Introverts do things a little differently than everyone else. I feel pretty secure in saying that because I am ridiculously introverted. It took me ever so long to realize that, however, which probably explains why some of my past relationships ended the way they did – or perhaps I simply needed to find the one very special person who understands my special brand of introversion, my darling Heather. Anyway, the point is, introverts behave a bit differently when they fall in love, too. They do things for and because of their new love that are actually quite meaningful.
Introverts love their quiet time. They need it, they thrive on it, it's essential to them. When we're willing to give it up to spend time with someone else, that's pretty special.
For an introvert, trying new things, doing something we've never done before, and stepping out of our comfort zones are all terrifying … unless we're doing it for someone we love.
It may take us a while to trust you. It may take us a while to open up. It's worth it – for both people in the relationship.
It puts our teeth on edge, being in a crowd, but we'll brave concerts, Renaissance Faires, and Black Friday sales for the one we love.
We're generally happy lounging around the house reading, watching TV, or playing games, or maybe hanging out with a small, close group of friends. We'll make ourselves presentable and go out with you if we're in love, though – and we'll even enjoy ourselves.
Introverts aren't usually fond of parties, but that's not to say we'll never go. If you're important to us, we'll make the sacrifice – but don't be surprised if we're zapped afterward.
Once introverts trust someone and, even more, love someone, we go deep. After all, most of us hate small talk, so we tend to dive into the big subjects right away.
We're just thoughtful that way. Maybe even sentimental. Whatever, it's cute, right?
We pay very close attention to people in general, especially those closest to us. We know the color of your eyes, which sweater you want for your birthday, your favorite Disney movie, and how beautiful your penmanship is.
We're all about seeing different perspectives and understanding different viewpoints. We love it. However, we won't capitulate – unless you make a really good point.
We're slow moving creatures. Give us some time. It's worth it.
Well, that's the hope, right? That the person you love will understand you?
Just because we want to see you smile.
Oh, yeah. If an introvert loves you, s/he will not only sacrifice quiet time, s/he will share their special spaces with you. That's love.
Lots of us express ourselves through music. We love looking for songs that describe something happening in our lives.
Actually, this depends. Some of us hate talking on the phone. Some of us get texting anxiety.
We have to. We don't say much, so we're used to revealing our feelings through gestures and expressions.
Does this resemble any of the introverts in your life?
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