9 Things to do if You Have a Crush on Your Cousin ...

9 Things to do if You Have a Crush on Your Cousin ...
By Heather • Nov 2, 2023 MD

Having a crush on your cousin is not horrible and it doesn't make you weird, it's actually pretty normal. If you have a crush on your cousin, it's okay. I have some tips and things that you can do that will explain your feelings a little more. It's normal to have a crush and to start to feel things for people that you are around a lot. Remember that!

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1. Age

How old were you when you started to get a crush on your cousin? This actually could have a lot to do with developing your crush. To be honest, if you are just developing feelings for the opposite (or same sex), they can develop about someone that you are close to. It's normal, but that doesn't mean that you need to act on it.

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Additional factual information that could be included in the article is the legal implications of having a relationship with a cousin. In many countries, marriage between cousins is illegal, and even if it is not illegal, it can still be frowned upon by society. Additionally, it is important to note that having a relationship with a cousin can lead to an increased risk of genetic disorders in any children that may be produced from the union. It is important to be aware of the potential risks before entering into any such relationship.

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2. Understand It is Normal

Understanding that these feelings might not be love and might not even be a true, real crush is very, very important. I know it might feel like you are in love with your cousin and that they are your dream boyfriend or girlfriend, but it might all boil down to how old you are and if you are going through hormone changes.

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It is common to have a crush on your cousin, especially if you have grown up together and have a close bond. However, it is important to understand that it may not be true love, and might just be a result of hormones and your age.

When it comes to having a crush on your cousin, it is important to remember that it is not something to be ashamed of. It is perfectly normal to have these feelings, and it does not mean that you are a bad person. It is important to recognize these feelings and talk to someone about them if you need to.

It is also important to remember that acting on these feelings is not a good idea. Having a romantic relationship with your cousin is considered incest, and is illegal in many countries. It is also important to remember that it may cause a rift in your family and could lead to tension between family members.

If you are struggling with your feelings, it is important to talk to someone you trust. This could be a close friend, family member, or a therapist. Talking to someone can help you work through your feelings and come up with a plan on how to deal with them.

It is also important to remember that these feelings may not last forever.

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3. Don't Act on It

When you have a crush on your cousin, you don't want to act on these feelings. This is your family and acting on these feelings could cause a lot of confusion and could cause a lot of controversy. While I know it might be a little hard in the beginning, you've got to resist acting on your feelings.

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When it comes to having a crush on your cousin, it's important to remember that it's not something to be taken lightly. It can be a difficult situation to navigate, and it's important to be aware of the potential consequences that could arise from acting on these feelings.

The most important thing to do is to not act on these feelings. While it can be tempting to pursue a relationship with your cousin, it can be dangerous and could potentially cause a lot of damage to your family. It's important to remember that this is your family and that it can be difficult to separate the feelings of love and family.

It's also important to remember that, while it can be difficult to resist acting on these feelings, it's important to do so for the sake of your family. It's important to remember that these feelings could have a lasting impact on your family dynamic and that it's important to think about how your actions could affect your family in the long run.

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4. Seek Alternative People to Crush on

I know it might be hard to think about, but finding someone else can actually help you to move on and won't cause you to have any emotions toward your cousin. You might have to grieve for your crush and even give yourself time to get over it, but the sooner you find someone to crush on that isn't related to you, the better.

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Finding someone else to crush on can be difficult, especially if you have strong feelings for a cousin. It's important to take time to grieve and process your feelings before moving on. It's also important to remember that having a crush on a cousin is not uncommon, and that it doesn't necessarily mean you have any kind of inappropriate feelings.

In order to find someone else to crush on, it's important to take time to explore your options. Start by making a list of the qualities that you find attractive in someone. Then, look for people who have those qualities. You can look in your own social circle, or you can look for people online. If you are looking for someone online, make sure you take safety precautions to protect yourself.

