Relationship Alert 9 Signs Your Boyfriend Doesn't Respect You and How to Handle It ...

One of those issues that can really kill a relationship is a lack of respect. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't respect you? But sometimes it's not as obvious as you might think, and the lack of respect is more subtle. Here are some signs your boyfriend doesn't respect you, and what you should do about it …

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He Flirts in Front of You as if You Weren't There

Is your boyfriend 'a bit of a flirt'? Do you make excuses for him and brush it off as not meaning anything? Well, it's not a very respectful way to behave if you're not there, acting as if he doesn't have a girlfriend. And it's even worse if he flirts right in front of you as if you weren't even there. It's dismissive of you, and it's not just him being charming and friendly. It's rude.

He Puts You down

Does he constantly criticise you? That's definitely not showing you the respect you deserve. Someone who loves you supports you. They don't put you down and make you feel inferior.

He Tries to Dictate What You do and How You Dress

This should be a huge red flag. It's a sign of a controlling man who doesn't respect that you're an individual with the right to choose for yourself. Someone who tries to dictate what you wear, where you go and who you're friends with has no respect for you as a person but thinks you're his property.

He Doesn't Listen to the Word 'No'

Does he ignore you when you say no to something? Does he try to force you to do sex acts that you don't like? A man who doesn't listen to and respect the word 'no' has no respect for you. Is this really the kind of guy you want to date?

He Belittles Your Opinion

Or does he belittle your opinion? Does he laugh at your ideas and dismiss them patronisingly, or tell you flat out that he thinks they're ridiculous? Guys like this have no respect for you. Guys who do will accept that you have your own opinions, even if they don't always agree with you.

Sex is More Important than Anything

Sex is an important part of most relationships, but it shouldn't be the only thing that matters. Does he only ever call you when he wants sex, or pressure you into having sex even when you're not in the mood? That's a terrible lack of respect and shows that he only sees you as a bed partner.

You're His Second Choice

Do you have a sneaking feeling that you don't match up to his ex, or that he secretly has the hots for someone else? You should never feel that you're second best. If he truly values you, he won't be dating you when he'd rather be with someone else. And if he prefers being with his friends, let him be with them - while you find someone who really likes you!

He Repeatedly Lets You down

Be wary of guys that are constantly coming up with reasons for letting you down and cancelling dates. Something may come up from time to time, but if he's constantly cancelling, he's showing that he doesn't value you enough to stick to arrangements.

He's Not There when You Have Problems

Is he there for you when you're sick or need support, or is he nowhere to be seen? Guys who respect you are always there for you when you need them.

Have you ever been disrespected by a boyfriend, and how did you handle it?

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Jenna I said I won't except that and I won't I value me , I respect my self I like who I am ... I also do not get in arguments on with strangers in not going to apologize for knowing what I want in a man/ partner in a relationship!

My ex was making comments on other chicks asses who does that? A real man doesn't arouse jealousy. Unless he isn't my real man. Yet your eating the pussy like you wanna be, it's evident men don't know what they want

At the start of my relationship my boyfriend used to disrespect me. When we'd fight over little things he'd get very nasty and put me down. If I ever confided in him about something it would be used against me in a fight. My opinions don't really matter to him either he thinks he's more intelligent than me and it can be hard when making descions together like where to move apartment. I used to have very low self esteem and never really thought he was disrespecting me and I was in love with him too so I let a lot of this behaviour slide but I think over time I've started to resent him a little. I know that I may have made him sound like a bad boyfriend but he has been very good to me and we have shared many good times together and he has a lot of good traits too. But lately I have been thinking of breaking up with him. I have said how I feel to him about disrespecting me and he said he'll change but I think it's too late for that now. I think the love I had for him has faded. I'm really scared to end my relationship though. I can't help but feel I'll be making a huge mistake.

After reading this article, I am so happy that I am in a relationship with a great handsome guy who loves me and goes out of his way to make sure I am happy :)

I've been through it all. You live and you learn.

@Akki I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. You sound like a very intelligent and wise women. I do know what you're going through is hard because I was in a similar situation before, same religion different sect. For four years almost every day I spent in fear of loosing him. But now I'm happily married and he's my best friend. Akki you're still young, I know when you're in the situation it may feel that there is no way out of it or all you want it is him, however I do promise you that soon you'll be back to your bubbly self and have a permeant smile! I'm sure your parents want to see you happy! P.s you know what helps me? TRAVEL!!

Situations 4, 6, 8, and 9 totally occurred in my past relationship. He didn't care about me or my values and took advantage of me. It makes me feel terrible that I "put up" with it. Not anymore!! It hurts, but I'm focusing on myself right now. Hoping that my next relationship will be a genuine one.

Thanks Akki. I have said this to him before, we've nearly broken up a few times over it. He says he'll change and he has stopped name calling me but there are still ways he disrespects me like not listening to my needs or disregarding my opinion. It's just hard because these are not everyday occurrences and he is my best friend. I just feel like I don't want to live my whole life never feeling the respect I deserve. Thank you also Beki4993 it's very reassuring to hear other girls have gone through the same thing. I'm glad things worked out well for you and you're with someone who loves and respects you :)

You know some people on this app amaze me lets all shit on Shannon because she didn't let a guy do treat her badly I was speaking for my self, you didn't stand up to the guy who who treated you shit!!!! But you certainly got balls with a woman on here who wouldn't let it happen to her. Everyone's story is their own to tell I told mine. Find strength to love your selves ladies , the article is about a man not respecting you . Nothing else we don't need men to put us down we turn on each other and it's sad . If a woman is thin she's anorexic, if she in a interracial relationship she's ashamed of her own race, if she gets a promotion she slept with the boss. I surround my self with positive women who uplift one another and I hope I'm an example to my daughter. All I know is my story I've never had a bully in school as a child but if I did I would've stood up to him OR her. I'm not going to get rid of this app because I chose to write what I experienced . Good luck to all of you who found voices to strike me down .

This is the fact!

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