Whether you're going through a breakup or are dealing with your crush getting a girlfriend, it's tough to find a healthy outlet for your emotions. It's all too easy for your bad habits to get the best of you when you're down in the dumps. However, things like these just won't help you get over him:
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1. Binge Eating
Despite what you've seen on sitcoms, it won't help to dig through a full tub of Ben & Jerry's. Your stomach and your heart aren't actually connected, so filling up your tummy won't heal the pain you feel in your heart. If anything, it'll actually make you feel worse for ruining your diet. Instead of overeating, try to exercise to get your mind off of him. It's healthier.
2. Excessive Crying
It’s okay to cry for a few days or even weeks, but don’t let your sadness become a permanent part of your personality. There's no sense in ruining your mascara over a boy who couldn't care less about you. Stop thinking about how upset you are that he got away and start thinking about how lucky you are to be single when there are so many hotties out there waiting for you.
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3. Closing Yourself off
After you get your heart broken, it's easy to close yourself off to everyone in your life. You can't get hurt again if you don't let anyone in again, right? Well, you can't think like that. The only way you'll truly get over him is if you allow yourself to keep living your life without him. Don't punish your friends, family, and other potential love interests for something that your ex did wrong.
4. Sappy Movies and Music
Turn off The Notebook and avoid Drake songs. You don't need to torture yourself by listening to stories about happy couples or stories about failed relationships. Avoid thinking about love altogether. While you're hurting, try to think about the other beautiful things in life, like hot celebrities and puppy dogs.
5. Checking His FB Status
Don't check his Facebook and Twitter, hoping that he'll make a vague status about how much he misses you. If he really missed you, he'd contact you and get you back in his life. Looking through his statuses and pictures will only remind you of what you're missing. Do yourself a favor and stay far, far away from his social media pages. Block them if you have to.
6. Getting Revenge
Egging his car and starting rumors about him won't give you the satisfaction you think it will. Sure, it'll be fun for a minute, but then you'll go right back to being miserable. Don't stoop to his level. Don't try to get revenge, because you won't like that version of yourself.
7. Hurting Yourself
Don't you dare hurt yourself physically or emotionally. There's no need for razors or for self-criticism. You're an amazing person, whether or not he thinks so. Your self worth isn't determined by a man. Stop focusing on finding love and focus on yourself.
You can't take any shortcuts in order to get over him. When you care about someone, it takes a lot of time to adjust to life without them. Of course, it'll happen eventually, so don't stress out too much about it. What usually helps you get over someone?
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Aimeelouise10: Ditto Jaklyn - I didn't lose my job but we had a friendship group together and that's now gone. He was telling me on Friday he couldn't wait to spend the rest of his life with me and then when I caught him out on a lie he finished with me. I feel like my best friend has been removed from my life forever :(
Frida: Omg you really helped me! Thanks a lot ♥️
Aubrey: This came just when I'm struggling with some parts of life.
Pamy_Dee: Number 5 Gosh! Like I am so proud of myself for kinda stop doing it (well for now) 😞
Celene: #7 words of wisdom
Denise: @Emmarachelmay - so sorry to hear you are going through that... Ya know, nothing anyone says makes it easier to deal with... Just time and staying busy! Stay strong and focus on what you need to do to work through your pain!
Helpmelearn: What do you do for the fb thing? What do you do? Just ignore all the posts ? So they think you unfollowed them?
Cindy: I focus on my favourite hobbies and podcasts, and tes getting out with friends does help a lot. But true face the pain, you can't outrun it. To lose someone you truly love is not easy, the hardest is to get used to look at your future without them, and once you can see a future by filling the gap he has left, you will be okay
Bettina: O my gosh so true, that Facebook status. I suffered from it!
Sapna: Nice article
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