Many men don’t know all of the things that they do wrong in bed. They can’t stop talking about sex and they assume they’re the best out there. They boast about their bedroom skills, but they’re truly clueless as to what they’re doing wrong. Read on to discover the 10 things men do wrong in bed.
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Pay Attention
Women love foreplay. We consider it to be an essential part of sex. We adore being kissed and explored. When you don’t indulge us with foreplay, we feel like we’re being ripped off. Skipping foreplay is one of the major things men do wrong in bed. It makes sex feel rushed. Of course there are times when we get caught up in the moment, and foreplay isn’t a real concern. When that happens, it’s totally awesome. But, when foreplay is regularly omitted, however, we’re not happy. Spend time kissing and caressing us, please.
Don’t Assume Anything
Just because you were satisfied, you can’t assume that we were too. Unless you made a conscious effort to make it pleasurable for us, it very well may not have been. Not all women orgasm easily, and some need some extra assistance.
Communication is key, and guessing our sweet spots isn't a winning strategy. Take the time to ask us what we like and listen to our feedback. It's never a one-size-fits-all approach; what worked with a previous partner may not work with us. And please, no faking satisfaction – be genuine, admit when you're unsure, and let's explore together. Your willingness to learn and adapt is incredibly sexy.
Avoid Being Boring
Women have fantasies. We’ve read «50 Shades of Grey» and we loved it. In fact, we gossip about sex just as much as you do, if not more. So, explore our fantasies. Ask us what we like and what we’ve always wanted to try.
Spice it up by being adventurous and creative in the bedroom. Whether it's trying a new position, role-playing, or introducing a fun toy, variety is the spice of life—and bedsheets. Understand that when we say we want more excitement, it’s not a knock on your skills; it’s an invitation to join us on a wild ride. Show us you're willing to step out of your comfort zone for us. Trust us, it’ll be worth it when you see the spark in our eyes—and feel it in the electric connection we share.
Make Sure You’re Manscaping
Manscaping is important. For some women, it’s a necessity. It’s just as significant to us as shaving our legs is to you.
Just like a well-kept lawn suggests a neat homeowner, attention to body hair indicates you take pride in your appearance. It's all about trimming where it’s needed without going overboard. You don't have to be hairless; it's more about tidiness and comfort—for both you and your partner. Picture this: touch that's not hindered by a thicket of hair can enhance sensitivity and thus, the overall experience. A little effort in manscaping can lead to a big payoff when the lights go down.
Being Predictable Isn’t Cool
Sex should never be predictable. Women don’t want to have sex in the same position, over and over again. We like things to be spiced up.
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Time is NOT of the Essence
Coffee lines, doctor’s visits, and DMV appointments are all things that should be VERY quick. Sex, on the other hand, shouldn’t be. Some men have trouble lasting long enough for their partner to enjoy herself. You never want to be one of those men! Don’t put a time limit on how long sex should be. There’s no universal average, as all women have different preferences, but it should be long enough to be pleasurable for both of you.
Be the Man
Sometimes, we want our men to demonstrate that they’re manly men. We like to be dominated and pushed up against walls.
But remember, there's a fine line between passionate dominance and disregard for comfort. Reading the room is a skill that should never be underestimated. While it's exciting to feel your strength, always maintain that underlying respect and a listening ear. If she's into it, a little assertiveness can be a major turn-on. Just make sure it's what both partners want. After all, it's that unspoken communication and mutual understanding that makes these moments electrifying. Always keep it safe, sane, and consensual.
Don’t Rush It
After sex, many women feel emotional. Our bodies release oxytocin, which can make us feel extra needy. If you’re in a rush to go somewhere after sex, and you don’t have a few minutes to cuddle, you’re probably going to hurt our feelings. Stay with us and give us a few extra minutes of love.
Sex should always be enjoyable between two people. Do you have anything to add to the list of things men do wrong in bed?
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