Chummy
Get a Little Chummy
Play around, give your crush a hard time – whatever feels comfortable
16. Be Yourself – Fully
Be Yourself – Fully
Remember what I said: embrace your awkwardness. It's yours.
17. ...even if It is Awkward, Talk as Much as Possible
...even if It is Awkward, Talk as Much as Possible
Well, converse as much as possible, keep the conversation going as long as possible. Sometimes you have to push yourself.
What's the most awkward thing you've ever done when you were trying to flirt?
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Katya: Letting the conversation drop
Jessie: Ariana Grande when she was in the show Victorious.
Sidneyyyyyyy: But my bff is my crush
Dariia94: Eehhhheyyy
Rachel: Who's the girl in the first photo with the red hair? What's the TV show?
karen: I feel you
mm: My boyfriend is not writing to me for 2 days
JulieBee: What sort of open ended questions??
Anna: I never know how much eye contact LOL
Makaela: But what if ur bad at conversations like me. I never know what to say, especially during an awkward silence
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