13 Effective Ways to Help You Get over Your Crush ...

By Heather

13 Effective Ways to Help You Get over Your Crush ...

Learning all of the ways to get over your crush isn't easy, nor is it timely. If you're having trouble getting over your crush, don't think that you are alone, girls. There are many times that getting over your crush can feel horrible and can make you regret ever liking someone. Just because your crush doesn't see you as girlfriend material doesn't mean that he doesn't see you as a friend. Below, I've got all of the ways to get past your crush that makes the pain easier to handle.

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1

Realization

face,facial expression,nose,man,head, The hardest part about getting over your crush is realizing that he doesn't like you the same way that you like him. The realization might be the first step, but it's the hardest step to take. While you may like the guy, while you may even love him, if he doesn't feel the same, you can't force it – no matter how much you try to.

2

Admit That You Have a Crush

person,HAVE,CRUSH,HIM, Once you've come to the realization that he might not have the same feelings you have for him, you've got to admit that you have a crush. I know it can be hard girls, but even if you just stand in front of your mirror and admit to yourself that you have a crush, you'd be amazed how much that makes a difference and how it is almost like extracting the poison. Give it a try.

3

Accept the Situation

hair,woman,beauty,photography,darkness, You've admitted that you have a crush and even though it's far from the ideal situation, try to make steps towards accepting the situation. Try not to be stubborn about it or be in denial of what's really going on. Perhaps the two of you aren't as compatible as you first thought. You might even find later on that it was a good thing that your crush never turned into more.

4

Don't Take It Personal

hair,face,photograph,nose,person, Just because he doesn't have feelings for you, it is not something that you can take personal. Learning to get over your crush might not be easy, but it isn't a personal indictment. A guy can't control his feelings just like you can't control your feelings. Imagine if a guy likes you, but you have absolutely no feelings for him – don't take it personally.

5

Be Honest with Yourself

hair,blond,muscle,just,wanna, Getting over your crush is never easy, but you have to be honest with yourself. You've got to be upfront with yourself about your feelings and how you are affected by your crush not returning your them. Once you are honest with yourself about how hurt you are, it's easier to process and easier to heal.

Famous Quotes

To give oneself earnestly to the duties due to men, and, while respecting spiritual beings, to keep aloof from them, may be called wisdom.

Confucius
6

Don't Dwell on It

Honestly,,et's,just,drop,it., Do you have a support group that you can go to? Do you have a best friend that you can talk to? Do you have someone that you can turn to that will keep you from dwelling on the fact that you'll never 'get' your crush? That needs to be a focus, girls; you don't want to dwell on something that will never happen and this is a necessary tip on getting over your crush.

7

Don't Be Angry

facial expression,face,black,white,black and white, Why are you angry? Because he doesn't think of you the same way? That isn't a reason, girls, While it might be hard to admit that, you've got to make sure that your emotions stay stable and calm. You don't want to be angry or mad at your crush just because he doesn't return the feelings that you have. After all, you can't control who you like!

8

Reflect

singing,mouth,blond,stage,nightclub, When you are trying to get over your crush, why not take the time to reflect? Did you act differently around him? Did you scare him off? Was there something that you did? You want to reflect on everything and all of the interaction that you've had – just for a little while, don't dwell for days and days, but just reflect.

9

Avoid Thinking about Him

human action,face,hair,person,blond, One of the best ways to get over your crush is to stop thinking about it. I know it might be hard, but when you are thinking about him, you've got to dwell on something else. Avoid thinking about him at all costs. Pick up a hobby that you've never done before, talk to your friends, get into a support group with your family. Keep yourself busy and you'll be able to get over your crush more quickly.

10

Don't Keep Hoping

face,hair,person,image,woman, Finally girls, the last way to get over your crush that we're going to discuss is not to keep hoping. He might never, ever change his feelings and you've got to be prepared for that. Just let your hope go and you'll feel a lot better over time.

