So, let's say you slept with someone you're really into, someone you'd love to hang out with, hook up with, and maybe even get serious with. Whatever the case, you want to keep him (or her!) interested, too, which means doing everything possible to get him to chase after you. Now, obviously, the best thing to do is to just be honest and say what you want, straight out. If he's into it, awesome. If he's not, no problem. Sometimes a subtle approach is better, though, not to mention more comfortable, so here are a few foolproof techniques to make him chase you after you hook up!
The afterglow is amazing – as long as you're spending it with someone you really want to be with, that is! It's so great to experience it with someone you've got great chemistry with, someone who makes you feel comfortable, and someone you can actually be intimate with. Spend it talking, cuddling, dozing – or a bit of each!
If one or both of you made it clear from the start that this is all kind of casual, don't push for more. Something can grow, you never know, but if you go in knowing that you're just hanging out, you can't start expecting more. Have a conversation about it so you'll be clear. Then you won't have to make assumptions or demands.
Some guys really don't like pressure, and they sometimes see it where it doesn't actually exist. Do not apply pressure to the affected area – best motto to follow if you want a guy to pursue you after you sleep together. Act a little indifferent and like you're not at all bothered. He'll come runnin' – and if he doesn't, if he's not into it, that's cool, too, 'cause you're NOT bothered, right?
Mutual respect is a must no matter what. You have to respect each other. You know that tired old trope of the girl who's supposed to feel guilty or ashamed of casual sex? Yeah, forget that. Women have sexual desires and appetites, too. They run the gamut and each choice is perfectly fine. You should never have to worry about being disrespected by a partner because you had sex with him. If he respects you, then you will respect him. If you respect him, then he will respect you.
It's the weirdest thing. Make yourself unavailable, stop reaching out, and bam, suddenly he's reaching out to you! Match him text for text – don't send one unless your partner sends one and don't volunteer more information than he asks. You don't have to be cold or distant, exactly, just don't go out of your way to get in contact first.
This is why it's so important to be honest about what you want. If you know that you want something casual and relaxed, perfect! It's likewise awesome if you're looking for something a little more serious, but you can't just assume your partner knows that. Of course, even if you're just hanging out a lot or if you're friends with benefits, sometimes you catch feelings. Try not to or, if you can't help it, either say something, end it, or keep them in perspective.
There's nothing sexier than a girl who's confident in who she is. Acting like someone else always backfires and it's totally unnecessary. The person you are? She's amazing, astounding, and altogether awesome. She doesn't need to be anyone other than herself!
How do you navigate these sometimes muddy waters, ladies? Give up your tips in the comments!
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