Love is a scary thing, but you shouldn't run away from it if you're lucky enough to experience it. You should embrace it. After all, it might end up making you happier than you've ever been before. So here are a few tips for women who are afraid of falling in love:
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1. History Doesn’t Have to Repeat Itself
It doesn't matter if you've been hurt a million times before. Not all men are destined to act the way that your exes acted. Every man is different. That's why you shouldn't let your past relationships scare you away from entering future relationships. Don't let your baggage weigh you down.
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Start viewing each new encounter as a blank slate, an opportunity to write a fresh story. It's natural to feel wary, but embrace the possibility of a love that is different and healthier than what you've known. Remember, your previous experiences were lessons, not blueprints. By staying open-minded and optimistic, you're giving yourself the chance to experience the joy and connection you deserve. Let go of the fear and trust in the chance of finding a relationship that adds to your happiness, not diminishes it.
2. Get to Know Him before Sleeping with Him
You don't want to get too attached before you really get to know a guy. That's why you should figure out if you can really trust him or not before you decide to sleep with him. Normally, feelings grow deeper once sex is involved. That's why you should move at a pace that you're comfortable with, and never agree to have sex with him until you're completely ready for it.
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Building a foundation through meaningful conversations, shared experiences, and understanding each other's values is crucial. It's about saying yes to honesty and transparency and no to unnecessary heartache. Trust your instincts, and if red flags arise, don't be afraid to address them or walk away. Remember, the right person will respect your boundaries and be willing to wait. Ensure that you have a strong connection that goes beyond the physical – one that nurtures emotional intimacy and a genuine bond. Your comfort and confidence in the relationship should be your guidepost.
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3. You Don’t Have to Be like Your Parents
If you're scared of love, because of the way that you were raised, you have to remember that your parents aren't the only ones out there in a relationship. Don't let their unhealthy marriage scare you away from dating. There are plenty of other couples that you can look at for relationship goals.
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Growing up, we often internalize our parents' behaviors and views on love. But remember, each journey is unique, just like your fingerprint. Embrace your individuality when navigating the seas of romance. Allow yourself to learn from the past—but not be shackled by it. Seek out examples of healthy relationships and notice the infinite ways love can manifest. By consciously choosing a different path, you can break the cycle and create a love story that's beautifully yours.
4. You Can Fall in Love Multiple Times
If you fall in love, and then that love falls apart, it's not the end of the world. There's room in your heart for more than one person. Believe it or not, there's not just one person out there for everyone. There are millions of men out there who would be lucky to have you.
5. The Right Guy Will Calm Your Fears
Love seems pretty terrifying, since it means that another person can make or break your day. Of course, when you have someone by your side that you trust, it's not all that scary. The right guy will help you deal with your fears. He'll be there when you cry and help you get back up after you fall down.
6. The Memories Will Be Worth It
Even if you end up getting your heart broken, it won't be that bad. Yes, the pain will be difficult at first, but it will eventually fade away. When it does, you'll always have happy memories to look back on. Those memories will make everything else worth it.
7. It’s Okay to Stay Single
If you can't stop yourself from being scared of love, no matter what you do, then it's okay to stay single for a little while longer. You don't have to be in a relationship in order to be happy, you know. There's nothing wrong with being unattached. If you're not ready to embrace love, then you should embrace your single status.
8. It's Okay to Be Vulnerable
Many women-especially those that have been hurt in the past-fear relationships and love because they fear being vulnerable again. It's natural to have fears when starting a new relationship because there's no guarantee it'll last, and then you've given your heart and feelings away only to be crushed again. But, you shouldn't let that fear stop you. It's great to fall in love and if things don't last, it's just a lesson for the next time.
9. Love Doesn't Mean Losing Your Friends or Family
Sometimes when people begin relationships, their other ones fall to the wayside. It doesn't have to be that way. You don't have to be afraid of falling in love because you're afraid of losing those who matter the most now, because in the grand scheme of things, if they're meant to be in your life they will be! Make sure to prioritize your other relationships as well as your new love and everything will be fine.
10. Love Doesn't Have to Hurt
Some people believe you can't have love without pain. With true happiness comes true sorrow; and while that may be the case SOMETIMES, you don't have to be fearful of love because you're fearful of pain or sadness. It's all a part of life and you will suffer from sadness whether in love or not, being in love with someone just makes it slightly easier to bear.
Love is a scary thing, but it won't feel all that terrifying once you find the right guy. That's why you shouldn't swear yourself off of relationships. Go for the men that you like, because they could end up helping you live out your happily ever after! Are you terrified of falling in love?
Comments
TinkerbellMoi: Angie, I don't agree with you.. Basically you said that a girl should sleep around instead of looking for something serious.. Such bad advice you said..
Jennifer: I'm inlove with my bestfriend of 6years. And I wanted to tell him. I'm just scared.
Angie: Tinker, dont take guys too seriously sometimes they just want to have fun. Like at one point in your life you too will just want to have fun! My heart is broken.. But I dated outside my race and it was amazing, outta this world feeling. Fireworks every time i saw him..
peony: Fall in love at least once in your lifetime!
TinkerbellMoi: And what if you want to know what love is? And guys only want to sleep with you or use you?
Carla: Yes....been hurt too many times 😢😔
Karina: Jxhxhxhjx
Michele: I've been hurt over and over.. Too scared, seeing a therapist for my insecurities
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