Winter is upon us and there’s no better way to stay warm than to have a handsome man by your side (or in your bed). Naturally, it’s not as easy as just finding a guy you’re interested in and making him yours. If love were that easy, we’d all be engrossed in another human being 24/7. You’ve kind of got to work at it, show off your strong suits, and approach him in such a way that he simply cannot resist you.
How do you do that? By following these simple yet genius tips.
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1. Play It Cool
Men don’t overanalyse nearly as much as women do. Lord knows that I’ve had my fair share of near obsession over a guy, but essentially – it doesn’t get you anywhere (could someone please convince my mind of this?).
When you’re all up in his face trying to get his attention, he’s probably not going to conclude that you’re just a woman in love – he’s going to think of you as a crazy chick because annoyingly, the term “crazy” is thrown around way too easily when it comes to men. You’ve got to slowly but surely work your way into his mind by subtly catching his attention.
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Keeping a hint of mystery about yourself can be wildly attractive. Instead of laying all your cards on the table, allow him to wonder about you. Share interesting tidbits about your life and passions, but leave enough unsaid to pique his curiosity. Remember, a little space can go a long way – being present but not omnipresent gives him the chance to miss you and think about you. After all, absence can make the heart grow fonder, fueling his desire to learn more about you and spend time with you.
2. Talk about His Interests
I don’t know a thing about football and I’m not in the slightest bit interested in playing pool or drinking beer, but if that’s what he likes – then heck, that’s what I like. Have him tell you about the time he scored the winning goal or when he won a game of beer pong and act as though it’s the most impressive thing you’ve heard all week.
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Engage with his hobbies and learn a few things about his interests – whether it's a strategic move in chess, a record-breaking speedrun in his favorite video game, or the intricacies of DIY carpentry. Show genuine curiosity, and you might find yourself enjoying aspects you never thought you would. Plus, if you can surprise him with your insightful comments or questions next time, it'll surely make his day. Remember, it's the little things that show you care.
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3. Be Chill
Well, don’t be –too- chill, you don’t want the guy “friend-zoning’ you.
Essentially, you should be up for anything – an easy-going, fun-loving and happy girl who is easily amused at his funny (or lame) jokes. Don’t fuss too much about fancy outfits and sassy makeup just yet… that part comes later.
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Keep your vibe relaxed and your demeanor inviting—it sends out the cool and confident message that you're comfortable in your own skin and fun to be around. Sure, be a little playful and tease him to keep things interesting, but always with a warm smile. Remember, the goal is to create an environment where he feels he can be himself without too much pressure. It's that perfect blend of casual and caring that can spark his interest and make him see you as more than just a friend.
4. Flirt
Flirt with him ever so slightly… but also show interest in his friends and other guys. Make him aware that you are a girl who is wanted by other men. Not in a whore-ish way, but in a - you don’t know what you’re missing - kind of way. When you show him that there’s a possibility he can’t get you but someone else can - he will want you even more because, let’s face it, we all want what we can’t have.
5. Put on a Show
Once he’s got your attention, you should invite him out while wearing the sexiest outfit and makeup that he has yet to see.
Trust me, this works. After hanging out with a guy several times in seriously average clothes and boring makeup, then stepping up the game - the way that he looks at you when you’re dolled up will positively blow your mind.
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Showcasing yourself at your most stunning creates an unforgettable visual impact. Think smoky eyes, a bold lip, and that little black dress hugging every curve. The change in your appearance can act as a sizzling surprise that reignites his interest. It's not just about looking sensational, though; it's about feeling it too. When you exude confidence, you magnetize attraction. So channel your inner diva, strut your stuff, and watch him fall even deeper as your allure turns undeniable. Remember, confidence is the sexiest outfit. Own it, and you're sure to make his heart skip a beat.
6. Embrace Your Feminine Side
He’s seen you act cool, and he’s seen you be up for anything – now be the kind of girl that has sex appeal and a girly side. After seeing you dressed up and acting like a true woman, his opinion of you will sky rocket and the friend zone will be absolutely nowhere in sight.
7. Be Busy (and Post about It on Social Media)
Once you’ve got his attention, bail. You’re a sassy, hot woman who has more than enough friends and potential dates to keep you busy. There’s no reason why you should be showing signs of desperation when he finally wants you.
On the other hand, don’t be –too- busy. You want the guy, so make him yours… after he’s sweat a bit, of course.
While I am always first to say how much I hate games in a relationship, there’s always going to be some kind of mind-f--- when it comes to getting the guy you want. And if that be the case – knock that game out of the park, girl.
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Daddy:Have I
Ely:Be confident, but above all else, be yourself.
Mabelle:Feel confident about yourself. They love strong and intelligent women and hate dealing with women's insecurities.
Boncheri1:Yeah a guys interest is based where he is in life - career orientated or just been jilted - those two scenario's will have totally different outcomes even with this approach
Nidhi:Loved it!
K:Finally,some great and realistic tips you can always use:)
MellyMoi:Does this really apply to all types of guys?
Denise:And what do they have to do to get our attention ?? Hmmmm
MellyMoi:I think there are different types of guys out there and some of these "techniques" maybe work and for other it does not... A lot of guys are generally easy and make whores and by nature they are like that.. the "good" ones are another story...
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