Has the thought ever crossed your mind that your sex life might be starting to get a bit dull? It can be so easy to fall into a routine, simply because you’re so comfortable with each other. The thing is, routine can become wearing on your soul. It’s great to feel secure in your relationship but great sex can only make your bond grow stronger. It keeps your intimacy fresh and alive. You don’t eat the same ice cream flavour every day so why have vanilla sex every time? Here are some tips to avoid vanilla sex.
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1. New Positions
Start things slow by just trying some new positions to experiment with feeling different in your sexual environment. If you are used to missionary and all of a sudden try out being on top, you can almost feel like a different person without starting to get in to deeper role play!
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Trying out new positions can add excitement and variety to your sex life. It can also help you explore different sensations and find out what works best for you and your partner. Some popular positions to try include doggy style, cowgirl, and spooning. You can also experiment with variations of these positions, such as adding pillows for support or incorporating toys and props. Additionally, trying out different locations, such as the shower or kitchen counter, can also spice things up. Don't be afraid to communicate with your partner and express your desires to try new things. Remember, the key is to have fun and explore together.
2. Set Your Alarm
Set your alarm 30 minutes earlier so you can wake up your partner and treat them to a little early morning sex. It will take you back to a time when you weren’t so stuck in your adult routine and it can feel really freeing.
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Just imagine starting the day wrapped in the warmth and intimacy that comes from a passionate encounter. It's like pressing the reset button on your relationship, injecting spontaneity and excitement into your morning routine. Not only does it wake you up better than the strongest cup of coffee, but it also fosters a deeper connection with your partner throughout the day. Keep the experience fresh by varying the pace or trying different positions – the unexpectedness will heighten the pleasure for both of you. Just ensure you still leave enough time to get ready for the day ahead!
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3. List Fantasies
Spend some time with your partner, talking about and listing your top five fantasies. See if you have any that match, and then that will give you a good idea of where you should start to explore. I’m not saying throw yourselves straight in to it, but you can definitely both get on the same page with a bit of dirty talk about a shared fantasy.
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Exploring fantasies with your partner is a great way to spice up your sex life. It can be intimidating to talk about your fantasies, but it can also be incredibly liberating. Talk openly and honestly with your partner about your top five fantasies and see if you have any in common. You don't need to jump right into anything, but talking about a shared fantasy can help get you both on the same page. Once you have explored your fantasies, you can start to create new experiences and have more exciting and adventurous sex.
4. Soft Bondage
If the thought of 50 Shades got you hot under the collar, then you can always start out with a little soft bondage, things like using blindfolds to heighten sensation or super soft restraints to give you or your partner a little more control and power without being too intimidating.
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Exploring the realms of soft bondage adds an enthralling twist to your bedroom play. Start simple with silky scarves or plush cuffs that comfortably bind wrists or ankles. The beauty of these elements lies in their power to create a dynamic of trust and anticipation. Remember, the key is communication; discuss boundaries and establish a safe word before you begin. By doing so, you ensure that the experience is exciting yet safe, allowing both partners to let go and enjoy the dance of dominance and submission at a pace that works for both of you.
5. Be Strangers
One of the easiest role play adventures to try as a newbie is just to pretend that you and your partner are strangers. It will bring back that thrill of casual dating and sex that you might now have experience for a long time, especially of you have been in a relationship for years!
6. Introduce Toys
This is such a fun way to change up your sex routine yet many couples never try it. There are plenty of sex toys beyond the simple dildo/vibrator and cock ring, there’s sure to be something you both love. Make the whole thing fun, beginning with choosing and ordering the toys together. There are some good ideas in my other article here 7 Sex Toys 😈 for Partners 💑 Who Both Want Enjoyment 😉 ... @Sici
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