10 Ways to Start a Flirty Conversation with a Guy ...

Learning how to start a flirty conversation with your crush or even just a guy you just met isn't easy. Guys are sometimes really hard to talk to first right? Well ladies, I've got a fool-proof guide to the top 10 ways on how to start a flirty conversation with a crush or a guy you just met! These tips will not only help you start a flirty conversation, but they will also help keep the conversation flowing free!

1 Read His Body Language

The first tip on how to start a flirty conversation is to read his body language. Is he interested in you? Only one way to find out! Flirt with him a little, see if he responds, see if he reciprocates. Does he lean in a little just to smell? Is he giving you small little touches? If so, he's definitely interested and the conversation should flow a little easier!

2 Start with Small Talk

Ladies, one of the most common mistakes that we make is we try too hard to get everything out in the first fifteen minutes of a conversation. When you are looking for ways on how to start a flirty conversation, start small! Small talk really does go a really long way!

3 Good Opening

Small talk is good after a great opening. When you are looking for ways on how to start a flirty conversation, you gotta start with a really great and clever opening line. Give him a compliment or maybe say something really witty. It's gotta perk his attention!

4 Ask Questions

So you may have been talking to a guy for a little while, but you're looking to progress the conversation a little more right? Well ladies, you gotta ask open ended questions for that! Ask him about his life, what his dreams are, about his family. All of these items will keep the conversation flowing!

5 Talk about Common Interests

So you both like cycling or working out, why not talk about it? You can compare stats or even just talk about your favorite sport, work out routine or even what bikes you like. Find a common ground and see where the conversation goes from there!

6 Avoid Ex Talk

Remember those mistakes I mentioned up there? Well ladies, the second biggest is talking about the ex right out of the gate. Never bring up ex boyfriends or girlfriends in the beginning. It's not a good flirty conversation piece!

7 Compliment Him

Compliments are always a good opener line, as I mentioned above, but they are also great sprinkled throughout the conversation. Tell him that you like jacket or maybe that his smile is beautiful. Guys like to feel confident whenever they are talking with a girl and compliments are a great way to get him feeling confident!

8 Approach Him First

Remember that confidence piece? Well, a guy actually loves a girl with confidence too. That means that if you're willing to take the first step and approach the guy you like, he'll know just how confident you really are!

9 Be Witty

Witty, funny, and intelligent are all things that guys are looking for. If you play along with their sarcasm, give into some of their little witty comments, you'll become the cool and hip girl! Trust me, this is one of the surefire ways to start up a flirty conversation easily!

10 Have a Sense of Humor

Finally, lighten up ladies! Just because he is poking fun at you doesn't mean that he's being mean. In fact, he is probably just testing your limits just to see if you do have a sense of humor.

Finding just the right ways on how to start up a flirty conversation can be hard in the beginning. After all, talking to a guy isn't the easiest thing in the world right? So ladies, what other tips and tricks do you have on how to start up a flirty conversation with a guy?

