When you find yourself suddenly single after being half of a couple, it's a little disconcerting. You might be heartbroken, especially if you were really into your partner or the breakup wasn't your idea. You might be relieved, especially if you initiated the split. Maybe the breakup was even amicable. All of that is just a bit irrelevant, however, because there's still a disconnect when you break up with someone and find that you're a single lady once again. Instead of feeling totally at odds with yourself, here are a few things you ought to do – just for you.
Seriously. Detonate that charm bomb. You don't have to go home with anyone, but some casual flirting can boost your confidence.
Surround yourself with your girlfriends as often as possible. They will love you, laugh with you, and let you cry as much as you need to.
Head to the spa. Get your nails done. Do something new with your hair. Treat yo' self!
You've earned it. You need some time to get in touch with yourself again.
It seems like such a simple thing, but music soothes the savage beast. Fill up a new playlist with the tunes you need to hear right now, whether that consists of cheesy love ballads, breakup songs, or really angry music.
No lie, this helps after any negative, sad, or upsetting event.
Get to know yourself again sexually, as well, especially if the relationship you just got out of did not include a satisfying sex life – or even if it did. Orgasms make you feel good, in the first place, and in the second, well, it's always good to check in with yourself, your needs, and your desires.
And love doesn't always mean sex. You may need to learn this lesson again because of your breakup itself … or you may simply need a reminder before consoling yourself with a rebound or a distraction. I get you.
Take up ALL the space. Except for what you sell with the dogs or cats.
Know your worth. Find it. Search for it.
Other people can hold you up – your family, your closest friends, and someday, the right person. But you are the one constant. Be there for yourself.
But maybe … maybe don't get violent.
Let loose, is actually the point. Do something a little reckless every now and then. Indulge in your vices, if you like, just exercise moderation.
Even if it's just a casual date for the sole purpose of laughing until your cheeks hurt.
Why wait for someone else to get them for you? Flowers are beautiful. Just looking at them will make you feel better.
Even if it's just you and your friends.
For the record, yes, taking naps is a perfectly acceptable hobby.
What's the first thing you do – or used to do, as the case may be – when you get out of a relationship?
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