No matter how beautiful or flirtatious you are, there will always be confusing things that guys do that will make you wonder how they feel. One day it’ll seem like he’s into you, and the next it’ll feel like he doesn’t care at all. Realizing that your crush isn‘t the only boy who causes confusion doesn’t make his actions okay, but at least you’ll know that you’re not alone. Everyone can agree that there are confusing things that guys do that girls just don't understand.
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1. M.I.a
He flirts with you non-stop for a week, but then he disappears from your life. You keep checking your phone, but you receive no texts. When you see him in person, he ignores you. But a few days later, he’s back to falling all over you. One of the most confusing things that guys do is acting interested one day and giving you the cold shoulder the next.
2. Flirting around
When your crush tells you how beautiful you look, it’s hard not to smile. But if he compliments other girls as well, it’ll make you wonder if he likes you or them. He might be interested in every girl that crosses his path, or he might just be having fun. You never know what’s going through his mind. Even if you ask him what his intentions are, he may give you a convoluted answer.
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3. Commitment Issues
Some men will ask you out, kiss you, and spend a large portion of their time with you. However, when it comes to defining your relationship, he acts as if you aren’t an item. He acts like your boyfriend, but doesn’t want to be considered your boyfriend. If he has commitment issues, the title may just scare him, and his reaction is harmless. But you have to watch out, because it could mean that he wants to remain single, so that he can pursue other interests.
4. Sheer Silence
When he’s upset and refuses to tell you what’s wrong, it’s difficult to decide what to do. Should you drop it? Or should you try to get him to express his feelings? When you don’t know what’s bothering him, it’s hard to help him. All you’re trying to do is make him feel better.
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If you decide to broach the topic, it's a delicate dance between showing concern and not pushing too hard. You might start with gentle reassurances, reminding him that you're there for him, no matter what's troubling him. Sometimes, offering a comforting presence can be more effective than probing questions. Reflect on whether giving him space to process his emotions could be the best course for now. Remember, if he's cocooning himself in silence, it might be his way of dealing with issues internally before he's ready to share.
5. False Statements
When a guy promises to call or text you, it’s frustrating when your phone remains silent. You’re not sure if he’s busy, forgetful, or dishonest. Should you call him instead? Should you wait until he finally gets around to making a call? Should you just forget about him? These questions plague our minds when a guy promises he’ll do something, but then leaves you hanging.
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It's absolutely baffling, isn't it? Are we dealing with a case of selective memory or just a digital-age Casanova with commitment issues? The world may never know. What's worse, in the whirlwind of contemplating if you're worth a simple message, self-doubt often creeps in. It's crucial, though, not to let this uncertainty shatter your confidence. Remember, a person's inability to keep their word reflects on them, not you. So keep your head high, your standards higher, and let actions—or the lack thereof—speak louder than empty promises.
6. Shy Boy
You had a nice night out, but he hasn’t asked you on a second date. You’re not sure if he lost interest, or if he’s too shy to ask you out for a second time. Why would a guy show interest, and then seemingly change his mind? If you think you could make a relationship work, just ask him out. There’s no harm in it. At least you’ll know how he feels.
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Sometimes, guys might not take the lead due to nerves or fear of rejection. Instead of overanalyzing, take the initiative. It's the 21st century, and there's no rule stating that a woman can't ask a man out. If you sense that he's interested but hesitant, be bold and make your move. This flips the script and could be incredibly refreshing for a guy who's not the most outgoing. Plus, it shows confidence on your part, which is an attractive trait. Who knows, he might have been waiting for you to make the next move all along.
7. Turn It Aroumd
It feels like you’re always stating your feelings to him, but then he calls you the confusing one. If you’re always blunt, there’s no reason for him to be confused. However, people are complicated creatures. Whether you’re male or female, you’re going to have issues interpreting others’ actions. If he thinks you’re as confusing as you think he is, sit down and have a talk.
Even if you find the perfect guy, he’ll still manage to perplex you. The only way to have a successful relationship is to have discussions to eliminate that confusion. Are you confused by any men at the moment?
Comments
Ikdiya: ouh i see ! but sometimes he kind make me feel useless
Catherine: All of these are basically about him ignoring you.
Lily: the first one is the worst. left in the unknown completely
Jamie: Yeah he said he likes me a lot and thinks I'm awesome but he can't do a relationship right now, I understand he did just get out of 3 year one like a month ago, all of this is fine but he's been kinda weird with me since we talked
Michelle: I so can relate especially the Mia stuff lol
Jenny: Tell me @MyBestFriend
Jenny: For Commitment Issues, don't bother. Men are like old dogs, it's very hard to teach them new tricks and that's only if they deem the reward is worth change. Forget and move to greener pastures
Jenny: For those dealing with MIA I highly suggest to ask him what's his game is. Most of the time I would say would be that he is keeping his options opened and loving the attention when you give it to him. Ego boosting for men is always encouraged so if they can get it from you then they would abuse it. Hence the flirt non stop and then sudden disappearance. Or it could be the case that he is just bored and you're convenient. Either results above doesn't sound good for you so ask and be clear about what you want and tell him firmly to stop yo-yo-ing on you.
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