When you like a guy, it's easy to twist everything he does and says. You're either going to be 100% convinced that he's in love with you, or 100% convinced that he can't stand you. Of course, neither of those thoughts are all that healthy. It's better to see the world the way it really is. To help keep you tethered to reality, here are a few paranoid thoughts that you should stop having about your crush:
It doesn't matter if you look completely different than all of his exes. Just because they were all pretty, it doesn't mean that you're ugly. Beauty comes in a million different shapes and sizes. Besides, boys can get pretty horny when they're young, so chances are that he actually is attracted to you, even if he's not making a move.
Unless he's glancing around the room and looking for a way to leave whenever you two talk, you shouldn't assume that you're bothering him. He's probably having just as much fun as you are. So stop putting yourself down. You're a great conversationalist, and he's lucky to have you as a friend.
Don't be embarrassed about sending him the first text. He isn't going to assume that you're desperate, just because you initiated a conversation. If anything, he's probably happy that you're making the first move, so that he doesn't have to. For boys, that's a breath of fresh air.
Why do you think this? If it's because of the way that you look or how smart you are, you're being ridiculous, because you're a catch. You have to think highly of yourself. The more confidence you have, the more boys you'll attract.
If he already has a girlfriend, or has made it clear he's not interested in you, then you probably are wasting your time. There are better men out there for you. However, if you've been flirting like crazy, and it seems like he might actually like you back, don't fool yourself into believing you're wasting your time. It takes a while to get the guy you want, so be patient.
If you assume that his compliments aren't genuine, and that he's secretly playing some sort of prank on you, you need to take a breather. The world isn't out to get you. That means your crush probably means exactly what he says. However, if somehow your wild ideas are right, then he's not worth your time. Why would you want to be with someone so cruel?
A lot of boys are interested in sex. However, if he's given you every reason to believe that he genuinely likes your personality and wants to be with you for more than your body, you shouldn't freak out. Your crush probably isn't the best actor. He wouldn't be able to lie to you so convincingly.
If you feel you're texting is bothering your crush, you should analyze their responses. One word answers are probably a hint they're not engaged-however, it could just mean they're busy at the moment. Stop and see if they engage later. If not, you've got your answer with minimum investment.
Stop being so caught up in trying to be cool and let him get to know you for you. Trying to hard WILL end up with you sounding silly, but relaxing and letting things flow will have him liking you more for being yourself.
It's great to get close with your crush, but be sure you don't get so close before things take off that he friend zones you. If he's talking to you, flirting, and showing interest, then he's probably into you too. No need to be afraid he's not and place yourself in the cool "girl" friend role before you become the girlfriend.
Remember, you're probably making things worse than they actually are. Chances are that your crush thinks you're a great girl! How do you think your crush feels about you?
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