17 Dating "Red Flags" That Aren't Always a Bad Thing ...

You've heard all about the different red flags to look out for when dating. However, some of them aren't exactly accurate. It all depends on the situation at hand. Here are a few red flags that aren't always a bad thing:

1 Your First Kiss Wasn’t Amazing

Your First Kiss Wasn’t Amazing The majority of the time, first kisses are awkward. You can't expect to feel a life changing spark right away. Sometimes, the second kiss will be way better than the first. You just have to stick around to find out.

2 He’s a Player

He’s a Player Some players will eventually settle down. If your man really likes you, then you might be able to get him to commit.

3 He Cheated in the past

He Cheated in the past Just because he cheated on his ex, it doesn't mean he's going to cheat on you. Ask him about the situation before you automatically dump him.

4 It Takes Him Forever to Respond to Texts

It Takes Him Forever to Respond to Texts Some people are genuinely busy. If he works long hours, then it's not his fault for ignoring your texts.

5 Your Friends Don’t like Him

Your Friends Don’t like Him Your friends don't know your boyfriend like you do, so they don't have a clue what they're talking about. Don't listen to their opinion. Listen to your heart.

6 He's Secretive

In the beginning stages of a relationship, it's normal to hold back. If he's secretive at first, it's not that big of a deal.

7 He's Never Had a Girlfriend before

He's Never Had a Girlfriend before If you're his first girlfriend, don't judge him. It's actually a compliment that he's choosing to date you when he's never dated in the past.

8 He's Overly Jealous

He's Overly Jealous It's normal to get jealous. As long as he doesn't physically or mentally abuse you when he's angry, then his jealousy might not be the worst thing in the world.

9 He Wants to Move Quickly

He Wants to Move Quickly Men love sex. It's as simple as that. Just because he's trying to sleep with you, it doesn't mean he's trying to use you for sex.

10 He Doesn' T like Your Friends

He Doesn' T like Your Friends Your friends won't always like your man, and your man won't always like your friends. It's unfortunate, but it happens.

11 He Doesn't Have Much Time for You

clock, black and white, watch, home accessories, decor, If he's too busy to spend time with you, you have to ask yourself if you're okay with his busy schedule. If you are, then there isn't a problem.

12 You Have a Gut Feeling

You Have a Gut Feeling Your gut isn't always right. Don't cut a guy out of your life, just because you have a feeling that he'll break your heart.

13 He's Rude to Waiters

He's Rude to Waiters No, he shouldn't be rude to anyone. However, if the waiter gets his order wrong and is being rude to him, it's not a crime for him to be rude back.

14 He Sends Too Many Texts at Once

person, screenshot, hand, finger, HIT-, Don't fault him for double texting you. It just means he really wants to hear from you.

15 He Badmouths All of His Exes

He Badmouths All of His Exes Maybe his exes were actually all horrible. You never know.

16 He Has a Bad Relationshp with His Family

He Has a Bad Relationshp with His Family Some people aren't close with their parents. It's not his fault if he was born into a destructive family.

17 You Two Don't Have the Same Life Goals

You Two Don't Have the Same Life Goals Even though you don't think you want the same things in the future, that could change. If you're still young, you could give it some time before you break up with him over your differing opinions on kids.

You have to really think about your situation before deciding whether or not the red flags you find are worth leaving your boyfriend. Have you ever dated a guy, even though you noticed these red flags early on?

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Mshellet "You have a gut feeling"?
Mshellet How do you feeling about #12?
Monicagarcia2099 I believe that a woman has her own decisions. The author of this article might think this aren't red flags in a relationship then it is her perspective in raising some type of awareness. I disagree with majority of situations listed, but it isn't right to label certain "girls" to not do this. An advice counts in addressing a similar experience, yet the only one that decides whether it is right or wrong is the individual who reads this at their own mentality. Your friends don't have to agree with your relationship or be involve in it. A relationship is for two and if a friend wants the best then she/ he won't intervene with your love.
Monica This is a terrible article. Would give a vulnerable woman false hope. A guy never changes for a woman. If was a cheater before he will continue. Will just get better at keeping secrets/playing the game so he won't get caught.
Monica Who came up with this?...a cheater NEVER changes....
Mary Second: if you're friends don't like him, then don't waste your time. Poorly written article. Definitely written by someone desperate and who is making excuses for their terrible boyfriend.
Mai I agree because jus like a drug addict can go rehab an quit drugs a player can change people do change
Mai This article is amazing and to the point because I've experience all the things u mentioned in here and my rship is working !!xx
Lala My guy has all of those 17 red flags I had hope until I read the post above 👆🏽🙍🏻now I'm confused
Emmarachelmay Worst advice EVER!! Don't follow this post girls! If a guy cheats or is a player, doesn't mean he will change just for you! And if he's overly jealous that's because of his own insecurities and is not normal!!
Ady I don't like this post, you can't always expect that he can change , you need to see another things too
Blah I think the point the author is trying to make is no one will be perfect. Granted if your boy has all of these traits you may need to be worried but each on their own aren't necessarily a deal breaker. Life isn't always a fairytale...
Manda Wow this is the worst advice and article ever!! I hope people reading this are intelligent enough to see through this bs!! These are HUGE red flags!!! This article should be taken down asap
Louise I agree with some a not with others! My guy was a player and cheated on ex's before but he is very different with me! Even his friends have noticed a huge difference, in a good way.
jennabenna I feel like everything on that list is just more excuses that try to rationalize your decision to stay with a boy you know isn't good for you
Allyfedor Some of these are true but tbh most aren't
Jennette The only one I agree with is number one. My first kiss with my husband wasn't great, but it just got better and better! The rest of the list should've been titled Red Flags You Should Watch Out For When Dating!
Heidi No!! These are sketchy 😒
Lyric Terrible advice
Dinadou Cheating ?! Seriously ??! It's a big NO and badmouthing exes also
Me12 This article made me smile
Bayside The cheating one? My mother always used to say "How you got him, is how you'll lose him" Translation? If you were the one on the side, he'll cheat on you also.
Godzilla Absolutely awful advice to follow.
peony So far as we are aware that people can change then that can only be a good thing!
BrittanyBAKER When my husband and I first started dating, the first kiss was not good lol. So don't judge based on that! Also, a man with a busy work life is a lot better than a man who does not/will not work at all! :)
alka Agree with all but number 12.
Uzo I agree with a lot of these for someone who had a difficult child hood my gut feeling(in the past doe) always seemed to spell doom which rarely happened. I'm such a flirt yet I can't cheat when m in a relationship. Sometimes I don't kn what to write(even for one who could text forever) so I may not reply immediately. I once met a guy who @ first meeting couldn't almost control himself it was so hard for me to get away but d second time I wasn't so lucky n yet he stayed with me for so long and guess what I ended it n it hurt him so bad and guess what I'm a woman now imagine guys so I agree u can't always b sure...yes even a player will decided to settle one day like my best friends boyfriend who seemed to hv slept with half out city and yet she's d happiest married woman ever. Keep an open mind even doe U shd run if he possess all listed here
Jelena What he exhibits more than half of this list? I'd be concerned :/
Sarah Yikes..God spare the gullible girl who listens to this article.
Carm This article is so wrong. Do the opposite of everything the article is telling u. In addition, always listen to your gut.