You're a take-action kind of girl, not willing to wait around for something to happen TO you — you want to be the one to make things happen! That's why you're dying to text the guy you like, but how? I've got some stellar you-text-him-first tips to share... ready? 😆
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1. Get It Going
You've got his number, you know he likes you, it's time to act! Send him a short but direct text. If you haven't texted him before, identify yourself and say hi in a way you'll know he'll recognize it's you. For example, say, "Hi Hans! This is Anna from your math class. How did you do on that exam yesterday?"
2. Ask Questions... LOTS of Questions
First of all, asking questions will keep the conversation going... but it also lets him know you're interested in him, and by looking at his responses, you'll be able to tell how HE feels about YOU.
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3. Keep It Upbeat 😊
It's REALLY hard to express tone in a text, even with emojis. So when possible, keep the tone light and upbeat, so there's no confusion.
4. Flirt a Little 😏
Why is it so much easier to flirt over text than in person? Hone your flirting skills by being coy and cute, and don't be afraid to put yourself out there a little bit.
5. Be Prepared
He may ask you some tricky questions, so take advantage of the pause-to-think texting can give you to actually pause and think before you just fire off a text you might regret later.
6. Sign off Sweetly
When it's time to go, keep it light and maybe even slightly mysterious. Something like, "It's been great texting, but I've got to go. See you in math on Wednesday?"
7. Why Not...?
You're bold, you're brave — why not ask him out? The trick is, now that you've been clever and asked lots of questions, to be specific. Rather than saying, "Want to hang out sometime?" text him something like "Want to catch some Pokemon downtown on Friday? We could meet at Starbuck's on 5th after class..."
Do you have any other texting-him-first tips to share?
Comments
Kristen: 1-word responses are him trying to be polite, but he's not into you like that. AKA, friend zone. If he gives a decent answer, that's better. BUT, if he gives you a good answer & then returns with a question back to you that is good!
Kristen: Ok, so unless this is for girls in jr. high, my best advice is to just BE YOU! So many people try to pretend or act a certain way, etc., etc.
Kristen: Spoiler Alert; even if you text him some big planned out text that's just supposed to sound natural, it won't. He knows why you are actually texting him. I do agree to ask a lot of questions, 'cuz you can gauge how he's feeling by him responses.
avery: is anyone on?
Kristen: Go slow. Get to know each other. Really know each other; likes/dislikes, turn ons/turn offs, deal breakers & things you generally look for in a partner. Become best friends. It's how the best & lasting relationships start!
Solya: Just tell him something nasty
KATE____A: Does anyone have any good flirting tips?
Flawlesskiss7: Move to the next
Solya: Hha :P
Leah: What is the best way to ask a guy how hua weekend at the lake with his friends and two kids went? He's active duty airforce
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