11

Keep Your Distance

hair,person,clothing,image,black hair, It's also a good idea to keep your distance and avoid contact while you're trying to get over your crush. You might not be able to completely avoid seeing or running into your crush if you're friends, work at the same place or go to the same school. But, you can try to make yourself less available and focus on yourself. If he/she doesn't understand, explain that you need some time on your own right now.

12

Seek Support

human action,hair,person,photograph,image, One of the best ways to try and get over any difficult situation is to seek support. Do you have a friend who has gone through a similar situation and you want her advice? Or maybe you just need someone to listen. Either way, talk to your friends and family members. They can help you sort through your feelings and even offer some sound advice.

13

Give Yourself Time

hair,face,black and white,hairstyle,brown hair, Getting over a crush isn't easy and no one, including yourself, shouldn't expect you to get over it quickly. Give yourself time to be sad. Everyone deals with difficult situations differently and it might take you more time than your friends to get over it. While you don't want to dwell on the situation for a prolonged period of time, don't expect yourself to be "back to normal" too quickly.

While I know that getting over your crush can be difficult, you've got to remember that there is someone out there that will appreciate you. Someone that will love you. So girls, what other ways to get over your crush do you have to share? What has worked for you?

This article was written in collaboration with editor Lisa Washington

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What if he likes you back but he won't ask you out? How do you just "get over" that?

So I developed a sort of friendship with a neighbor man who is currently in a relationship with a man. He claims they are engaged. Anyway, we had a thing. The chemistry was there. He and I could talk and talk for hours when we were together chatting. He really got under my skin. My hearty skipped a beat every time I was next to him outside or in public. Don't understand how this man did that to me. I just can't seem to let it go or him. He is so cute, and attractive. A year ago he kissed me on my birthday on the lips at my party. After that it all stopped. No texts, or calls, or us hanging out chatting. I also did something awful. We got into a confrontation one day and that is when it all ended. It still hurts. I am having a really hard time. I think he felt something to about me but doesn't want to acknowledge it to himself. I will never get over him. I have to live next door now for the rest of my life trying to avoid him.

I gotta say even though this article is awesome, I just can't seem to get over my crush. What sucks even worse is that he knows I like him (as told by my friend) but he doesn't show any signs on liking me. I tried to avoid him, but it gets hard since he is in the same classroom as me sitting two desks away. I really like him a lot but I feel that I am not worthy enough. I don't know what to do. I can't get over him

So, there is this guy at my college that have been looking at me for like, 4 semester now. I think he's really handsome, and i like him. The problem is i'm really shy and not all the confident in myself. Given that i still stepped out of my comfort zone and introduce myself in a comment of a photo i found of him on Instagram. It's been four days now and he has not respond nor acknowledge my comment. Should i take this as his way of saying he is not interested or wait? I don't know what to do or feel. #suggestion also i send this already but i was not sure it went through, sorry.

Hi! I wonder if you can help me. So, i like this guy and we started texting and he said that he wants to "hook up". (I'm in 8th grade). I said sure, so we made plans to hang out. He had a baseball game so we couldn't. So we were texting again and he asked me to send him a pic with no shirt on. I said no. He said ok, but then he kept asking. I still said no. Then, he just said ok whatever bye. I thought he really liked me and i feel he only wanted me for that..

I also had a spontaneous moment. I met a nephew of a friend of the family at a halloween party and we really hit it off. We danced all night, he kissed me on the dance floor after the final song (he requested for us to slow dance to) and I took him to his brothers afterwards. We had a heavy makeout session in my car for an hour and then said our good byes. He got my number at the party and called me to make sure I had his. I didnt hear from him the next day but then he texted me on a Monday (2 days later) while he was at work (he is a server). Our conversations were very short and he wasnt very responsive or kept it going. He then sent me a follow up text (last week) and apologized that he has been very busy with work (working double shifts) and plays softball and that he "never meant to ignore me" and "didnt want me to think I have done anything wrong". I havent heard from him since then... I am so confused and can't stop thinking about him.

One last tip.... Just delete him from your life because as long as he is around you most of time it gonna get harder to move on :)

Id love to get over this guy 5 years being in love with someone who doesn't feel the same about you is too long!

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