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Ny_Marie Ny: what if your already his girlfriend how do I start a real conversation while flirtin wit him at the same time
kinnley I really like this guy garrison, and I've liked him for a while I just don't know how he feels about me. Should I just ask him or leave it be?
Infinity Hi . theres a kid that i like and i think he likes me back . We mess around in class and he tickles me and we have fun . we go rollerskating almost every friday but , he just got out of a relationship about a month ago . :( and he might be moving to texas, and i really like him . ive liked him since 7th grade , im in 8th now and im going to high school . in about 3 months . what should i do to get closer to dating him ?
Audie I love how every comment on this page is asking for advice. Lol!
- Infinity @Audie Ray Ray, because thats kind of what this page is for ..
Alina I\'m in 7th grade and I really like this guy, but I\'m so shy I can hardly talk to him. We both did our schools announcements together last year, but I\'m still shy about talking to him. I want to casually call him cute, and I think he likes me. What do I do?
- Denise Hi Alina. If you're still shy about talking to him, maybe you can start off by complimenting him on something specific (shirt, shoes, hair, etc.). Slowly work your way up to saying he's cute. :)
Harley i really like this guy but i dont know exactly how he feels, we had a fling a while ago and now and then we share a kiss but he just wont tell me how he feels, help, what should i do
MaKaYLa aw thats so cute can someone help me
Anonymous Hey im in grade 8 and im friends with a lot of boys via facebook and i chat with them and flirt with them online but as soon as i see them at school i freeze and turn away!! Help what can i do!?
- Heather Hi anon! What makes it easier for you to talk to them on Facebook versus in person? Have you tried to overcome your fears at all by talking to them in person? Might be a good idea to try! :)
jo hey im jo and umm........... wel.... hav a crush on my 2nd cousin hes 15 an im 12 please help me figure ou wat 2 do
- Harley @jo jo, its normal to feel that way, but you still young, it will probly go away, iv had a crush on my cousin, thought his the one, but it ended badly, and it spoiled our relationship, firstly his your 2nd cousin, where im from they say cousins make dozens :) but im not really sure if its ok to date ones cousin, ask for more advice if you not satisfied with mine...
- Heather Hi Jo Jo! Honestly, I don't think that you should ever, ever mix family relations. I know that you might have a crush on your cousin -- but you have to move on. :)
anonymous Anonymous:hi i met this guy in rugby last year and he liked me but i kinda got shy were in the same school this year and i really like him but i dont talk to him that often apart from in facebook , i always seem to be the one to start the convo ,but i honestly don't know if he likes me or what i should do could you please help
- Heather Hi Anon! I'd see if you can let him be the one to talk to you. :) Make him chase you and that'll tell you if he likes you.
kayla I really need some advice, so i have been dating this guy i really really like for about a week, and i am just an awkard person when it comes to boyfriends for the first few weeks, and i dont want him to stop liking me. WHAT SHOULD I DO??
- Heather Hey Kayla! Just be yourself! I'm sure he'll like you. :)
Anonymous well im 15 and i like this 25 year old guy. I know im too young but i really cant help it...so he works at a ship and comes back every 4 or 5 months and stays about 1 month so my time is limmited and i only get to see him when we go out with my cousin. I wanna talk to him but i cant find anything to talk about and the atmosphere of the bar doesnt really help.so i thought we should go out for a cup of coffe or something so we can get to know each other he has show several times that he likes me, and made several comments about us. Im so confused i dont know what to do at all and he returns at august....
- Kendall He might think that you're cute or whatevs! But... he also won't take you seriously.
Marcela I really like this guy andc he's in 3 of my classes. He sits next to me in two of them and behind me in 1 of them. I talk to him everyday , he always asks me to borrow paper or pencils or stuff like that . He trys to act cool or funny around me , or that could just be my imagination. My best friend told me not to tell anyone else because rumors can get pretty bad at my school. How do i tell if he likes me or not???
- Kendall @Marcela, Well, from the sound of it he does like you! He trys to put himself out there infront of you to get your attention. If you like him, go for it!
Anonymous so i like this boy a lot. we have one period together during school, and h e sits on the opposite end of the room. every once in a while i'll catch him looking at me and stuff. often times he'll approach me and hug me in the beginning of class. other times i'll walk up to him and talk to him. we used to text everyday but now it's just every once in a while. i'm just wondering what i should do? is there anything i could do to keep him interested until he decides he wants to date me? any tips? thanksssss :D
- Kendall I think you should try and go on a little date with him.
Cheska How can I start a conversation if we're both shy ?! We used to talk when its time to sleep , but its really not enough to make him fall with me . Oh , I really dont know what to do ?! -__- Please help me.
- Kendall @Cheska, You have to put yourself out there if your both shy! If you are both shy you guys could go the rest of your life rarely making contact with each other.
