7 Tips for Girls Who Still Want to Stay Friends with Their Ex ...

Melissa

7 Tips for Girls Who Still Want to Stay Friends with Their Ex ...
7 Tips for Girls Who Still Want to Stay Friends with Their Ex ...

You and your ex had a great run, but in the end things just didn’t work out. If the relationship ended on good terms, you might be thinking about staying friends after the breakup. That is fine, as long as you both are on the same page. Here are a few tips for staying friends with an EX.

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1

Are You Really Friends?

First, you need to know that he really does want to be friends with you. There are a few things that may be going on here. He may say he wants to be friends only to avoid hurting your feelings. If he isn’t answering your calls or following through with plans then he may not want to be your friend. On the other hand, he may be too eager to be friends and is really hoping to blur that line between friendship and dating.

2

Check Your Feelings

Now that you know where he stands, you need to evaluate your own feelings. Do you really want to be friends with this guy? Does hanging out with him in a neutral, platonic way sound fun to you? If it does, great! Are you hoping that being friends will give you a chance to flirt and reconnect on a romantic level? If so, slow down.

3

Stay in Groups

At first, maybe you should only get together with groups of friends. This is easy if you already have the same friends. This is harder if your group of friends are all dating each other. Either way, groups are safe.

4

Have an out

Have a talk with your ex and agree to end the friendship or back off if either of you start to feel something for the other. It will make you both feel safer that you have an out if it’s not working the way you planned.

5

Check Your Jealousy

He is your friend. You can’t get upset if he talks to another girl in front of you. Our friends are allowed to date. If he gets jealous of guys talking to you then maybe being friends isn’t a good idea.

6

No Walks down Memory Lane

Don’t ever get caught up in sharing the memories of your relationship. That is the worst thing to do. It can stir up so many emotions and really offset the platonic balance you have going on right now.

7

Rehashing Arguments

Every relationship has its disagreements. Sometimes they get dissolved and all is well and sometimes those arguments are the things that lead to breakups. If you really want to be friends, you have to leave those arguments in the past. Let them go, just like you let go of any romance with your ex.

Have you ever been friends with an ex? How did it work out for you? Tell us about what worked and didn’t work. I would love to hear other people’s advice about being friends with an ex.

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I broke up with my ex a few months ago becuz of long distance, I still wanna be friends with him:// but dunno if it's a good idea. Since when it happened he was totally over me while I was still inlove with him...

Goodness he was a boyfriend someone you had intimate relationships with once upon a time now if he is no longer that set him free what's the point of being friends too much hard work and the chances are u could get back together and then break up and the beat goes on...

Away for years then you can start the friendship

I broke up with my ex & I've been dating my current boyfriend for almost two years but once in a while I still talk to my ex, we were so close, like I thought of his as my Bestfriend instead of my actual boyfriend, that's why I broke up with him.

I'm actually friends with my ex and we are doing well as friends, we talk normal, only problem is that I still have feelings for him, but I rather have him as a friend than nothing, coz till now he is still one of a few people I trust and need... I it's kinda weird for some but we are both ok with this

I am friends with my ex.Actually I still love him but he said he will talk to me only if I stop loving him. There is no particular reason for our break up,he just wanted to be free(not so sure what that means) and the breakup was killing me so I decided being friends is better cause I liked him as a friend first. We have sex, we go to movies, we flirt, he isn't seeing anyone else (that's what he says) and neither am I. We do everything we did as a couple and I am happier than I was while in a so called relationship with him. But today he asked again if I loved him n he would stop talking if I do. I can't figure out what he feels. Can you give some ideas?? 😔

It's all fun & good, friends with an ex...however, just make sure it is actually platonic on all counts because honestly, any relationship or connection that needs to be hidden or kept under raps from any of the other parties involved is not okay. That's just leaving the door to other things happening if no one is honest about the interaction in the first place, otherwise, either stay together or just break it off completely.that needs to be me

I disagree with #5. Absolutely, if the relationship is over, you should be free to talk to whomever you please. But it would be highly insensitive to do it in front of your ex, even if you have a purely platonic relationship now.

I've always been the kind who likes to keep the friendships with my exs because they all meant something to me at one point... Doesn't mean I'm in love with them just means I appreciate them and don't want to lose them just because we aren't together

I don't think being friends with an ex is ever ok. Once you get to the point of being intimate and things like that how can you be "friends" I've never had sex with any of my friends or been cheated on by my friends. And then also who wants to be with someone who's still friends with a bunch women he's dated? That's bizarre to me. There's nothing wrong with being cordial but friends texting talking on the phone on going out? No.

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