Men's emotions, hmm, where to start? It’s a topic as vast and complex as the bottomless pit that is my Netflix watchlist. But fear not, dear reader, for I've spent many an evening dissecting this enigma, with books, webinars, and podcasts strewn around me like confetti at a birthday party (if only they'd thrown books instead of confetti, I'd have been in heaven!). Here we are in 2024, and understanding how men express their feelings is still a bit like trying to learn a complicated board game without the instruction manual.
Luckily for you, I've compiled a delightful guide of 11 ways men express their feelings that are bound to shed some light on this perplexing subject. Let's dive in, shall we?
First up, men often reveal their emotions through actions rather than words. Ever noticed your significant other fixing something that's been broken for ages or randomly picking up your favorite snack from the store? That's the male equivalent of skywriting, "I love you." Because let's face it, they might not be penning love songs like Ed Sheeran, but their gestures do pack a punch. (Psst, more on this in Actions.)
Another intriguing way men express their feelings is through their eyes. Yes, you read that right. Someone once told me that the eyes are windows to the soul, to which I replied, "Sure, but can they be more like open bay windows and less like a tiny attic dormer?" Catching a loving glance or a proud eye twinkle? It’s like grabbing a handful of emotional confetti. Dive into the details at Eyes Speak.
And let’s not forget how men use humor as a shield and an expression tool. They've got the whole "if-I-don’t-laugh-I’ll-cry" routine down to an art form. A cheeky joke here, a witty remark there – it's their way of saying, "I care about you" without getting all mushy. For more hilarious insights, check out Humor.
In our Unexpected Outbursts section, you’ll discover that even the most stoic of men can occasionally hit an “emotional jackpot” and surprise you with unexpected tears or excitement. The unpredictable side of men can be both charming and bewildering.
So, whether you're navigating a current relationship or simply want to better understand the men in your life, this guide is here to make decoding the elusive male mind a tad easier. Stick with me, and by the end, you might just become the Sherlock Holmes of male emotions. Let's get started!
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1. Commitment
When a man shows commitment, he’s serious. Men tend to have a reputation of being afraid of commitment. It takes a man a long time to commit since he wants to make sure that you’re fully onboard. Once initiating a monogamous relationship, men take their relationships seriously. He is choosing to be with you so embrace it! When they commit, it's one of the many ways men express their feelings.
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Commitment is a strong indicator of a man's feelings. Men tend to take longer to commit than women due to wanting to make sure that their partner is fully committed before they take the next step. When they do commit, it is a serious decision and they take their relationship seriously. It is important to recognize and appreciate this commitment as it is a sign of his feelings. Men often express their feelings through commitment and it is an important factor to consider when evaluating a man's feelings.
2. Taking Action Instead of Saying "I Love You"
Even though men do say "I love you," many prefer to show their feelings through actions other than actually using their words. Instead of the typical "I love you," your man may fix things around the house, take out the recycling and garbage, or even bring home a little surprise gift after a long day. He might do anything to rock your world so don’t be worried if he doesn’t often say "I love you." Be conscious of the little things he does as an alternative.
Frequently asked questions
A lot of guys find it easier to share their emotions through music. It’s like they can say what they really feel without having to put it into their own words. Songs give them a voice when it's hard to find their own.
Men have their own unique ways of showing love, like doing small favors, being protective, or just spending quality time with you. Their actions often speak louder than words.
Yeah, it can be tough for many guys. Society often teaches them to be strong and not show vulnerability, so they might struggle with opening up emotionally.
Create a safe space for him. Be patient, listen without judging, and encourage him gently. Sometimes, showing your own vulnerability can make it easier for him to open up too.
It’s important to communicate how you feel about his lack of expression. Let him know it’s important to you. Sometimes couples therapy can also help in understanding and bridging emotional gaps.
3. Affections
Even if it’s not PDA (public display of affection), affection is affection and if he’s showing you some love then welcome it. Whether it be making an effort to spend as much time with you as he can or sends you a gift out of the blue, he’s trying to express himself. He’s finding ways to make you feel special and rather than expressing his feelings with words: he’s showing affection through action. You never want to have to force the words out of a man. Rather than making a man express himself in words, try to make ends meet and accept and recognize the affection he is trying to give you no matter which way he offers it.
4. Flaunting You
If he introduces you to his closest friends, his family, or gives you a big smooch freely it means he’s really into you. Women believe that men should do all these things and that it shouldn’t be a big deal, but it is. The introduction signifies the commitment, love, and intimacy that he has for and towards the relationship. Him wanting you to connect with the others involved in his life is a big deal. I know it may be intimidating realizing that you’re not actually the only one in his life, but getting comfortable with introductions and meeting some of his people is a way in which he is expressing his feelings and how he feels about you.
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Public displays of affection and personal introductions are tantalizing signs that he's serious. When a man is eager to show you off, it's not just about pride or showing off; it's a testament to the depth of his feelings. He is ready to blend his life with yours, intertwining your social circles and creating shared experiences. Such gestures are emblematic of the pride he holds in being with you, and they reflect his desire for a future where you are a central figure. Embrace these moments as acknowledgments of your importance in his life.
5. Sincerely Listening and Responding
Usually when having a conversation, you’ll give the common, "Mhm," "Yes," "Sure," responses to let the other person know you’re at least listening to them. When you don’t get any response from a man, you usually think he’s not listening, but just because he isn’t saying anything does not mean that he isn’t. A man may prefer to listen quietly and actually think about what you are saying. In a case like this, silence may be a good thing and may be his way of effectively listening to you.
