Some men find smart women intimidating. Sad, but true. This can make even the smartest woman feel insecure in the field of love. Does it mean you will only find love with a smart man? No! Intellectual equality doesn’t have to be a major factor in your relationship. If you can find someone who loves you but also stimulates you, makes you laugh, protects you and admires you, and you reciprocate, smarts won’t get in the way of that. Here’s how to put your brain power to work to find love.
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Don’t Be Afraid to Be Yourself
Many women, even smart women, make the mistake of pretending to be what they think is their crush’s ideal instead of letting them see the real elements of their personality. This is detrimental in two ways: the first being that you are suppressing your true self and sacrificing your authenticity for the hope of love; and the second being that even if you do make a connection with a person, the connection is based on falsehoods. You will only find your true love by being nothing but yourself.
You Need to Know Exactly What You Want
It can be completely exhausting to throw yourself in to the world of dating, so make it easier in yourself by having a mental checklist of exactly what you are looking for in a partner. This will help you to filter out all of the dead wood at an early stage before you commit to much to the wrong guy! It’s not called being fussy; it’s called having high standards.
Know That You Don’t Need a Man to Function
Of course, it is wonderful to have a partner to share your life with, but in order to be relaxed and attract more possibilities, you need to see that having a man is not what defines you as a person. The less desperate you are about settling down with someone, the easier and more naturally love will eventually come to you. Just like the song says, you can’t hurry love!
You Should Have a Healthy Sense of Priorities
Don’t become one of those women whose only goal in life is to bag a husband. Treat your family, your friends, your job and your hobbies with just as much concern as your dating life and you will find yourself turning in to a much more balanced and well-rounded person. You often find love at the times when you are not actively looking for it.
Have a Wide Sense of Perspective
You will be much luckier in love if you don’t invest absolutely everything you have on a guy who you have only seen a couple of times. Your eagerness to take it to the next level might scare him away, so play it cool and have a sense of perspective about the state of the budding relationship.
Understand That It Takes More than Physical Attraction
Sure, physical attraction might the thing that sparks the connection in the first place, but when it comes to entering in to a proper relationship, it’s important to think about all the other factors like future ambition, finances, career goals etc.
Don’t Be Afraid of Change
Every single relationship is different because, simply, it is between two different people each time! Don’t be bewildered or anxious that your new relationship is not following the same early path as your old one. Change is a good thing, especially when you consider that the old relationships didn’t work out anyway! Embrace change, it can be exciting and invigorating.
Don't Compare Yourself to Others
The grass is always greener on the other side, right? But then, why as women do we always compare ourselves? If I was taller, thinner, curvier, shorter, the list goes on and on. Instead, embrace your brains and know that one day you'll find yourself with someone who appreciates them and finds you more beautiful for your intelligence than anyone before.
As a smart woman in the dating world, you may find it easy to just settle for the sake of having someone-DON'T! Always be choosy in who you associate with. You never want to settle for less than you deserve and you never want to date for the sake of dating.
Cut Ties Early on
You're smart-which probably means you're an extemely good judge of character as well as reading people. Don't look into the situation more than it it is. Use your brains you've been given and know when to let go! If you're looking for long term but the guy you're seeing isn't; don't be naive in thinking he'll change-cut it off. By cutting things off you'll have more time to go out and find someone who wants you and all you have to offer.
The point is to be yourself, you’re fabulous as you are. Your intelligence is a big part of your personality and you should be proud of it, not hide it or suppress it to find love. Don’t overthink things and you’ll find love and it will find you.
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