You want to believe that your boyfriend would never do anything to hurt you, but couples break up all the time. If you want to save your heart some trouble, you need to figure out if your man is the type to leave you broken and alone. It can be hard to think rationally when you're so obsessed with him, but it can be done if you take the time to think about things logically. Here are some clear signs that he's eventually going to hurt you:
Snapshot Survey
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1. Confused and Changeable
Does he tell you that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you one day and then tell you he's worried about your relationship the next? If he's always going back and fourth between being completely in love with you and wanting to break up, then he's eventually going to leave you. He's obviously confused, which means it's probably good for him to take some time for himself. If your man doesn't seem to know what he wants from life or from you, then it's not a good sign.
2. BackUp Buddies
Does he keep his female friends a little too close? If he always texts girls, even after you tell him it makes you uncomfortable, he doesn't respect your opinion. The worst case scenario is that he's trying to keep some other women on his good side so that he can hook up with them once you break up.
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3. No One Knows
If he won't change his relationship status on Facebook or introduce you to his parents, he might be trying to play the field. It's one thing to be afraid of commitment, but it's an entirely different thing to refuse to go out in public with you. If he's guilty of any of these things, something's fishy.
4. Can't Compromise
If you want to go ice skating, but he wants to go bowling, how do you settle the dispute? If he always gets his way, it means he doesn't care about your happiness. If you end up doing nothing at all, because it turned into a big fight, it's just as bad. If you want your relationship to last, you need to find ways to compromise.
5. Ex Examples
Has he told you what went down with his exes? If he says that his past relationships were perfect, but he ended it anyway, that's a red flag. If he cheated on an ex, that's another huge red flag. What happened in his past should stay in the past, but sometimes it bleeds into the present.
6. Always Uninformed
Do you know what he does with his friends when they hang out? Do you even know when he's going out? If he keeps you out of the loop, then he either doesn't trust you or doesn't want to open up to you. Either way, it means that your relationship is headed for disaster.
7. A Woman Warned
Your friends and family don't know your boyfriend as well as you do, but sometimes they can see things that you're blind to. If every single person you know has warned you about your man, then keep your eyes peeled for suspicious behavior.
Whenever you enter a relationship, you risk having your heart broken. That shouldn't stop you from falling in love, but it should urge you to be careful about whom you trust. Have you ever had your heart broken?
Comments
Suzi: Everyone is capable of hurting everyone. Be aware and listen toy our inner voice. Don't live with your head in the clouds. The signs are there
True: @jennapher i really dont have to be tested and tried My parents are married to each other and very happy i have reserved for my future husband and out of respect he should too. Some cultures are different and you could sound offensive I am going to have the relationship with my husband have that my parents have. No room for heart breaks. Divorce does not exist in our family. I have a covenant with God and I am not going to waste on cheap superficial dating mediocre guys. As far candidacy go you have no idea about my faith or my background. Thanks for the wishes I wish you the same. I am generally more happy than the girls complaining and nagging about their so called "boyfriend". Thanks for your wishes
Trashboat: I think you should change the title because you will get hurt no matter what, in every relationship but that doesn't mean you won't get through it
sara: true my boyfriend just said this girl is coming to my house and I'm taking her to Starbucks and the movies... like why tell me this
Chenelle: Very accurate! Everything mentioned happened in my relationship ended in a breakup because of cheating.
Nessalious: Am in a worst situation where my boyfriend doesn't help in our relationship at all
ash134: Really wish I had seen this a few months ago and didn't have to find out the hard way with me ex. Huge warning sign if you don't meet his parents or friends, your family gets a weird vibe, and most of all of you find out he's cheated. These all happened in my last relationship. Just didn't see it or fully recognize it until months later. Also a tip - don't date someone you work with unless you know them really well!! This is great advice in this post, totally accurate.
Briana: My boyfriend talks to girls on this app called Meowchat. He assures again and again (and we've had fights about me not trusting him) about him being on that app and talking to just nothing but random girls. He says he's not the cheating type but I don't want him going on app everyday looking at pictures of women and talking to them about whatever (hoping it's not bad conversations). I trust him in a way. It's just that app seems to be nothing but women and idk what he talks about on there. I think to myself,"Why do you need to keep talking to other women when you have one right here."
Foye: @sara that is so not right he shouldn't be trying to do that
Tracy: ALL of these happened in my last relationship. Wow!
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