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7 Secrets to Getting a Text Back without Being Clingy for Girls Who Just Want to Talk to Him ...

By Heather

Why is it SO hard to get guys to text you back? Why do they play so many games?! Okay, granted, sometimes people get busy and they don't answer or get in touch right away – no problem. Lots of guys flat-out admit to waiting a set amount of time before sending or answering messages, however, even if they're dating! Texting turns into this competition and it's like dudes feel like they'll lose if they actually get in touch. It's so maddening being on the other end, waiting for that response. Girls, it's so totally understandable why some of us are compelled to blow up a guy's phone, trying to get just one answer, but that's not the way to go about it. Oh no! No, there are actually some tried-and-true secrets you can use to get a guy to text you back – and the best part is that you'll never have to worry about coming off as annoying ever again!

1 Play It Cool

City,screenshot,Citytv, Easier said than done, right? It's true, though. Act like it's no big deal, act like you don't even care if he texts you back, and just like magic, he'll probably dislocate his thumbs trying to get in touch with you. A little indifference goes a long way, especially with men. If a guy is playing a game with you when it comes to getting in touch, feel free to play a game of your own. Don't come off as eager or even particularly interested in hearing from him. Send an initial, easygoing text – “Hey, how's it going?” or “Just checking in, wyd?” – and if he doesn't answer, whatever. Go do you.

2 Less is Definitely More

City,screenshot,Citytv, So, this secret goes several ways. For one thing, even if you're all up in your feelings and need to say some things, avoid sending any huge text walls. You don't need to text an entire letter, nor is it the time to go off about his lack of communication – unless you're just ready to wash your hands of him, of course. For another thing, don't say too much, don't reveal too much. Definitely don't try to entice him into answering you by being provocative in a way you might regret later.

3 Text when He Does

hair,human hair color,face,person,image, When you're dealing with a guy who leaves you hanging via text, you sometimes have to fight fire with fire. Instead of constantly dropping him notes throughout the day or checking in to try and bait him into answering, follow his lead. Text him only when he texts you.

4 Don't Give Away Too Much via Text

color,hair,red,person,blond, As you're texting him when he texts you, remember to keep some things to yourself. Don't say anything more than you need to say and try not to volunteer a whole lot of information unless he asks for it. The odds are good that he WILL start asking, though.

5 Know when to End It

color,red,person,woman,girl, You don't need to spend all your time waiting for a guy to text you. It's up to you to decide if this is something you can live with. If he communicates in other ways, cool. However, as soon as you find yourself fighting to get him to ever respond or answer back, you have to ask yourself some tough questions. You deserve someone who acknowledges you and wants to communicate.

6 Don't Overthink It, Ladies!

person,musician,screenshot,singing,family, Some guys are just crap about getting back to people. Sometimes there are legitimate, honest reasons for a man's lack of communication. The point is, don't drive yourself crazy wondering where he's at, why he hasn't answered, or what you can do to make it better. Don't overthink every silence, either. Go with the flow and if it doesn't get you anywhere, toss him aside.

7 Totally Be Yourself

cartoon,album cover,Text,flirting,textsconvoswith, Always. You don't need to pretend to be someone or something else just to get some guy to text you back. There's nothing wrong with you. You don't need to be someone else. You don't need to change who you are. You may just need to change texting partners, that's all.

So, how 'bout it, ladies? Have any secrets or tricks for getting a guy to text you back?

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