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It's important to recognize this contemplative silence as a sign of deep consideration. Rather than merely waiting for their turn to speak, some men process their emotions internally and compose their thoughts before responding. This reflective quietude shouldn't be mistaken for indifference. In fact, a thoughtful pause before they reply could indicate that they are taking your words seriously and valuing the conversation. Acknowledge this form of engagement with patience and give them the space to articulate their feelings.
6. When He Pleases You
You’re pleasure is important to your man not only in the bed but out as well. Men will be men though and might not know exactly what to do or how to please you unless you use your words and actually tell him what you want. It’s so typical for women to sit on the sideline and expect the men to know. Well sorry women, they don’t. If you tell him, gently though, men are serious when it comes to affecting their ego, he’ll listen. Pleasing you will make him and you feel good.
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Additionally, communication is key to a fulfilling partnership. When you express your desires and preferences, it nudges him to step up his game, not just in romantic gestures but in daily life too. It's a learning curve for both of you, and as you guide him with compassion and clarity, he becomes more attuned to your needs. Remember, it's a dance where feedback is the rhythm that keeps you both in sync. When he succeeds in making you happy, it's a win-win; you feel cherished, and he feels like a hero in your eyes.
7. Sharing His Secrets
When does a man really open himself up to a woman? Unless he’s really into you, it’s rare that a man will. If your man does, then it means you're one lucky, trusted lady. Although it may not seem like a big deal to you, it’s a way of him expressing his feelings and letting you know that he does have a brain and a heart somewhere inside that body of his. When he let’s you in on the ups and downs of his past or when he vents to you about work, welcome it. It’s a compliment for your relationship.
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Opening up is a significant step for any man. It suggests not only a deep trust but also a desire for emotional intimacy. Recognize these moments as his way of showing vulnerability and think of them as his non-verbal declarations of love. Whether it's sharing childhood memories or confessing his fears, his openness is a treasure. Cherish these conversations; they symbolize the unique connection he's building with you. When he chooses to share his inner world, it's his unspoken way of saying you're his confidante, his safe harbor in the stormy seas of life.
8. Giving You Gifts
This doesn't mean extravigant gifts or buying you things all the time, but if a guy buys you a gift because it reminded him of you that's a good sign. He's trying to express his feelings without actually having to say "I was thinking of you" or "I wanted to show you I care." Sometimes it's nice to hear it, but other times it's enough to just know because of little gestures like this.
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These small tokens of affection are subtle yet powerful indicators of his growing feelings for you. Whether he picks up your favorite snack on the way to see you, or he surprises you with a novel by an author he knows you adore, his thoughtful choices reflect a deep consideration for what makes you happy. It's his way of weaving himself into the little details of your life, showing that he's attentive and invested in bringing a smile to your face. Remember, it's the sentiment, not the price tag, that truly counts.
9. Introducing You to the People He Cares about
This is a huge deal for some guys. If they really care about you and don't see you leaving your life for a while then they feel like you should meet the people in their lives. It's even better if you know that this isn't normal behavior for him. This tells you he cares about you and thinks you're special enough to share with the people in his life that he cares about the most.
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Men often guard their personal space and the circle of close relationships very carefully, so it's a significant signal of trust and affection if he is eager to bring you into his fold. Pay attention to how he introduces you—does he hold your hand, put his arm around you, or beam with pride? These little gestures underscore the depth of his feelings. They're indicators that he's not only serious about you but also proud to show you off—a tangible confirmation that you're important to him.
10. Physical Contact
This means when he just absentmindedly reaches over and touches your leg or puts his arm around you. This could also work for when he initiates cuddling or to hold your hand, not the stuff that you initiate! The best feeling is when guys just do something that seems like they're not even thinking about it, they just wanted to be touching you so they did - not sexual, not pawing at you, just a sweet and tender touch meant just for you.
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When you catch him gazing at you with that soft look in his eyes, it's another silent yet powerful expression of his feelings. Sometimes, his eyes will follow you across the room, or he'll look up from his work just to steal a quick glance. These fleeting moments are endearing and speak volumes; he's enamored and can't help but keep you in his sight. This unspoken attention is his heart's quiet declaration of affection.
11. Nicknames
Sweet pet names that are not the standard babe, baby, and honey are a great way to know that a guy cares about you. It's so subtle that he probably doesn't even realize it, but he's thought enough into it that he's not calling you a generic name. It's a sweet way to show you that he's trying, even if he won't come out and say it. Not all guys do this and sometimes it's enough that they even call you babe, but it's even better when thought goes into it.
It is scientifically proven that men tend to use the left side of their brain, where reasoning lies, and that women tend to use the right side of their brain, where emotion is an attribute. I like to think that women use both sides, but I’m not to sure about the scientific backing! Even though us women have a great ability to comprehend and express emotion, men do have feelings and emotions. It’s important to communicate and be aware and recognize that men do have a way of expressing their feelings. Will you give your beau a chance to express his feelings the best way that he can?
This article was written in collaboration with editor Lydia Sheehan.
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The left side of the brain is for logic and the right side is more for emotion. We have to reside in both but it does attribute to some of our tendencies in daily life. Left brainers tend to remember things vocally whereas right brainers remember tonally, for example.
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Ograceward13:The left side of the brain is for logic and the right side is more for emotion. We have to reside in both but it does attribute to some of our tendencies in daily life. Left brainers tend to remember things vocally whereas right brainers remember tonally, for example.
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