8 Smooth Ways to Ask a Girl out if You Are a Girl ...

If you are a lesbian, it can be really intimidating to figure out all of the ways to ask a girl out if you are a girl. It's hard to break into same-sex flirting rules and same-sex relationship rules if you are new to the game! Girls, it's okay to be scared and okay to worry about rejection. I've come up with all of the different ways to ask a girl out that'll make it easy for you to walk up to any girl and ask them out easily. Remember, it's all about confidence!

1 Gauge Her Interest

Always, before you go just asking a girl out, gauge her interest in you. Is she flirting with you? Are you seeing that she is lightly touching you and giving you cues that she won't reject you if you ask her out? This is absolutely one of the ways to ask a girl out that is really a first step. Remember, if she's not interested, you'll be able to tell!

2 Catch onto How Often She Touches You

Remember when I mentioned if she is lightly touching you? That's a cue that she's interested in you! Just keep track of how many times she lightly brushes you arm or lightly brushes past you. Then it should feel really natural for you to ask her out and you shouldn't be rejected at all!

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3 Facial Expressions

You're a girl, you know how our facial expressions can really tell a story of how we are feeling. It shouldn't be any different at all for another girl! Watch how interested she is, watch how her facial expressions change and that'll let you know if she is the right girl that you should be asking out. Trust me on this one, our faces give away more than we want sometimes!

4 Catch Her Eye

I know it's hard to do, but if you are really trying to ask a girl out, you've got to catch her eye. How do you do that? Stand out! Really put yourself out there and let her know who you are. That will allow her to know if she wants to go out with you or would willing to go out with you!

5 Approach Her

Girls, it's hard. Face it, putting yourself out there enough to get rejected is very difficult to deal with and handle, but it's so, so worth it in the end. You've got to approach the girl that you are into if you expect to get anywhere with her. Just walk up to her if you see all of the right cues!

6 Don't Be Too Nervous

Easier said than done, right? If you are nervous, just make sure that you don't act it. Just be cool, confident and collected when you are approaching the girl you are into. She'll be able to see your nervousness and who knows, maybe she'll find it endearing. Girls are easier to talk to and approach if you are another girl, so just get out there!

7 Keep the Tone Light

Don't make it too awkward when you finally do go about asking her out. After all, why should it be awkward? If you've just started hanging out or if you've just met, it should be easy to slip into something light and airy, not serious!

8 Ask to Hang out Casually

Finally, don't make a date a big huge deal, just keep it light! Asking a girl to hang out casually is something simple and you don't have to make a big deal out of it. It's just hanging out, right?

So girls, there are tons of different ways to ask a girl out, but these tips should help build you up to it. What other tips do you have to ask a girl out if you're a girl? Share!