izzybee There is a guy a year older than me i love him (i think) and there is a school dance coming up how do i ask him. HELP ME PLS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Ambreen me and this guy once btw were both 16 are gd friends but we tend to hve quite a few arguments particularly because we misunderstand eachother and come to conclusions rather quick. and just the other day we were tlkin on msn n the convo gt rather sexual- he told me not to come online as a joke after 9pm coz it makes him horny - we were tlkin / flirting bt we were playin two characters in a situation. Then umm now we dnt realii tlk much, its not coz of the convo, bt i dunno how to make him tlk 2 me agen like we used to... like in a flirty kind of way. i need help, also i know who he likes but i wanna be the one to catch his eyes instead i know that the girl doesnt like him bak by the way. HELP asap!!!!!!
- Kendall @Ambreen, If he's going to pretend like it never happend, then you forget like it ever happend! Just be flirty with him, and be his friend! That'll catch his eye!
GypsyHook1110 Hi I would like to ask how to I flirt a little bit? And how do I know whether he is responding?
- anonymous give him the "flirty fingers" just instead of waving wiggle your fingers to say hi it will get his attention
- Heather Hey Gypsy! That is a great question! Flirting can be anything from changing your tone a little all the way to subtle touches and small smiles. It's really how you want to flirt. For me, I flash a smile here and there and make eye contact. You'll know if he responds because he'll be smiling too, he'll be doing all of the things that you are doing right back!
Hope I really like this guy at work and he kinda showed signs he likes me too but sometimes it confuses me because we ignore each other once in a while and sometimes we would smile at each other..and one time he was repeating what i'm saying , would compliment my shoes and this one incident he asked me too cook food for him like out of nowhere questions..i'm really confused coz i don't wanna give myself false hope unless he will initiate to ask my number next time...lolz
- Heather Hey Hope! It actually sounds like he is a little on the shy side. He has set you up perfectly though, why not just ask him if he wants to come over for you to cook for him? To me, it really sounds like he is too shy to ask you for his number, so why not ask him out first?
Anonymous Hi I really really like this guy, but he is a grade ahead of me. I am in 7th grade and he’s in 8th. School is about to end in 3 months and I have been trying to talk to him. I know a few of his friends but I don’t really know them well and they don’t know him well either. We have the same elective but he has it a class before me. I had a few methods for him to notice me and he knows that I exist. I tried to carry on a conversation by complimenting him but before I could day anything he just said “thanks” and walked away. Please help me! I just want to at least become friend and have his phone number and every thing. How could I talk go him! And I see him passing by in the hallways a lot btw. HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!
- Heather Hey Anon! I'd say that you are actually well on your way to being friends with him -- minus the walking away bit. Truthfully, I'd try to call him and strike up a conversation. Or what about texting? Maybe see if he wants to hang out with you and your friends? Try a group thing first and then see if you have some chemistry!
Anonymous I am in 7th grade, and I like the school nerd. I'm not popular, but im part of that circle. We talk all the time, but I dont know what to do when he gets into things like my dreams, and stuff like that.... Please give me some advice!
- Heather Hey Anon! I'd definitely say that maybe you should talk to him about your relationship or at least building one. Maybe ask him out on a date. It seems like you are pretty comfortable with talking to him, maybe casually see if he wants to go out for dinner or something. It could be just the tap he needs to know that you are into him!
Mari what are good things to say to a cute guy you randomly see. BTW: i dont know him, but i know he plays guitar
- Heather Hey Mari! I would avoid saying that standard 'you're cute' or 'you're hot' because I'm sure that every girl gets that. Why not compliment him on his guitar? Or maybe find out what music he's into? Find some common ground and then see if you connect that way. Act calm, cool and confident!
Paul Hi. My friend is prob in love w/ this guy. 1 prob, her other group of friends leader likes him 2. She never really thinks anyone will like her. I tell her she's wrong, but she never listens. How to I get this guy to like her, and bost her confidence?????? Paul
- Heather Hey Paul! You really are a sweetheart! Honestly, you can't control will-power and if the guy just isn't into your friend, it isn't going to happen. However, do you know that the guy doesn't like your friend like that? Do you know that he likes the other girl? I'd concentrate on that first!
- Leigh Aw, that's really sweet of you :) You can't really make him like her though :P You sound like an awsome friend though BTW :D
lydia please can someone help me- i really like this boy who is in some of my classes and his older brother is really hot and he knows this . i tell everybody who i fancy, i never care so i think he knows i like him along with his brother. i always look at him in my lessons and in maths he looks at me but never stares, he is so hot. im confident and act like i dont care if boys tell me to go away but really i do and i really just want to go up to him and go hey lovely how are you but it will make him think WTF and scare him away. i never know what to say when to say. i really want to do really subtle flirting and not just randomly go up to him. sometimes and i call his name and waves and he waves back and when i do talk to, i talk about his brother because thats the only thing i talk about. can someone help me out please
- Heather Hey Lydia! So, just to be clear, you like him and his brother? That might be a problem for the guy that you are trying to get with. If you are constantly talking about his brother, he might think that you just like his brother and that's why he is backing off. Maybe find out some more information about him. If you have that much confidence (which is rare, let me tell you!), I'd chat him up a bit and find some connection with the guy you really like, not his brother. :)
