You want to believe that your boyfriend would never do anything to hurt you, but couples break up all the time. If you want to save your heart some trouble, you need to figure out if your man is the type to leave you broken and alone. It can be hard to think rationally when you're so obsessed with him, but it can be done if you take the time to think about things logically. Here are some clear signs that he's eventually going to hurt you:
Snapshot Survey
1. Confused and Changeable
Does he tell you that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you one day and then tell you he's worried about your relationship the next? If he's always going back and fourth between being completely in love with you and wanting to break up, then he's eventually going to leave you. He's obviously confused, which means it's probably good for him to take some time for himself. If your man doesn't seem to know what he wants from life or from you, then it's not a good sign.
2. BackUp Buddies
Does he keep his female friends a little too close? If he always texts girls, even after you tell him it makes you uncomfortable, he doesn't respect your opinion. The worst case scenario is that he's trying to keep some other women on his good side so that he can hook up with them once you break up.
3. No One Knows
If he won't change his relationship status on Facebook or introduce you to his parents, he might be trying to play the field. It's one thing to be afraid of commitment, but it's an entirely different thing to refuse to go out in public with you. If he's guilty of any of these things, something's fishy.
4. Can't Compromise
If you want to go ice skating, but he wants to go bowling, how do you settle the dispute? If he always gets his way, it means he doesn't care about your happiness. If you end up doing nothing at all, because it turned into a big fight, it's just as bad. If you want your relationship to last, you need to find ways to compromise.
5. Ex Examples
Has he told you what went down with his exes? If he says that his past relationships were perfect, but he ended it anyway, that's a red flag. If he cheated on an ex, that's another huge red flag. What happened in his past should stay in the past, but sometimes it bleeds into the present.
6. Always Uninformed
Do you know what he does with his friends when they hang out? Do you even know when he's going out? If he keeps you out of the loop, then he either doesn't trust you or doesn't want to open up to you. Either way, it means that your relationship is headed for disaster.
7. A Woman Warned
Your friends and family don't know your boyfriend as well as you do, but sometimes they can see things that you're blind to. If every single person you know has warned you about your man, then keep your eyes peeled for suspicious behavior.
Whenever you enter a relationship, you risk having your heart broken. That shouldn't stop you from falling in love, but it should urge you to be careful about whom you trust. Have you ever had your heart broken?
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