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ajna hi, im a girl and ive unfortunately fallen for a girl who seems to be the straightest in the world, how do i get her to get the hint or at least get over it?
Violet Maybe don't ask to "hang out" because that may be giving off the impression that you only want to hang out as friends. Simply ask to go out, or instead of "Wanna hang out at the movies?" say, "Want to go out to the movies with me?" That was just an example. Don't make your words sound too platonic... if you know what I mean.
Amaya I have a crush on this girl in a grade above me and I don’t have a phone to connect with her. I wanna ask her out but I don’t know how to communicate with her after school.
- iz... @Amaya: you could try discord or somethinng like that, that can be accessed without a phone
Hailey I want to ask a girl out but I'm not sure if she is into girls so I am a bit nervous. We have been sitting closer together and our legs have slightly touched in class which makes me believe maybe there is attraction that goes both ways. I am reading tips in my class and preparing myself for when I see her in my next class. I'm nervous but super excited. I know she likes getting food from a place close by so I'll ask her if she wants to get food after school and maybe stay for a game. Reading these tips has made me feel better and I really appreciate that there is stuff like this out there. The majority of the stuff online is asking girls out but from the male perspective but I'm glad I came across this website. Wish me luck!
kaira #2 I asked her out but she said maybe. What should I do?
Mitzi Thatś happened too me too:( @adlean
Adlean I'm in love with my best friend... But she's into guys
grace ANYONE
grace Hey everyone I'm bi please send me a message
rebekah hey!!
Lana @emma you're absolutely right with everything you said and I totally agree with you
Madalyn @Rihonna Scoggins Me either i was scroling through and came along this and was so happy to see it
Maiya So I'm extremely bisexual and I'm a femme so I find myself suffering from bisexual invisibility as well as femme invisibility. But this helps thank you for being strong :) @HeatherJensen
- Heather Aww! Thank you so much! :) Definitely stay strong yourself!
e Heather, I'm not gay but thanks for being yourself and being proud, and doing your part to help others. Way to keep it classy and have the patience to politely defend yourself from those saying you are wrong for being you. And to @kaitlin, God works in mysterious ways. Maybe he put same sex couples on earth so we can practice loving everyone, not just people who are exactly like ourselves. I bet he would!
- Jennifer @e, Well said! ^_^
- Heather Aww! Thank you E! :)
Muchaela @Heather Jensen you're wrong :( and you will see that one day.
- Heather Hi Muchaela! I do have to disagree again, I'm sorry. Unfortunately, I was born this way and I do not believe I will see anything one day. What works for me, might not work for you and that's okay! :) Thanks for reading!
Glenda @kaitlin I'm with you
kaitlin Just to let all the women know, Men were put here on earth for a reason. God created us to be one with men when we are married. Men are wonderful when you find a godly one. You were not born that way, you were created by an awesome Creator.
- Kath @kaitlin: Hi Kaitlyn! Quick question for ya... If you believe we were all created hetero, why are you reading an article about how to ask a girl out? Unless.......... ;)
- Lindiuxi_94 @kaitlin, you might be right.... Or you might not, maybe they were born that way, maybe they weren't. The point is that they are that way and they are happy that way. They ain't hurting anybody or doing anything wrong to anybody so I don't see why we can't just respect them and let them be. If they are happy what's the problem? Let them be happy just like everybody has the right to. But yep, poor unlucky guy that doesn't get to date them.
- Heather Hi Kaitlin! Thanks for the comment, however I do have to respectfully disagree. Some women like women. Me for instance. I've been with one guy before I realized that it was not who I was or what I was. I was born to be gay and that is why I am with my girlfriend (fiance!) now. She is my entire world and I really do not believe it is fair to state that all women are created to be married to men, when some women really want to be married to women and that is what they love. :) It might not be the way that you were born, but, us gays weren't born straight and we can't help our preference. :)
ZiggyCupcake @Heather Jensen thank you so much! I will try to ask her someday... For now, I gotta study up on how! ^_^
Chloé This article Without mentioning how to know they are into girls had me wondering if it is easy to tell and I'm just clueless
- Heather Hi! It's so hard to tell! But, I would say that if she flirts back -- it could be a sign. :)
Chloé @Marina Lestraude thanks :) I agree
Marina @Chloé Evelyn Lamb Kinda and kinda not. Some people use the whole 'physical appearance' thing (short hair, dresses like a guy) and that may apply to some people. But straight girls do that too... If you wanna find out, ask around. Or (and this will shock you :D) ask her if she is or notZ
Marina @Heather Jensen Oh my god thank you so much!
Lourdes @Chloé Evelyn Lamb it's always hard when it comes to that .
- grace @Lourdes , hey
Lourdes @ZiggyCupcake I been there . Still am !
Lourdes I love this. There's plenty of woman who dont don't really know how to go about it when they first come out So this is a real nice article .
- Heather Aww! Thank you! :)
ZiggyCupcake O gosh thanks so much for this article. My friend keeps asking me who I like, and says "So is HE cute?" I can't tell her that it's her!
- Heather Aww! Thank you so much for the comment Ziggy! Just be yourself, it'll be easier. :)
Meagan This article is very help because I seem to get really nervous when I want to express myself. Thanks for the advice.
- Heather Aww! Thank you Meagan for the comment and for reading!
Dana Thank you for this article! I've found this subject to be something that causes anxiety and hinders me from ever following through! :)
- Heather Aww! I know, it's REALLY hard to ask a girl out when you are a girl. I hope this helped you! ;)
Marina @Heather Jensen We're close friends, and she even came out and said she liked me, but she gets awkward when it comes to relationships. I know she's quiet and I'm really loud, but I want this to work in a way that she's comfortable with.
- Heather Hi Marina! I'd say that you should take it a little slow. Flirt a little at first and see how she responds. Try to touch her a little bit (tickling, hair playing, cuddling) and eventually, it should move into something more. :)
Marina What about if they're an introvert?
- Heather Hi Marina! There are tons of ways that you can do it! Are you friends with her? Have you tried to draw her out of her shell a bit? Diana has a great point about chatting online too if you aren't comfortable face-to-face!
- Diana @Marina Lestraude, How about chatting over social media or asking a mutual friend to introduce you?