You know, there's not much difference between heterosexual dating and LGBTQIA+ dating. In the end, we all want the same things – to meet someone we like being with, someone we share things with, someone who makes us happy. We want fun, we want sex, and we want love. Sharing knowledge and perspective is one of the best ways to educate people who maybe don't understand what it's like to be part of the LGBTQIA+ dating scene, so … here we go!
Love is love is love, after all, and none of us are really different in our quest to find someone special.
At the same time, however, there's no denying the fact that people in the LGBTQIA+ community face challenges that heterosexual people don't.
Just like some straight people date casually.
Just like some straight people enjoy having as much sex as possible.
Just like some straight people are simply looking for a soulmate.
For example, asexual people – who can be gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, and so on – generally don't have much, if any, desire for sex.
It depends entirely on the individual, but it also doesn't matter – nothing wrong with loving lots of sex.
“What do lesbians do on their second date?” “Rent a U-Haul.”
This is such a crap stereotype all the way around – being attracted to different genders does not mean that you want to date all of them at once.
This is a harmful stereotype, too – too few people understand what it actually means to identify as asexual.
For obvious reasons, an LGBTQIA+ couple out on a date must feel like they're safe – and make fun of “safe spaces” as much as you like, but there's clearly a need.
This isn't true everywhere, thank god, but most LGBTQIA+ couples who are on a date hesitate before daring to peck each other on the lips or even hold hands when they're in public because of the potential repercussions – at best, we may be accused of “shoving our sexuality down someone's throat” (or, as Heather and I have experienced, asked if we would like a threesome with “a real man”), and at worst, things can turn violent.
You never know what someone likes, what they want, or even how they identify.
There's such a wide, beautiful spectrum of people who need and want different things, present different ways, and identify with different sexualities.
One of my mom's friends is still convinced that I'd just love her lesbian niece, simply because we're both lesbians.
It's just considerate because … you know.
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