8 Relationship Tips to Follow for an Addict ...

Be Supportive • Don't Pressure • Curb Your Tongue • Allow Your Partner Time to Vent • Go to Therapy Together • More ...

8 Relationship Tips to Follow for an Addict ...
By Heather • Apr 6, 2013 MD

There are a lot of different relationship tips for an addict relationship, but what ones do you actually need to follow? Dating an addict is hard, no matter what type of addict it is. Being in a relationship with an addict can be even harder, especially if you've been with that person for a while. If you're wondering exactly what relationship tips for an addict to follow, you've got to take a look below. I've got everything from getting into a support group to allowing your partner time to vent.

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1. Be Supportive

I think one of the most important relationship tips for an addict to follow is all about being supportive. You can't expect your boyfriend or girlfriend to quit their addiction all on their own, they will need a support system and if you are going to stick around, you've got to be that for them. Support them and all of their progress and it'll make you both stronger in the end!

2. Don't Pressure

An addict cannot be pressured, as they are already constantly feeling pressured, especially in the beginning, to get and stay clean. The less pressure that you add on, the better off you are going to be. Remember, supporting doesn't mean that you have to be overwhelming.

3. Curb Your Tongue

I'm not saying that you need to curb your tongue all of the time, but in the beginning, curbing your speech and not making any remarks that could be construed as judgments is going to be really smart. You don't want to come off as judgy and you don't want to make your partner even more frustrated.

4. Allow Your Partner Time to Vent

Allowing your partner time to vent is going to be critical when you are in a relationship with an addict. They need to vent about their addiction, they need to let you know how they are feeling. This will honestly be the breaking point for you and your partner – whether you can just let them vent to you. They don't typically want solutions, just a common ground where they can use you as a sounding board.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Go to Therapy Together

Therapy is going to be a must when you are dating an addict, but why don't you try going to therapy with them? That's a great way to ensure that your relationship lasts and that you two grow stronger and stronger. Truthfully, I think that therapy is a great help and can really make sure that your relationship is an unbreakable bond.

6. Understand the Addiction

Therapy will also help you understand their addiction. If you've never been an addict, you probably don't understand their addiction and exactly what they are going through. This can cause a lot of resentment and can actually lead to breakups, if you let it.

7. Know What You Are Getting into

Before you jump head first into a relationship with an addict, you've got to know what you are getting yourself into. Being in a relationship with an addict is incredible, but it is a lot of work and you've got to make sure that you are careful and you don't allow them to relapse.

8. Have a Support Group Yourself

Finally, a support group for you, with people who are in a relationship with an addict could save you! A support group like this is a great way for you to vent and for you to get things off of your chest, without your partner finding out!

While being in a relationship with an addict can be really difficult, it is so worth it in the end. Have you ever been in a relationship with an addict? How did you handle it? Tell me!

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  • hagar

    2013-04-07T12:33:08.000Z

    I am in a relationship with one, i'm so in love with him and he always falls again and i can't help him.. This post is helpful though :)
  • Nicole

    2013-04-07T01:57:31.000Z

    I've been in a relationship with someone for over 4 years. he was addicted and is still recovering (and sometimes relapsing) for 2 years of the relationship. id have to agree with you that is it is difficult. But, in turn its all about how you look at it. If the majority of your relationship is healthy, then you have chance. You need good communication, dedication and be able to sacrifice. I love your tips.. its a good foundation to follow. Each and every relationship from there can hopefully blossom as they support each other
  • Liz

    2013-04-06T23:42:01.000Z

    This is a GREAT article but I would just like to add that SOME (not all) addicts are not at a point of being capable of love and it's a good idea to have an escape plan if things go sour. Once they start lying and stealing from you they are prioritizing a substance over you and it's important to have enough self respect to leave a relationship when this happens. You may love them and it hurts, but letting someone get away with shady behavior like that is called ENABLING. Sometimes a person must lose everything before they realize they need help. You can't force someone into recovery. It is possible to love and be loved by an addict and these are good tips, but don't sacrifice your life for someone!
  • Lizbeth

    2013-04-06T23:34:53.000Z

    "Being in a relationship with an addict is incredible..." ?
  • Brandi

    2013-04-07T05:15:20.000Z

    I am the recovering addict in my relationship. It's not necessarily a drug addiction, but it is an addiction none the less. I've only been dating my current boyfriend for a few weeks, but I'm also newly recovering. I was doing well with my recovery until I lost my biggest supporter last summer and things went sour for me again. I just turned my life around before this guy came into my life, and we've been friends forever so I knew I could trust him enough to help me recover. And so far, he has been great about it. When he first found out, it was a little rocky, but he told me he was willing to stick with me and make things work. He said he would always do his best to be there for me and give me an outlet so I didn't relapse. He's been soo good for me this far into our relationship and I couldn't be happier :)
  • Aleeya

    2013-04-08T00:53:14.000Z

    I've been in a relationship with a recovering addict for seven months, our relationship is great and I'm always trying to be supportive and understand that it's not me, it's him. HE needs to figure out what's going to work out for him, and all I can do is just be here and help him. It's been difficult because relapses do happen, especially just getting into recovery, but I love him and I'd rather support him and be here then just leave . As long as the addict wants a better life in some way and is working towards it, it's always worth it.
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