- sofii a guy likes a girl to shine and smile to him...so you will have to show a change in youre hair and maybe clothes (if possible) and makeshure to make eye contact and smile.. guys fall in love with a girl if they smile a lot when their together and giggle and laught at their jokes... so makeshure he sees youre beauty and smile...if you see him smile back maybe a few days later pass a note that says simply "hi"
Anonymous Im in 7th grade and i just broke up with my BF and i still like him what should I do?
- Harley @Anonymous, question is what kind of like are you talking about, the kind off like, you want to get back together, or you still you like him and just want to be friends, you broke up with him, thers has to be a reason why, if you still like him in that kindoff way, you should talk to him and find out what he thinks, if you just want to be friends tell him and take it from there.
- Heather Hi Anon! Breaking up is really, really hard, but let me ask you, do you think that he wants to be friends with you? Are you close like that? You can always express that you want to be friends first, but then again, it could hurt him more. Ask him if he can be friends with you, if you can get passed this and see what happens.
- sofii tell him you want to be friends, and then tell him that you need to talk. then express him how you feel and that you regret leaving him that you were confused, and he is still very special to you.
Raven So,, I'm a freshman in high school and this guy and I have been good friends since like, 7th grade! I absolutely love this kid to death (as a friend) he is like, the perfect guy. he is so sweet and funny and romantic and he truly deserves the best. well, me and this guy were in a relationship about 3 months ago but it didn't last long because I am an artist and he is a football player and our lives just got in the way and we promised we would try it out again later. well, IT'T LATER! haha and our feelings are coming back. and even though i have known him for YEARS and i know this kid inside and out, i still get very shy around him and i always seem to find a way to embarrass myself around him and i can never figure out the right thing to say. anyway, my question is: What are some 'witty' things to say to him?
- Heather Hey Raven! Thanks for the comment! Honestly, if you've known the kid forever, then he would probably know that you're faking it if you try to be anything but yourself. I agree though, maybe you should just be honest with him and see what happens. Maybe he likes you that way too but isn't ready to admit it!
- Anoymous I Would tell him how u feel and see what happens
- Anonymous i would just tell him how u really feel and im sure he will understand. but try to just be yourself and dont be shy because theres really no reason to be that way! if he is a good guy than he will like u for u truley are! just be chill !!!!
Anonymous hi, im in 7th grade and i have a crush on this boy. im kinda shy and i never really talked to him but he flirted with me a little bit last year and one time when i was around him he seamed kind of nervous.i really dont know what to do and i thought about going to talk to him but him but im so shy about doing that but at the same time i really really like him. he is also sort of outgoing and popular and i dont know if he will just laugh at me or think im wired. please help me.
- Kendall I think you should try and have a little convo. with him. Ask him for his number if you don't already have it. Or if you know someone who does have it get it from them. Then I would say text him a few times. Let him get to know you.
- anonymous talk to him become his friend then make a move i have known a guy for two years and we hang out almost every day and i am almost ready to make a move but be careful if you think he does not like you it could end badly but say don't let this affect our friendship but then say it it will be a lot off your shoulders
- sofii be his friend, aproach him and say hi, tell him youre name, and that you've seen him arround somewere before...maybe you know his sister or brother so be like i know youre (brother sister or w.e) or i saw you with youre dad at this place the other day was it you??. start a conversation...say that you would like to hangout. maybe with his friends too..or aproach a good friend of his first to get to him, or maybe tell youre girl friend to tell his best friend that you think he's cute...you are young so i have no idea how rude kids in youre school could be, mine were rude.
- Heather Hello Anon! Thanks so much for the comment! I'd say, flaunt your confidence and approach him! It might be really hard in the beginning, but I promise that it'll get easier. :)
Anonymous Alicia--I suggest you NOT text him every hour! Wait a few days, and wait for him to text YOU. Then see what happens.
alicia i just got this guys number who i really really really really like and ive texted him and he has texted back today he even texted me first, i guess my question is, is how often should i text him like should i text him every hour or every couple days, i want him to still like me but at the same time i dont want him to think i'm annoying plz plz tell me what to do
- sofii txt him normal bby girl. dont worry about the fone, worry more about youre life like he's just like any other chore you have to do. when he txtes you...you could probably wait 1 minute and txt back...and if he is bussy, make shure to give him extra time to do what he has to do, eventually he should be the1 to txt you as soon as he's done if he is interested, he has nothing to loose :) ...(if you just met him)
- Heather Hey Alicia! Thanks for the comment! I'd definitely say, don't abuse his number. Text him every couple days or if he is texting you a lot during the day, answer it, but make him wait for it. Definitely don't do it every single hour, that might get annoying. :) I hope that helps!