Another way to find someone to crush on is to get out and try new activities. Joining a club or taking a class can be a great way to meet new people and find someone who shares your interests. It can also help to expand your social circle.

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5. Allow Yourself Time to Get over the Crush

Remember how I said that you'll need time to get over the crush that you have? Well, give yourself that time to get over your crush. It's okay to take it; in fact, take as much time as you want. You shouldn't ever be on any sort of time line.

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Having a crush on your cousin can be a confusing and complicated situation. It's important to remember that it is not uncommon to have a crush on a family member, but it is important to know how to handle it in a healthy way.

First and foremost, it is important to recognize that it is not wrong to have a crush on someone in your family. It is a normal and natural feeling. However, it is important to remember that it is not appropriate to act on these feelings.

Second, it is important to take some time for yourself and to allow yourself to process your feelings. This is especially important if you feel like the feelings are becoming overwhelming or distracting. It is important to remember that it is okay to take as much time as you need to get over the crush.

Third, it is important to remember that you are not alone. If you are feeling overwhelmed or confused, it is important to reach out to a trusted friend or family member for support. They can help you to process your feelings in a healthy way.

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6. Grieve if Needed

If you really think that you are in love with your cousin, you might need to take some time to grieve the loss. I know that it hurts to really not act on how you feel or for it those feelings to not be returned, but you deserve someone that is going to treat you amazingly well and someone that isn't related to you.

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Grieving the loss of a romantic relationship with a cousin is a difficult process. It is important to recognize that it is okay to feel sad and to take the time to process the emotions associated with the situation. It is also important to remember that while it may be difficult to not act on the feelings, it is important to respect the boundaries of family relationships.

It is important to find healthy ways to cope with the feelings associated with unrequited love. Talking to a trusted friend or family member about the situation can be helpful, as can engaging in activities that bring joy and help to distract from the pain. Exercise, art, and music are all great outlets for releasing emotions.

In addition, it is important to focus on the positive aspects of the situation. While it may be difficult to come to terms with the fact that a romantic relationship with a cousin is not possible, it is important to remember that there are many potential partners out there that could be a great match.

Finally, it is important to remember that it is okay to take time to heal and to be gentle with oneself. Everyone grieves differently and it is important to give oneself the time and space needed to process the emotions associated with the situation.

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7. Don't Be Too Hard on Yourself

Having a crush on your cousin is no reason to beat yourself up. It actually happens to a lot of people and as previously stated, it's not abnormal and it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you.

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Having a crush on your cousin can be confusing and overwhelming, but it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. It is important to remember that it is a common experience and is not abnormal.

It is important to be honest with yourself and to take some time to process your feelings. Consider talking to a trusted friend or family member, or even a therapist, to help you better understand your emotions.

It is also important to remember that there is no rush to act on your feelings. Take some time to think about how your relationship with your cousin might change if you were to pursue a romantic or physical relationship.

It is also important to remember that you should never feel pressured to act on your feelings if you don't want to. It is perfectly okay to keep your feelings to yourself and to move on if you don't feel comfortable with the idea of a romantic relationship.

If you do decide to pursue a relationship, it is important to be mindful of the potential consequences. Consider the potential impact on your relationship with your cousin, as well as the potential impact on your family.

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8. Focus on Yourself

While you're grieving and trying to sort out your feelings, you can also take this time to focus on yourself. Even though you're mourning a loss, you can still take good care of yourself and surround yourself with your friends to help make the process a little easier.

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Engaging in activities that nourish your soul and body can be incredibly therapeutic. Treat yourself to activities that you adore, be it a pampering spa day, a rigorous workout, or a quiet evening with your favorite book. Remember, investing in self-care is never selfish; it's necessary for healing. By nurturing yourself, you're laying the groundwork for a healthier and happier future, regardless of the path your heart takes. Embrace every opportunity for growth and self-discovery during this time, and you'll emerge stronger and more resilient.

