When you are dating, it's sometimes hard to see the red flags out there. It's sometimes hard to see what could be considered flaws. If you are on a date, make sure you have this guide pulled up so you can look for red flags!
Snapshot Survey
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Please subscribe for your personalized newsletter:
1. His Phone is Ten Times More Interesting than You
If he is on his phone more than he is talking to you, walk away.
***
When it comes to dating, it is important to be aware of any red flags that may arise. One red flag to be aware of is when your date is on their phone more than they are talking to you. If your date is constantly checking their phone, it could be a sign that they are not interested in the conversation or in getting to know you.
This is especially concerning if your date is more interested in their phone than they are in you. If your date is on their phone more than they are talking to you, it could be a sign that they are not invested in the relationship. They may be more interested in the people they are talking to or the games they are playing on their phone than they are in getting to know you.
It is also important to consider the context of the situation. If you are on a date and your date is on their phone, it could be for a variety of reasons. It could be that they are just checking the time, or they could be getting an important call. However, if your date is consistently on their phone and not engaging in conversation, it could be a sign that they are not interested in getting to know you.
2. Mr. Braggy Pants
Let's say that he brags about his house, his wages, his job, everything! You don't want that right?
Frequently asked questions
3. The Worker-bee
Or, let's say that all he talks about is working. Constantly. Remember, you're looking for a relationship.
4. He Constantly One-ups You
Jesus, my brother does this a lot and it gets on my nerves.
***
Dating can be a tricky business. It’s important to be aware of the potential red flags that can come up during a date. One such red flag is when a partner constantly one-ups you. This behavior can be a sign of an unhealthy power dynamic and a lack of respect for your opinions and experiences.
This type of behavior can manifest in a variety of ways. For example, your date may try to outdo your stories by telling their own, often more impressive, version of the same story. They may also try to outdo your accomplishments by downplaying them or claiming that they’ve done something similar, but better. They may even try to one-up your opinions by claiming to know more than you do.
When someone is constantly one-upping you, it can be difficult to stand up for yourself. It’s important to remember that you have the right to express your thoughts and feelings without interruption or judgement. If you feel like your date is not respecting your opinions and experiences, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.
5. ...worse, He Orders for You on the First Date
Some girls like this, some girls don't but I think it's controlling.
6. Common Ground? You Have None
Which can be scary.
7. He's Obsessed with Himself
He is the topic of conversation always.
8. Ah, the Ex Has Come up at Least Four Times … in Five Minutes
Oh lord, shoot me now.
9. Already Talking about Babies?
Wait, what?
10. He's Asked You Your Opinion of Him Ten Times Already?
He's insecure. Very insecure. It's not something that is simple to get over either.
11. He Still Lives with His Parents and Has No Intentions of Moving out
He also has no job and gets an allowance … and he's in his mid-twenties. Run. Fast.
12. He's Slept with How Many People?
Player. Big-time player.
13. They Are Way, Way Too Serious
And they can't even make you laugh.
14. Sharing Way, Way Too Much Way, Way Too Fast
There is no door or window to them. It is just open and free space.
15. They Spill Every Secret about Everyone They Ever Knew
You've only known them for five minutes and you know about every secret they've ever been told.
16. They Are Wicked Negative
… and have no intention of perking up.
17. They Are Looking for a One Night Stand
And they say that.
Comments
Courtney: *p.s., a single comment is normal but obsessively turning the conversation to your ex is a cause for concern. I just wanted to elaborate on that.
Courtney: Out of respect, if you are with someone and trying to move on then I feel it is not cool to talk about your ex....If you are with one of your girlfriends or something that's different; but I feel if you are on a date constantly talking about your ex clearly shows you have not and are not ready to move on. That's just my opinion though.😛
Sev: I disagree with a lot of these, if he talks about work it means that he actually cares about what he does and it's a big part of his life, as someone who has a career that I love and have had for years, I would be more wary of him hating his job because he could easily fix that. Same with kids, especially if he has some, if he doesn't talk about them I'd think he was a dead beat father which is not on my good list. If he was in a long term relationship then his ex was a huge part of his life, I'd expect to hear stories about them or at least that included them. If he just bashes her than obviously get out but if he is just telling funny stories or something like that I see absolutely no harm in talking about the ex. If I'm going to date someone I want it to be real and be a big part of their lives, and I would hope he'd tell stories including me to others even if we broke up. If he just hides everything about his ex I think it's a worse red flag.
Leslie: Oh how I wish they would say they were looking for a one night stand! I get the ones who play along that they are looking for a serious, committed relationship and bam! Here it comes-literally not figuratively-that they are looking for a "passionate connection" riiight. I smile & say "What happened to that long term, committed, serious relationship"? Which is met by a blank stare. Date over. On to the next. Thank goodness for Uber!❤️
:
Feedback Junction
Where Thoughts and Opinions Converge