Tips for a successful blind date are essential for today’s dater. Dating can be stressful, and a blind date adds a significant amount of stress. First impressions are everything during a blind date and, if you’re into your date initially, you’ll want to make sure you’re sending the right signals. Below are seven splendid tips for a successful blind date.
1. Arrive Ready to Listen and Share
One of the biggest tips for a successful blind date is to be ready to listen and to share. Conversation is the most important part of a first date. Talking to each other allows you to get to know each other and determine if a relationship could be possible. Be ready to truly listen to what your date is saying. What are they into? How do they describe their family relationships? It’s also really important to be prepared to answer these questions yourself. They are trying to get to know you just as much as you’re trying to get to know them.
2. Avoid Places Where Conversation is Difficult
A follow up to number one is to avoid planning a date where conversation is difficult. For example, going to a movie could be fun, but not a lot of talking can be done during a movie. This makes it really hard to learn about each other. If you do go to a movie, try to schedule dinner before or coffee afterwards. Make sure you plan time for the two of you to learn more about each other.
3. Dress Cute and Comfortable
It’s a given that you want to look good for your date. Pick out something that makes you look and feel beautiful, but be sure and choose an appropriate outfit. For example, if you’re going to play mini golf, heels may not be the best choice. Also keep in mind that you want to wear an outfit that makes you feel comfortable. Constantly having to tug on straps or adjust your skirt can be distracting for you and your date. Pick an outfit that makes you feel pretty and confident.
4. Mirror Your Date’s Body Language
If the date is going well and you’re into your partner, work to mirror their body language. This sends a subconscious signal to your date that you’re interested in them and what they have to say. Keep an eye on their body language to determine if they motion or move closer to you. If they do, it’s a good sign!
5. Try a Flirtatious Touch
Take body language to the next level and move towards actual contact. There’s no need to get too frisky. A simple touch on the shoulder or hand will do. A good time to try this is when your date says something funny. As you laugh, lean over and touch your date’s arm. Your smile combined with the physical contact will send a clear signal that you’re enjoying the date and the company.
6. Have Fun
Dating is stressful, there’s no doubt about that. Blind dates can be even more so because of the added pretenses. What did you friends or family say about you to make this person want to go on a date with you? Will you live up to the expectations? Try your best to put all of those worries aside and just have fun. When you’re relaxed, it’s easier to be yourself, and that’s the person you want your date to meet. Once you loosen up you’ll be able to have more fun and share more about yourself. You’ll also be more open to learn about your date in order to determine if a relationship could form. A word of caution, though: limit yourself to two drinks. You don’t want to have so much fun you become sloppy. That’s not a great first impression!
7. Be Clear about Intentions
If the date goes well, it’s a good idea to let your partner know. Hopefully they will mention next steps and/or a desire to see you again. But, if not, feel free to bring it up! It’s possible that your date is shy and not quite sure what to say. It’s a good idea to be clear about what you want. Let your date know that you had a great time and you’re looking forward to seeing them again. If the date didn’t go exactly as planned, thank them for a good time and tell them it was nice to meet them. This way you don’t indicate a second date is welcome, but you’re still showing that you’re grateful for the time you spent with them. Just because you don’t begin to date and eventually marry this person doesn’t mean the date didn’t go well. It’s possible you’ve met someone who will be a great friend if not a great partner.
Blind dates can be scary and hard to navigate. These essential tips for a successful blind date will help you get through it with tact and grace. Try it a few times and you’ll be a dating professional! And – hopefully – you’ll be one blind date closer to your last first date. What are some tips you’ve picked up that ensure a successful blind date? Please share!