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9. Know You Are Not Alone

I know a lot of people think that they are the only ones in the world that have had a crush on their cousin, but you aren't alone! I know at least four or five people that had a crush on their cousin at some point in their lives. It typically happens when you are young and it is just hormones.

As you can see, having a crush on your cousin isn't something horrible, it's actually pretty common. So, have you ever had a crush on your cousin? Be honest!

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Having a crush on your cousin can be a confusing and difficult situation to navigate. It's important to remember that it's a natural feeling and many people have experienced it. However, it's important to remember that it's not socially acceptable to act on these feelings. Depending on where you live, it may even be illegal to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship with a cousin. If you are struggling with this situation, it's important to speak to a trusted adult or a mental health professional for help and advice.

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  • 2022-09-29T23:26:39.035Z

    #1 amor cousin crush
  • Tori

    2013-02-07T03:51:34.000Z

    I had a crush on my cousin! Thanks to this article I know it's normal! Let's hope he feels the same! Our kids would be gorgeous!
  • Shayla

    2022-04-04T02:39:32.421Z

    #1 I'm 12 and I have a crush on my middle aged cousin and I don't know what to do
  • Kingsley

    2022-02-05T09:07:43.745Z

    Yes but i really like her
  • Becca

    2017-10-15T08:18:15.994Z

    He is 16. We are both adopted so were not related or anything like that. Him and I have been dating for 1 week now and it's always been a dream of mine to date and hold his hand. The first time he kissed me was like 2 months ago and i've been happy ever since. Him and my sister just broke up but she broke his heart and if i were him, i would want to kill her. He is such an amazing person and desurves someone like me to love and comfurt him.
  • diorgurbs

    2022-11-29T22:36:18.336Z

    This what i’m about to say is odd but i have a crush on my cousin( sort of) she’s 10 and i’m 19. I know people. I started developing a crush on her since the orlando florida trip i went on back in April (April 14th,2022) even before that i’ve had a little bit of a crush on her kind of. Physically. She is very pretty, funny, and is such a character. No one is perfect, but she is my favorite person in the whole wide world. We had a bond since she was about 4, im not saying i had a crush on her when she was 4, but our bond was the best when she was 6. We would always watch movies, youtube videos, play video games together and the moment that really made me love her more was when i was riding my hoverboard she was riding on my hoverboard with me and it was so heartwarming but that was 4 years ago, i honestly miss those days. Her outfit she was wearing on that day of the vacation over spring break was so cute, her hair was perfect af and her dress just really turned me on sooo much that day but i was just on my phone scrolling not thinking of it too much but it did turn me on.
  • diorgurbs

    2022-11-29T22:44:34.915Z

    i have a crush on my cousin, sort of. I’m 19 and she’s 10. I started developing a crush on her since the trip to Orlando Florida i went on back in April. She is very pretty and funny. I love her so much she is such a character. But i don’t want to do nothing horrible. Her outfit she was wearing that day was so cute. Her hair was amazing and i was just so turned on about it, but i was just minding my business just on my phone playing games and listening to music, didn’t think of it too much but i was turned on a lot.
  • Layla

    2022-06-07T23:41:06.029Z

    I was raised around the son of my dad's high school best friend and I developed a crush on him. My parents got divorced when I was four, and my dad married my crush's aunt (the sister of my dad's high school friend's wife) The crush started to get worse once my dad remarried and we spent more time together because we were now steps cousins but we are so close that we're basically just cousins. His siblings said that he likes me bit they are nine and seven and he immediately denied it. I'm now 13 and he is 12, I've tried to ignore it but I still think about him frequently. The chemistry when we're together seems like he likes me too, but I'm afraid to ask him and my sister is always with us so I would never get the chance to tell him. I don't know what to do about it! 😣
  • Kennedy

    2022-03-30T16:45:16.402Z

    #2 what do i do if hes 15 and im 12
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