There are definitely some signs you're not a match made in heaven. When you are just starting out with someone new, those initial feelings of lust and passion can really cloud your judgment when it comes to the bigger picture and ultimate compatibility. You are really attracted to this person and share a great initial chemistry, but just because this honeymoon period feels good, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you have found your one true love. There are plenty of little signs that will occur towards the end of honeymoon period that are indicators that this relationship might not be the one that you should hang all your hopes on. Here are some of the major signs you're not a match made in heaven.
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1. Can’t Agree on Kids
The desire to have children is one that you can’t ignore, and it is a huge problem if your partner is totally against the idea. The same goes for the other way round, if you don’t want children but he does, then you are never going to make each other truly happy. Don’t waste time in what is ultimately going to be an unfruitful relationship. If you can't agree on kids, that's one of the biggest signs you're not a match made in heaven.
2. Can’t Agree on Living Arrangements
Does trying to talk about future living arrangements feel like pulling teeth? If one or both of you are unwilling to compromise on living together, or you simply don’t want to take that extra step, then it’s an indicator that you might not be as committed to each other as you thought.
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3. Different Money Attitudes
If you like to spend and he likes to save, or vice versa, then you are going to run into a lot of different obstacles during your relationship. Your totally different financial views will eventually cause a separation. Remember, finances are one of the most common causes of divorce.
4. Too Much Arguing
There is lively discussion born of passion, and then there is flat out arguing about everything. Could it just be that you have come to realise that you actually don’t have any views in common? That’s a problem.
5. Not Amicable with Family
Do you not get on with his family? Does he not get on with yours? We know a relationship should just be about the two people in love, but when both families are being treated badly, then it will spark a lifetime of potential turbulence.
6. Happier Apart
Do you enjoy the time you spend with your friends more than the time you spend with your partner? This is a key sign that things are not going to pan out. They should be the one you can’t wait to get home to.
7. Different Expectations
He might just be in it for a good time, whereas you are looking at the bigger picture and looking to the future. Different expectations can cause a lot of wasted time in the wrong relationship.
8. Doesn’t Feel Important
Does it feel more like hanging out with a friend than a partner? If you don’t feel that important, exciting rush of love with you are with him, then it’s highly likely that he is not the one who was meant for you.
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curlly_headed: That’s so true I’m 11 and I got so heart broken
bonita: If you both won’t compromise, relationship won’t last long
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